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Girlfriend and her period

CptKemzikCptKemzik Registered User regular
edited May 2008 in Help / Advice Forum
The story goes like this, my girlfriend (of two and a half months) hasn't had her period sometime since february, we've been having sex since 12th of april, and have used condoms every time with no signs of any of them being faulty (torn or not on right etc etc). In short there's a slight sense of paranoia that she may be pregnant despite the fact it is highly unlikely (due to it being late before we started having sex, and my using condoms every time we do). However we're still gonna get a little test thing just to be safe.

Basically H/A I ask if we're simply being a little paranoid about this, and if it isnt cause she's preggo then what other causes may be delaying the period?

Some extra information she's going on birth control right when she gets it again, and for clarification on the chance that there's a pregnancy NO WE DONT WANT TO HAVE THE BABY.

Thanks in advance for any info.

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    Chief1138Chief1138 Registered User regular
    edited May 2008
    Hasn't had it since february? Assuming my math is right, she already missed her period at least once before you started having sex, so I'm not sure what you're worried about. Aside from that, there's a million things that could cause her to miss it...stress, you name it

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    dkembledkemble Registered User regular
    edited May 2008
    Condoms can have holes or tears that are oblivious to the naked eye. A scratch of a fingernail or something similar could produce a tiny hole. That being said, condoms are still an excellent form of birth control (I can't think of the numbers but you can find them on planned parenthood).

    There are a number of things that could cause a woman's period to be late. For my wife, when she wasn't on hormonal birth control, a lot of stress could delay it a bit. Not saying that is true for every woman...each one is different.

    At this point going with a test would be the best bet. The best of luck to ya man!

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    Cptn PantsCptn Pants Registered User regular
    edited May 2008
    My girl is often delayed by a few days if we have frequent sex the week before she is expecting... though, I'm talking like 3 or 4 days, never more then a week. I'd have her go to a doctor... and maybe get a pregnancy test.

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    SarcastroSarcastro Registered User regular
    edited May 2008
    Definitely not being paranoid.

    If shes clockwork and suddenly not after having lots of sex with no chems involved, it does not bode well.

    That being said, very, very few girls are actually clockwork, and stress and a change in lifestyle habits can easily cause a skip. See Also: Dietary changes, hanging around different female friends, and oh I dunno, lets go with 'growth spurt' or something. It could really be anything, even a new boyfriend.

    Go pee on the stick. And good job on getting backup.

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    ThanatosThanatos Registered User regular
    edited May 2008
    Sarcastro wrote: »
    Definitely not being paranoid.

    If shes clockwork and suddenly not after having lots of sex with no chems involved, it does not bode well.

    That being said, very, very few girls are actually clockwork, and stress and a change in lifestyle habits can easily cause a skip. See Also: Dietary changes, hanging around different female friends, and oh I dunno, lets go with 'growth spurt' or something. It could really be anything, even a new boyfriend.

    Go pee on the stick. And good job on getting backup.
    If you'd read the OP, his girlfriend hasn't had her period in over two months, and they started having sex less than three weeks ago.

    Unless he's got a bunch of chronatons in his testicles, it's really, really unlikely she's pregnant.

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    FembotFembot Registered User regular
    edited May 2008
    Has she been experiencing any other medical issues? Has she been overly stressed? Started/stopped any medication? Lost/gained a lot of weight? There's a number of non-baby things that can cause a lack of period, and some of them warrant a visit to the doctor.

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    SolventSolvent Econ-artist กรุงเทพมหานครRegistered User regular
    edited May 2008
    Yeah my sympathy man, but this happens with some women. I have experience with a lady who didn't use the pill, we only used condoms. And her period was extremely irregular, she would miss them frequently. Man that's not fun. I have spent weeks with nagging stress at the back of my mind because of it, but I'm not a daddy yet.

    Yes, you have reason to worry. But it's not like she's definitely preggers, take a test to be sure if it's worrying you a lot.

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    CptKemzikCptKemzik Registered User regular
    edited May 2008
    Thanks for all the input/advice.

    As for medical issues and such, I'm not going to go into too much detail but for a few years she had a small bout with depression, and had a mild case of bulimia for a few months (seems to be hereditary since her mom had it) both of which stopped sometime around the summer/fall of 07, she's had anti-depressants for a little, and has seen a therapist at times as well. As for weight gain/loss when she was younger she put on a lot of weight (for reasons unknown to her) and then lost a lot of it when she hit puberty and started growing.

    As of when we first met and got to know each other (around spring of last year) and started dating the past few months she seems to be fine nowadays. Looking back on this stuff I'm assuming the various growing pains she's had has contributed to the irregularity of her period?

    EDIT- For age clarification we're both 18.

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    MegaMan001MegaMan001 CRNA Rochester, MNRegistered User regular
    edited May 2008
    The number of reasons a girl could have irregularity of her period are simply too numerous to name.

    If your worried, have her take a pregnancy test.

    From what you've told me, providing you haven't left anything damming out or given a faulty time line, your in the clear.

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    ThanatosThanatos Registered User regular
    edited May 2008
    CptKemzik wrote: »
    Thanks for all the input advice.

    As for medical issues and such, I'm not going to go into too much detail but for a few years she had a small bout with depression, and had a mild case of bulimia for a few months (seems to be hereditary since her mom had it) both of which stopped sometime around the summer/fall of 07, she's had anti-depressants for a little, and has seen a therapist at times as well. As for weight gain/loss when she was younger she put on a lot of weight (for reasons unknown to her) and then lost a lot of it when she hit puberty and started growing.

    As of when we first met and got to know each other (around spring of last year) and started dating the past few months she seems to be fine nowadays. Looking back on this stuff I'm assuming the various growing pains she's had has contributed to the irregularity of her period?

    EDIT- For age clarification we're both 18.
    I would be amazed if she didn't have an irregular period.

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    SarcastroSarcastro Registered User regular
    edited May 2008
    Thanatos wrote: »
    Sarcastro wrote: »
    Definitely not being paranoid.

    If shes clockwork and suddenly not after having lots of sex with no chems involved, it does not bode well.

    That being said, very, very few girls are actually clockwork, and stress and a change in lifestyle habits can easily cause a skip. See Also: Dietary changes, hanging around different female friends, and oh I dunno, lets go with 'growth spurt' or something. It could really be anything, even a new boyfriend.

    Go pee on the stick. And good job on getting backup.
    If you'd read the OP, his girlfriend hasn't had her period in over two months, and they started having sex less than three weeks ago.

    Unless he's got a bunch of chronatons in his testicles, it's really, really unlikely she's pregnant.

    Oh. Shit on me. I read the dates and somehow got that they'd been having sex for over two months, and she hadn't had her period in three weeks. Synaptic failure, I choo-choo choose you.

    Revise to read: Highly unlikely. You're prolly just being paranoid.

    Lets hope against the chronatons, no one wants to be their own grandpa.

    And yah, that med history screams plausible irregularity.

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    Cptn PantsCptn Pants Registered User regular
    edited May 2008
    Sarcastro wrote: »
    Thanatos wrote: »
    Sarcastro wrote: »
    Lets hope against the chronatons, no one wants to be their own grandpa.
    .

    Pastnastification?

    *sorry for the off topic post but a futurama quote is too much to pass up*

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    CptKemzikCptKemzik Registered User regular
    edited May 2008
    Well it seems like I just needed some outside perspectives to talk over the other issues. We're still gonna get a test just for shits-n-giggles (and so she has one less thing to stress her out), but it seems quite apparent that it has to do with her med history and we'll just have to wait it out till it happens again.

    Thanks again for all the input, unless someone quips up about something to add onto this consider it solved.

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    AlyceInWonderlandAlyceInWonderland Registered User regular
    edited May 2008
    Hah. Dude, You have nothing to worry about.


    Once I missed my period for about 4 months in a row. I was a virgin. Weird thing was that I wasn't stressed really, and had no other lifestyle change. Who knows what the deal was, but it came back more normal than ever.

    Don't stress about it. It will probably make the delayed period worse.

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    TrowizillaTrowizilla Registered User regular
    edited May 2008
    A tiny bit off-topic, but oh well: If she's going on the pill soon, I personally would suggest a monophasic pill instead of a triphasic one. What this means is, she may do better with a pill that has a constant level of hormones rather than one that changes week-by-week. I mention this because I've had issues with depression as well, and the tri-phasic pill screwed up my mental state like crazy. Also, don't get discouraged if the first pill she tries doesn't work perfectly; pretty much everyone has to try a couple of formulas until they hit on one that fits in well with their body chemistry.

    But yeah, pregnancy tests aren't that expensive.

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    RaneadosRaneados police apologist you shouldn't have been there, obviouslyRegistered User regular
    edited May 2008
    Thanatos wrote: »
    Sarcastro wrote: »
    Definitely not being paranoid.

    If shes clockwork and suddenly not after having lots of sex with no chems involved, it does not bode well.

    That being said, very, very few girls are actually clockwork, and stress and a change in lifestyle habits can easily cause a skip. See Also: Dietary changes, hanging around different female friends, and oh I dunno, lets go with 'growth spurt' or something. It could really be anything, even a new boyfriend.

    Go pee on the stick. And good job on getting backup.
    If you'd read the OP, his girlfriend hasn't had her period in over two months, and they started having sex less than three weeks ago.

    Unless he's got a bunch of chronatons in his testicles, it's really, really unlikely she's pregnant.

    well.... other dudes have sperm too, you know

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    ihmmyihmmy Registered User regular
    edited May 2008
    Trowizilla wrote: »
    A tiny bit off-topic, but oh well: If she's going on the pill soon, I personally would suggest a monophasic pill instead of a triphasic one. What this means is, she may do better with a pill that has a constant level of hormones rather than one that changes week-by-week. I mention this because I've had issues with depression as well, and the tri-phasic pill screwed up my mental state like crazy. Also, don't get discouraged if the first pill she tries doesn't work perfectly; pretty much everyone has to try a couple of formulas until they hit on one that fits in well with their body chemistry.

    But yeah, pregnancy tests aren't that expensive.

    also, triphasic ones can cause increased chances of yeast infections for some women. Which really really isn't fun


    I second earlier motions to pick up a preg test just to be sure. You can usually find one for under $20 easy at the local pharmacy, the sound mind is worth the minor cost

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    SpecularitySpecularity Registered User regular
    edited May 2008
    You might want to check up on her eating habits again. You mentioned she used to struggle with bulimia, and low body weight can definitely cause amenorrhea (cessation of menstruation). If she's doing okay on that front, then I honestly don't think you have anything to worry about. A pregnancy test is definitely going to ease her mind, and 18 is certainly still young enough to have fluctuating periods.

    However, if it continues to stay away, she should probably get checked out. Missing/skipping your period isn't unhealthy in and of itself, but if it occurs unintentionally it can be an indication of a serious problem.

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    CptKemzikCptKemzik Registered User regular
    edited May 2008
    Raneados wrote: »
    Thanatos wrote: »
    Sarcastro wrote: »
    Definitely not being paranoid.

    If shes clockwork and suddenly not after having lots of sex with no chems involved, it does not bode well.

    That being said, very, very few girls are actually clockwork, and stress and a change in lifestyle habits can easily cause a skip. See Also: Dietary changes, hanging around different female friends, and oh I dunno, lets go with 'growth spurt' or something. It could really be anything, even a new boyfriend.

    Go pee on the stick. And good job on getting backup.
    If you'd read the OP, his girlfriend hasn't had her period in over two months, and they started having sex less than three weeks ago.

    Unless he's got a bunch of chronatons in his testicles, it's really, really unlikely she's pregnant.

    well.... other dudes have sperm too, you know

    Im her second sexual partner, and her frist one she stopped having sex with quite a few months before this issue had arisen. Also thanks for the pointers on the birth control pills, I'll make sure to talk about which ones she has right now, and to get a different type if necessary.

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