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On Tongue Rings and GF's
TheCrumblyCracker
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My girlfriend (whom I deeply adore) had her mind set on getting a tongue ring, until she met me. I personally don't see the attraction behind them. However, recently she has decided to bug me about it again and "let" her get one. I say let because I don't want to be commanding because I am NOT trying to control her, I just show my dissatisfaction towards it and she takes my feelings into account and doesn't get one.. but in a way I am because she still wants to get one. I am at a loss for what I can do.. any help would be appreciated.
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my girlfriend wants to get a lip piercing, right in the middle of her bottom lip. i am dead set against it...i've pretty much made it clear that its up to her what she gets pierced, but that i find it highly distasteful and not to be surprised if i then am unenthusiastic about kissing her.
To the OP, I would let her get one if she wanted to, just let her know that you don't like them, but it's up to her.
Yeah look, you're not forcing her hand here. She's still making the decision that she likes you more than a prospective hole in her mouth, its just that its enough of a close-run thing that she's hopeful you might change your mind. Don't be guilted into pretending you don't still have the same opinion. Just maybe stop her when she uses the phrase "let her". Don't let her put the decision on you like that, that's not fair.
The blood vessels in your tongue provide a short and nearly direct route to your heart, lending to a serious risk of bacterial infection in your heart due to tongue piercing.
Not really a gamble I'm willing to let someone I love risk, especially if its only for the sake of "looking cool".
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Ouch... that's not fun at all.
And ditto on the teeth problem post above. I had a friend in high school who (illegally) got her tongue pierced and ended up chipping the hell out of her teeth when she was sleeping (apparently).
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Yes, there are risks involved getting your tongue pierced. Your girlfriend should obviously research all of them before she decides whether it's something she wants. But it's also worth being realistic. J-walking has the potential to get me killed, but I do it every day for the sake of saving 30 seconds walking. The likelihood of simple piercings, when properly performed, leading to serious complications is so slim I would describe it as negligible.
Before I had my tongue pierced my dentist told me it would ruin my front teeth. I spoke to my piercer about it; he explained that the cause of tooth damage was poor placement. I never had a problem with mine, at all. I could stick it in between my teeth if I wanted to, but only if I tried. It never accidentally tapped against them.
Find a good piercer, in a hygienic place (obviously, for all piercings), understand the risks.
I've known people that have got their tongue pierced and within a week taken it out and said "screw this" because of the initial pain and healing period. Maybe she'll realize the pain and discomfort aren't worth it.
People say it's "like biting your tongue"... Yes and No. The piercing itself doesn't hurt >that< bad, but the resulting swelling and pain... OMG I almost wanted to take mine out the next day....but I'm probably a lil bit of a wuss about pain.
I've had my tongue pierced for about 8 years now, I've never chipped or cracked a tooth by biting the ball, which I have done only a few times, I have not damaged my teeth in any way....my dentist's only complaint is that I need to floss more >.>, I do not speak with a lisp (although she most likely will have to retrain herself how to say certain words or sounds clearly), I keep my barbells clean, I brush, floss (most of the time), and use an antiseptic mouthwash (like listerine) everyday.
I, personally, have had no problems with my piercing. Plus I've had it long enough that I can leave it out for extended periods of time and it doesn't close up, which is cool for my boyfriend, as he likes it when I surprise him by kissing him with it in.
Of course her (and your) results may vary.
I had a lip piercing on the bottom right for two years, and my teeth are just fine. I bit the ball twice in that amount of time, and believe me, it's not an easy thing to do. However, the amount of time it takes to heal makes it not worth it (3 months of pus and crusty yellow shit).
Just to reiterate, tongue piercings do not cause bacterial/infectious endocharditis in people who have healthy hearts.
People with heart murmurs, floppy valves, prosthetic valves, and heart problems related to atherosclerosis would be advised to stay away though, of course.
I've met several people who love to play with the ball and roll it around their mouth and stick it between their front teeth. What happened? Their two front teeth started to rot and yellow where the ball had been grinding down the enamel. Now they are hideous to look at.
It seems like an obvious result of the situation. But as you can see posts here of people having no issues after several years. Guess your GF should evaluate her current dental state. Is she one of those people with a bunch of cavities and needing dental work often? Maybe then she'd be a prime candidate for the chance of the front teeth not withstanding the punishment of a metal ball all the time.
I prefer tons of tats and piercings and still think I'd stray away from the tongue given what I have seen in more than one instance.
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