Thoughts on this situation.

booblet0

Variation on girl thread #5396093. This'll be short.

I've got this friend. I consider him to be a good friend. He recently broke up with his girlfriend. His ex is a friend of mine too. I really like his ex! And, uh, recently we kind of hooked up and stuff, and he's totally not ok with it and is super pissed.

What do you guys think about this. I like the girl, and she and I are definitely taking it really slow, but I also want to keep my friendship with him. What can/should I say to him to preserve both of these things.

Forar

Maybe, but it depends a lot on you, her, him and how you all deal with/handle the situation.

Honestly, if you two already "hooked up", the damage is done. From here on, you need to ask yourself how much you want to try to make things work with her, and how much you want to retain him as a friend.

They aren't necessarily mutually exclusive concepts, but if he's pissed, that may well be the case.

CooterTKE

well sounds like you pissed your friend off and now you must decide if you want to be friends with him or hook up with his ex. At this point if I was your friend you pretty much would be on my shit list for a while.

Forbe!

Its one or the other buddeh.

Do you value the relationship you have with your friend?
Do you value the relationship you have with your friend, over hooking up with a girl?
Do you see the relationship with the girl turning into something longterm?

I was on a shitlist for about 3 years when I dated one of my good friends' former girlfriends. Luckily we recouped the friendship, and he is one of my best friends now. Luckily he forgave me.

Your friend has made it apparent, though, that he isn't okay with you dating her, so you have to choose.

Also: 'Hooking up' and 'taking it slow' don't work together.

Thanatos

He doesn't own her. Him being pissed off at you is a completely normal, emotional, totally irrational reaction. If he doesn't get over it in the next few months, then he's an ass.