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So I started school in January D:
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I started school in January because the asshole principal decided to let an inbred piece of shit with anger management and drug problems in as opposed to me.
I actually thought I would enroll the year after, because of obvious reasons of missing more than two months of school.
Predictably, my grades are failing, I am stressed out, have no friends, those fucking morons are making fun of me "behind my back", ie right next to me, as loud as possible, I am unable to hear the teachers due to oversensitive hearing, my parents have to spend thousands of dollars to get me tutored in Algebra 1 because I missed the beginning of the year review, and the school hates homeschool, now the tutoring service is attempting to blackmail us because we ended a previous math-for-credit session before the final exam, my parents are in total denial of the amount of shit I am in, none of my teachers were willing in any capacity to help me, I am only passing New Mexico History, I am undoubtedly going to be shoved in with the behaviour mod classes again(five fucking years of being next to crackheads, violent inbreds, racists, and emos, and not getting taught a single thing the entire yearD:), frankly, its as if two years of homeschool ended up with me worse off than if I had stayed in behaviour mod, being given the newest ritalin replacement that turns out to have the exact same effect, but with but with more deletorious effect, at least there I didnt get my hopes up.
And there is no amount of work in the world that can help me, the English reports all have the same extremely vague goals, with no template or starting point for any of them other than the grading rubric, the teachers actively hate me due to my inability to do the math work, and thus my "boycott" of work I was not getting any help with, and never learned how to do, and was being graded on handwriting(I have no fine motor control whatsoever) the insults have increased sevenfold, the Science teacher is retarded, having not graded a single thing the entire month, and my mother, was informed, behind my back, that I was failing all but one of my classes, including the electives
, I was not even told the number scores.
Is there any way for me to fix any of my problems?
I actually thought I would enroll the year after, because of obvious reasons of missing more than two months of school.
Predictably, my grades are failing, I am stressed out, have no friends, those fucking morons are making fun of me "behind my back", ie right next to me, as loud as possible, I am unable to hear the teachers due to oversensitive hearing, my parents have to spend thousands of dollars to get me tutored in Algebra 1 because I missed the beginning of the year review, and the school hates homeschool, now the tutoring service is attempting to blackmail us because we ended a previous math-for-credit session before the final exam, my parents are in total denial of the amount of shit I am in, none of my teachers were willing in any capacity to help me, I am only passing New Mexico History, I am undoubtedly going to be shoved in with the behaviour mod classes again(five fucking years of being next to crackheads, violent inbreds, racists, and emos, and not getting taught a single thing the entire yearD:), frankly, its as if two years of homeschool ended up with me worse off than if I had stayed in behaviour mod, being given the newest ritalin replacement that turns out to have the exact same effect, but with but with more deletorious effect, at least there I didnt get my hopes up.
And there is no amount of work in the world that can help me, the English reports all have the same extremely vague goals, with no template or starting point for any of them other than the grading rubric, the teachers actively hate me due to my inability to do the math work, and thus my "boycott" of work I was not getting any help with, and never learned how to do, and was being graded on handwriting(I have no fine motor control whatsoever) the insults have increased sevenfold, the Science teacher is retarded, having not graded a single thing the entire month, and my mother, was informed, behind my back, that I was failing all but one of my classes, including the electives
, I was not even told the number scores.Is there any way for me to fix any of my problems?
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We are not always in control of what happens to us, but we can control our reaction. Along the same lines, we choose whether we let fate victimize us or not.
More realistically, your teachers may or may not "hate" you because you boycott work you don't understand - I know as a teacher that I'm less inclined to want to be helpful to students who don't want to help themselves because I only have so much time in the day to offer individualized attention. Teachers are people too, some are genuinely great people, some are very ugly and unpleasant, and some do their best but have probably chosen the wrong profession. Your best option is to talk to any teachers who you feel would best listen, and get your parents involved (if they can). Explain your situation, including that you are constantly distracted and that you are having trouble catching up from where you were started. Math is almost unanimously difficult, so many teachers and schools are prepared to offer a little extra help; do your best to ask the teacher or see if their is a tutoring program at your school. If, after talking to teachers and your parents (perhaps even together in a meeting), you're still being brushed aside, then you may have to escalate and talk to school administration, or honestly consider a different school
Insults and bullying, unfortunately, are a pretty common feature of being a student at a public school, and many adults working at school recognize them as so commonplace that they become trivialized in their mind, which - when combined with the fact that adults typically don't insult each other directly and are not likely to see an insult from an inferior (in this case anyone significantly younger than them) as threatening - means that it is tough to address. It's a systemic problem with American youth, and I really have no idea what to do about it, other than saying that very many people go through it and that it will end eventually. Doesn't help at all while you're going through it, I know.
These problems are YOUR problems, stop trying to blame them on other people. Calling your principal and asshole and calling everyone inbred hicks isn't getting you anywhere. Attack one problem at a time.
Get off the internet, study. Quit being so negative about your projects. Just because you don't like your assignments, doesn't give you an excuse NOT to do them. Figure out what the objective is. In my experience, assignments are given for a reason, I'm sure theres a reason you are doing it, even if you don't think there is.
Otherwise, talk to your parents and figure something out.
The world ISN'T against you, kids are assholes sometimes, there really isn't much that can be done that won't make it worse. Unless a teacher or adult sees this harassment happen, nothing is going to be done. You can tell on them, but that usually just makes it worse.
I know that there's a chance that your post came out the way it did just because you were venting, but I got the impression that you have the attitude that nothing's your fault. That 'me against them' attitude will get you in just as much trouble as teachers that don't care, ass hole principals, and inbred hicks.
Yeah, pretty much. Unless youre telling everyone theyre a bunch of losers and inbred hicks to their face, i really doubt anyone actually hates you, it just seems you probably havent made the effort to actually meet anyone or talk to anyone, because you hated them before you got there.
Seriously, theres probably upwards of 1000 other people at this school, and most of them are doing just peachy keen.
It actually sounds to me like you have it pretty well off despite your shit attitude to everything around you. Youre failing classes so your parents spend money to get you extra help. Most peoples parents would just say "Work harder" and leave it at that. So atleast theyre taking an interest in your education. Same thing goes with the teacher informing your parents "behind your back" about you failing. Im going to guess youre under the age of majority, so thats well within their rights. They probably also notice your shit attitude and just wanted to make sure youre not going to kill yourself or something stupid.
So heres my advice. Stop bitching about how everyones out to get you. Theyre not. Theyll offer help if they feel you actually want it. Why would a teacher go out of their way to assist you if youve got a fucking awful attitude, when theyve probably already got a long line of dumb-but-willing kids who actually do want the help?
Second, ignore the people who make fun of you. When i was in school i had a lot of friends, i could hang out with any sort of crowd, and guess what? I STILL got made fun of by people who were dicks. It happens to EVERYBODY. Youre not special and i can damn well garuntee theyre not singling you out. Even if youre dressing like an asshole, or have blue hair, or whatever, and trying to get a rise out of people, there are OTHER people at your highschool who are doing the same thing, and theyd probably want to hang out with you if you werent such a dick. Hell theres probably some kid on the football team who could be your friend, or one of the stoners, or whatever, if only you werent coming off as horribly abbrasive. Attitude goes a long way in meeting new people, and yours, again, is shit.
Lastly, do the fucking work or dont complain about failing. Youre protesting the fact that theres no clear outline for an ENGLISH paper? Let me give you a reality news flash: In the real world, you wont always have a perfectly understandable outline of what needs to be done. Life doesnt work like that. Youre going to have to make decisions for yourself, and follow instructions as well as you can, and most importantly, ASK QUESTIONS if anything doesnt make any sense. So youre not sure what to write your paper on, brilliant idea here, maybe ask the teacher? Theyre going to be the ones who know what theyre expecting to get back, so if you feel the assignment is worded poorly or you just dont understand whats being asked of you, ASK THEM. This is really good preparation for real life, because when you have a job, and youre asked to do something, you cant just not do it because you didnt understand what was asked. That will get you fired.
Basically, in summary, stop being a martyr. You might actually get somewhere in life.
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(we are not allowed to take the books home and do work in advance, so I have to deal with shouting retards who give me migraines due to my CAPD, and attempt to learn whatever the fuck it is that the current lesson is, over these morons who I hear from the other side of the class, over the teacher, when I am right next to him.)
The only class where I can hear the teacher, is of course, the easiest one, which I have taken from third grade to now every year, is New Mexico History, the English teacher may or may not be running off of a particular book or just pulling it out of her ass, I havent been given any of the books that the rest of the class has, I have had no accomadation for handwriting, and feel that that contributes(seriously, this state thought that I was retarded because of my poor handwriting, not taking into account that I was tutoring fifth grade reading in first, and reading at college level, Math has either been tedious or I miss something significant and
The "Freshman Academy" is designed to contain the addicts who are only there because they think they're going to work oilfield when they turn eighteen but have the pesky problem of people making sure that they actually go to school, is pretty much filled with douchebags, and of course, I got dumped down a grade, and now have to share a building with a literally inbred douchebag, whose face is literally falling off
My entire plan, academically, from the first grade(we are really only here because of mom's health, and the fact that we can live comfortably on her fixed income here), is to get out of this hellhole, It has been, from the start, my goal to get back to Princeton(I lived in Monroe Township), go to Peddy on a scholarship, then automatically go to Princeton, I am not some douchebag blaming everyone else for his problems, I am a has-been honor student/ladies man/teachers pet/six-year old who had an M.I.T. professor backing him up, who has no idea what the fuck just happened, why he cant take the books home to actually study, and why he's gone from the guy who got the "cool kids" their pity-dates(before you ask, I do deeply regret doing this for them), to a total loser.
What school teaches new mexico history every year from 3rd grade through high school?
I honestly gave you the benefit of the doubt with your first post, thinking you were venting. But you took the advice of everyone that posted, all pretty much saying to try to fix your attitude, and you just decided to to ignore it and continue to go on a rant of how everyone else sucks compare to you. If the way you write on here is actually how you act, then you deserve everything that you got coming to you.
Okay, so they don't let people take the books home. You obviously have internet, if you needed to study you could do it through that. You're not the only one that can't take them home right? Somehow others manage, what makes them different? Stay after school and study, talk to your teachers(try not to insult them if you can) and explain to them that you work best with the book. Maybe photocopy the chapters as you go by?
There's always options. They might not be easy, but they're there.
I actually worked at work on Saturday. Also I went out on a date with a real life girl.
Can you like, permanently break the forums?
I'm guessing if you're on medication, then you're in therapy as well? If so, that can help deal with some of your anger and bitterness toward the system you're in right now. Calling people names does nothing but make you come off as juvenile, and not make people particularly interested in helping you.
Can I ask what you're on Ritalin for?
This not only belongs in this thread, but about 80% of the other HA threads on any given day.
Yes... my point was more towards the question what school anywhere teaches such a regionally specific history class EVERY YEAR for like 6 years... they should be more general history classes, and every year shouldn't be repeating the same material. In any case, not really on topic to the point anyway I suppose.
So you're saying you were denied enrollment in the school? Are you saying that this school had only one 'slot open' and you didn't get it? Unlikely.
What makes this predictable? Is it predictable because you're not working hard, or is it predictable because you started late? If you could predict that you were going to fail these classes, why didn't you sign up for different classes?
Perhaps you would have more friends if you didn't believe everyone was a, to use your words, 'fucking moron.'
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Who have you told about this? You need to get a medical special ed. sheet for an actual medical condition. These are legal documents (although they vary by state) that require teachers to make accommodations for people with medical conditions. Teachers can get in serious trouble for not following them. Go see the board of education office about them.
I would be very surprised if your teachers are unwilling to help you if you are indeed a hard working, attentive, and well-mannered student. However, if you show up to class with the attitude you show in this post....
Did you approach them for help before you boycotted work, or did you boycott work and then expect the teacher to get you caught up?
Again, medical problem. If it is indeed a verifiable medical problem, then you need to have an accomodation based on it.
Your mom was informed because she had a right to be informed. It was not done "behind your back", it was done exactly how it should be done. In the place I teach, parents can access their students grade "behind their back" via internet any time they want. Unfortunately, most of the parents that check their student's grades are exactly the parents who don't really need to.
Yes, fix your attitude, get ready to do a lot of work, be a kind, attentive student, treat the people around you how you would like to be treated, do every bit of work that is assigned to you, never miss a day of school, use the money that your parents are spending on tutoring to go ahead and purchase a copy of the textbooks you need if you can't take them home, and be proactive. In the real world, you have to work to fix your problems. It is not your teachers' job to force you to work.
"ADHD"
I was assigned Stratera by a mixed grades teacher in the worst school in town.
2. Your teacher "assigned" you a prescription drug?
Thanks for calling us douchebags.
Yes, essentially she went behind the back of my pediatricians, (I was deaf until age 3, docs like that sort of "sucess story"), my counsellor for Jason Project, and declared that I needed tmedication, my mother, having experienced this trap before had no choice, then I begin bleeding in my stomach, and had all sort of godawful side effects, my balance was awful, the fluorescent lighting hurt my eyes, and I felt like a walking corpse.
Behaviour mod it was.D:
Who actually prescribed the medication?
Did they place your in a behavior modified class after the medication proved to be too disruptive, or while you were on the medication? Were any other meds tried?
It sounds like your mother, at least, really cares about your success here. Even if you see it as "going behind [your] back," at least she's making an effort, which is more than can be said of a great many parents. Why don't you recruit her to help you out? That is, ask her to be a middleman for some dialogue with teachers, administrators, etc. You mentioned a fixed income, so perhaps buying a textbook wouldn't be an option, but would any teachers let you stay after school a bit to study, or to give you some one-on-one time? And if you're not comfortable asking them, ask your mom to get in touch with them.
I know it seems like the administration is evil, and, well, they're only human so maybe they aren't the greatest people around. However, there's always more people on the staff and faculty that you can work with -- our principal, when I was in high school, really wasn't a terribly personable person. However, the Assistant Principal was a totally awesome guy. I hated some of my teachers, but some of them were fantastic. Do try and connect with some of these people!
It makes sense that you may not be able to take the books home; a lot of schools simply don't have the finances to purchase a book for every student. However, there are still successful students despite that.
I'm really curious, though, about them not getting in touch with you for two months (well, first of all, what happened to Sept/Oct? Wasn't last semester, like, four months?). If that's true, then the school sounds extremely shady, and should probably be looked into; school districts are usually really good about getting in touch with people! However, why weren't you being homeschooled for those months so that you wouldn't be so far behind? And if you were homeschooled, wouldn't you have the resources to help you catch up?
It seems that this is a DOCUMENTED medical issue. If you don't already, you need to get whatever the NM equivalent of California's "504" is and make sure they follow it. The school is legally required to meet with you and your parent/guardian to figure out what accomodations need to be made. Then they have to follow them. If they don't follow them? Lawsuit (assuming you're not a dick and actually give them fair warning that they're not living up to the agreement). If they don't let you meet in the first place to get one? Lawsuit. Trust me, they don't want that. If you get permission to bring books home and then are hassled by security who ignore your note? Lawsuit (again, try to complain to the school first out of good will).
And statistically every teacher there can't be that big of a dick - try to reason with someone and explain your problem. Vague directions? Don't wait until it's due and say "these directions suck that's why I didn't do the assignment." Make an appointment to see them after/before class and ask them to clarify stuff or show you an example. Rubrics help but even those can be really confusing - they might be too busy to hold your hand every step of the way, but it's a REALLY crappy teacher who won't, if asked, take a look at your work in progress and give you some indication as to whether you're on the right track.
Ignore idiot students. I had a REALLY tough time in junior high. The only thing I learned in my time there was how to fight kids who were much bigger than me and/or that ganged up on me. I can actually understand how somebody can get pushed so far that they do some of that horrible stuff that makes the news. I'm glad there were people who told me that everything gets better. I didn't always believe it but I repeated it in my head anyway, and it helped. There can also be a big difference between complaining about other kids' behavior during class (Make so-and-so stop distracting me!) and coming to the teacher outside of class and asking to be moved because of another student or letting them know what's going on. They can do a lot more when they don't have to stop everything they're doing during class and don't have to worry about encouraging other students to come up with frivolous problems to interrupt lessons.
As far as English classes go, you seem to write better than some of my old clients who were paid too much JUST to write news releases, let alone high school students. If you have trouble explaining your concerns in person to a teacher or offical, try writing it down (it's especially helpful to write it down and look at it a few different times to make sure it's worded right and doesn't come off as hostile). Like anybody under 25, your frontal lobe isn't finished growing and adults tend to forget how hard it is to deal with frustration and delay gratification (like sticking to a study schedule), and that not all academic problems come from academic shortcomings. I was a bona-fide genius and still almost failed classes because I couldn't deal with my relationship with a stupid crazy girl. It helps to be and appear sincere in your desire to do better and not "take advantage" of any allowances that are made to help you out in the first place. Some teachers can get really bitter from being lied to by so many students in order to get less work that they might not take your problems and requests to fix them as seriously as they should. Being understanding goes a REALLY LONG WAY, too - there's a big difference between "I can't do this, you need to explain it better" and "Hey, I know you're busy and there's a ton of students, but I'm having a hard time with this. Is there any way I can get some help from you at a certain time?"
PS: If a teacher tells you that you need to be taking a certain medication, or even diagnoses you with something, they make the school responsible for paying for whatever medication or treatment you end up actually needing. They are NEVER supposed to do that (not that they should anyway, as they're not friggin' doctors). If there have been as many flagrant violations of the law as there seem to have been according to your posts, you seem to stand a pretty good chance of being able to retire on the massive amounts of money that should be awarded to you in a lawsuit. Get everything on record and in writing.
So...
I don't know how it works in crazytown, but only a physician can prescribe medication. Unless the teacher went to the pharmacy and heisted a bunch of pills at gunpoint and then forced you to take them, I don't think you're telling us the whole story.
this is pretty much it. if you can claim a need to bring books home due to an IEP, there really isn't anything they can do to prevent you from doing it, legally. the school's hands will be tied.
Listen man. Forgive me for not believing what you're telling us is the whole and complete truth. You claim to have been nice, but in like every other post you make in this thread you call the people that are trying to help you and give you good advise "douchebags" and "fuckwits."
All of your posts are literally dripping with Anger, so it comes as no surprise why people might not want to be completely accommodating to you.
Look man, the only common denominator in all of these situations is you. At some level the problem lies with you and how you are reacting to the world, and treating people in it. And the only thing that YOU can actively change is yourself. It might not be fun. It might not be easy. But in all honesty its the only factor that you have complete-100% control over. Trust me, once you start to exercise that control things will be a lot better for you.