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Brother has mental issue?
crisis54
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He's 18 years old. Ok, we both have separate rooms and have locks on our doors. Anyways, my mom comes and knocks on his door asking him for a stapler. He is not responding. We knock and knock, telling him that we're gonna come in. So we are able to open the locks from outside his room through this little hole, and when we enter, we don't see anybody. Then we see him come out from UNDER the mattress.
For beds we have this bed stand, which is four legs and this kinda hard mattress. Hard to describe. But it's meant to put another mattress ontop. He was sleeping between the hard mattress and the actual mattress. We have a lot of pillows and blankets, and the mattress is very comfortable. There is no physical reason from him not to sleep on it.
When we asked what he was doing, he said he didn't know. He said he knew that he was going underneath the mattress, but he didn't know why. He knew he was under there for about 10 minutes.
This is really scary for us. I mean, imagine somebody you know for 18 years, doing something as strange as this. We have absolutely no idea what to think.
Thanks guys.
For beds we have this bed stand, which is four legs and this kinda hard mattress. Hard to describe. But it's meant to put another mattress ontop. He was sleeping between the hard mattress and the actual mattress. We have a lot of pillows and blankets, and the mattress is very comfortable. There is no physical reason from him not to sleep on it.
When we asked what he was doing, he said he didn't know. He said he knew that he was going underneath the mattress, but he didn't know why. He knew he was under there for about 10 minutes.
This is really scary for us. I mean, imagine somebody you know for 18 years, doing something as strange as this. We have absolutely no idea what to think.
Thanks guys.
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"You were looking at me."
Riiiiiight. I'm sane. I went back to bed.
1. Some people don't like sleeping on beds.
2. He was jacking off.
Choose one.
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Maybe mental issues is a bit harsh, but honestly, seeing that shocked the hell out of us. I mean, someone perfectly normal, then you walk in and they are doing something completely weird. Like, I've never heard of it before. Maybe if he was sleeping on the floor, then maybe I could understand. But he got up, walked to his bed, lifted the entire mattress up, got underneath, and put it back down on him. And this isn't some sissy mattress. This is a big, spring bastard.
I guess lack of sleep could be an issue. Sometimes I hear him at 12 am still typing his homework on the computer and getting up at 6am. And this person is NOT a morning person. Hmm, ok, thanks guys.
Maybe he has bondage fantasies? He's 18 years old. It could be perfectly normal sexual experimentation.
I don't think you have anything to worry about unless he exhibits odd behaviour in other areas of his life.
It's a possibility. Pot does make you act crazy for very illogical reasons.
I'm just curious to know if you have smoked pot yourself as a basis for that argument. I'v only had one experience and I did some screwy things. I'm not trying to argue, I'm not an expert on the stuff myself, just curious about all this.
I think the whacking it explanation is fairly likely. Even if you and your parents would be ok with him saying he needs some private time, he may not realize that or simply be too embarrased to talk about it anyway. And if he wasn't whacking it there are plenty of other strange-but-not-crazy explanations for it.
People do strange things all the time without knowing why they do it, they just get the impulse to. It's just something your mind convinces you to do and you think it's a good idea at the time only later on you can't figure out just what you were thinking.
You don't need to be drunk or high to do something like that. I'm sure everyone of us here as at one point or another just done something and then later thought "why did I just do that?"
Seriously, one occassion like this is hardly an indicator of a mental illness.
I know I'm not the only one reading this thread who thinks that.
No matter what he was doing under there, it's gonna take something a lot stranger to concern me, and I think, OP, you should just sorta tag it under "weird" and not worry about it.
And a box spring is nice and firm, some people dig that... sort of like sleeping on the floor. So combine the two and there's a potential explanation
I doubt it's mental issues.
People do crazy shit. If he's consistently doing crazy shit and hurting himself or others, then you should be worried.
IMO.
its a 30% chance its drug related, 30% sleep related, 30% masturbation related, and 9.9999% he just felt like it. rule those out, then go treat him for mental illness.
maybe i'm streaming terrible dj right now if i am its here
I'd classify your brother's behavior as "experimenting with oddness".
This.
So yeah, I just assume that we all do some really odd/strange things when no one else is around. I talk to myself, sometimes in different voices. I'm sure I sound batshit insane when I do this, but is doesn't mean I am.
We all do strange stuff. Part of life and all that.
i was much younger, but i was curious.
does that make you feel better?
most of all, most of all
someone said true love was dead
but i'm bound to fall
bound to fall for you
oh what can i do
In any case, I'd write this off as funny/wacky rather than shocking/alarming. If you want to approach him about it, the best you can do is gently tease him in a "man what the fuck were you doing under the mattress" way and see what happens. For the love of God, don't start walking on eggshells around him and treating him like a mental case.
edit: In fact, if your parents keep being alarmed about this, maybe you should suggest to him that maybe he sleepwalked. That'll help him avoid further awkwardness and embarrasment, and give your parents some peace of mind as well.
Or 'batin.
Sounds like shrooms to me.
How do we know you don't have mental issues?
I do not have mental problems
chances are he just wanted to try it for the sake of trying it
if he does it AGAIN, then maybe there's something going on because it's not the most comfortable place ever
Witch.
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OP, is your family super religious? I feel really confused reading your post because I think a.) your brother must have shown signs of mental illness throughout his lifetime for you to reach this conclusion or b.) you must have a really exaggerated view of how actions correspond to mentalities. I just found your posts on the matter really odd.
People do things sometimes. End of story. If this is a one off, do not worry about it. Hell, even if he likes being under the mattress, not a big deal. It isn't normal, but one abnormal behavior does not equate to a mental illness. Seriously, just chill out. Is he exhibiting other abnormal behaviors? Is he harming himself or others? Is he withdrawing from family or friends (more than most 18 year olds)? Does he sometimes seem to see/hear/feel things no one else does? Does he exhibit unusually high stress behaviors and actions during normal day to day life?
I am not a trained professional, but I have experince with mental illness...and this isn't a mental illness unless there' s a whole lot you're not saying.