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Home Schooling (SOLVED)
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I was talking to a friend who is home schooled, and I really like the idea.
But I was wondering what the purpose is, what the difficulties are, if colleges look down on it, how I go about doing it, etc.
Because honestly, I'm just tired of school, but I would like to keep learning.
If you need the reasons I'm sick of school, I'll give them, but, really, how does home schooling work?
But I was wondering what the purpose is, what the difficulties are, if colleges look down on it, how I go about doing it, etc.
Because honestly, I'm just tired of school, but I would like to keep learning.
If you need the reasons I'm sick of school, I'll give them, but, really, how does home schooling work?
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But, do I just decide to do it?
Or do I have to talk to a counselor or what?
I mean, yeah you could push your parents for you to be home schooled, but depending on their view of school, along with issues like money and time, you might just be stuck with school.
It also deprives people of social experiences and just seems to me a form of indoctrination/child abuse.
Edit: And yeah, it is something your parents would have to commit to. I do believe you are still responsible for tests and scores and the like. Although how rigorously that stuff is tracked is up for debate.
In my (and my brother and sister's) experience, colleges do not look down on it. I came out of 12 years of homeschooling sufficiently well adjusted both academically and socially. I have completed both college and grad school.
I don't know how suggesting that homeschooling is universally "a form of indoctrination/child abuse" could be helpful or objective for someone seeking to learn more about it.
I'll agree with Than. You can get through homeschooling much like highschool. Just do enough work to pass and not remember any of it. If you WANT to do better, you will need to try very hard to comprehend the material rather than just memorize it and your instructor will need to actually care about their job rather than just doing clocking in.
Back to my story about my friend. He went to continuation school. After six months he hated it. Even if you have plans to remain social, you get very unmotivated just sitting at home all day doing buttfuck nothing. He came back to school the following year because he missed socializing. Being a bum is only fun for so long.
As far as how colleges look down on it, i don't think it would matter. Colleges are more into standardized test scores for transfers than anything else. If you do poorly on SATs and what not, you can always just got to CC and transfer in as a junior. It is a lot easier than trying to rush in as a frosh, but it may be important to you to get four years of that top quality education.
I am not sure about home schooling, but I know that for continuation school you just switch schools like if you were switching to another school in your district. Your local education board should have a website that will tell you options and how to do it.
A few months ago, I've been extremely anxious, almost on the brink of crying during class.
I'm not scared, but at the same time, I'm terrified of being at school.
I feel much safer being at home, and I generally don't go out after school for that same reason.
I don't feel threatened so much as my school isn't full of gun toting gangsters nore angsty disheveled teens.
I'm fairly popular and in good health, but I can't get over the this is horrible make it stop feeling that I get every day when I wake up.
It's distracting me during class, and my grades have been steadily dropping since January.
At this moment, I have 4 fails and two Cs, compared to the almost straight As I got last semester.
As long as I have a book with equations and explanations for math, I'll be fine so far as comprehending and remembering the material.
It's just that being at school is actually taking away from my will to learn.
Personally, speaking as someone who was homeschooled nearly my entire life, I think homeschooling would be the worst thing possible for you right now. It's so easy to just retreat into a shell and avoid dealing with people when you're homeschooled, which is really bad for an introverted person or a person with social anxiety, because let's face it--you're always going to have to deal with people. That's just life.
In short, don't ask your parents to homeschool you, ask them to get you a doctor's appointment instead.
I never considered that I might have an anxiety problem, but I will ask my parents to set up an appointment.
Edit: Beated. Beated nine times.
Say you get homeschooling: what are you going to do when you go to college or the workforce, and start getting the exact same feelings?
As for how colleges look at home schooling:
1. Most schools will scrutinize your ACT and/or SAT score much more closely.
2. When it comes to applying there could be far more resposibility placed on you when it comes to submiting transcripts.
2a. If it's an accreditted online program then this won't be a problem, they will send in the transcripts and you should be good to go.
2b. If it's a non-accreditted program then you might need to submit course syllabi since the college will have no way of knowing what content was covered.
3. In my experiences, the home-schooled student goes through a more extensive review process and if the student is not admitted to the institution might be more limited in future enrollment options (transferring or attending a regional branch).
These are just the things that I can think of off the top of my head, but if you are seriously considering home schooling as an option, sit down and talk to your parents. Let them know what issues you are facing and why you think home schooling might be an alternative option.
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I do understand, though, that there is probably something of a disorder of anxiety going on for you and all. But. I don't think homeschooling is good to remedy that. Instead it might make the problem worse.
As for college? Go to a community college for two years first anyways. I have buddies who graduated high school with 4.0 and up GPAs, thousands of community service hours, near perfect SAT scores etc....who didn't even get into the schools they wanted to. Then other buddies who didn't do half as well in high school who ARE going to the schools they wanted to because they went to a CC afterwards.
Our entire education system in this country is full of shit. Go to a community college and do well, after two years there you will get into whatever school you want regardless of home schooling, GED or high school diploma.
The bottom line is that options are open for just about anyone if you are willing to take your time. Shit if you test out early and go direct to a CC you could be done with University two years before any of your friends who stuck around and finished it because they really really wanted to go to prom.
If you are a driven person who knows what they want to do in life this is a perfectly legitimate option. And if you are a wishy washy I have no idea what I want to do person you are probably just going to end up studying business or psychology anyways so it is still a perfectly legitimate option.
Personally, I went into art. So I didn't even both with a degree because what the hell do you need a degree in art for? Nothing thats what. But just about everything else you will still need one for.
I should also note that there are plenty of people who might think this is the worst advice ever. But I am speaking from my own experiences anyways.
Well, now that I'm at home, and I don't feel that threatened feeling, this topic makes me feel silly, but, as soon as i go back tomorrow, I'll feel exactly the same.
I do think I need to talk to someone about this, seeing as it's a new happening, and anything that's keeping me from leading on normally certainly isn't normal, I should figure it out, thanks a lot for information on both sides.
I think you need to get to the root of why you feel this way (anxious, nervous, scared of school) instead of switching to homeschooling. It could be a medical problem you need medicine for. It could be something you need therapy for. In any case, homeschooling would only be a band-aid . . . seek the cure instead!
Regarding homeschooling itself, a lot of colleges do look down on it. Also, it will swallow a huge chunk of your parents' time. ALSO, are your parents enthusiastic about English to the same extent and English teacher would be? As familiar with math as a math teacher would be? As good at physics as a physics teacher would be? IMO, homeschooling in high school (I don't know your age but am guessing high school?) is very unwise.
So it's not always a burden to everyone around you that will cost gobs of time and money.
I'm pretty sure my parents wouldn't be the ones teaching me.
I'll have to come back to this thread when I'm back in anxious mode because I just got home from the mall with a bunch of threads and I realized it's just at school that I feel that way.
I have to talk to my counselor about summer school anyway, I'll bring it up tomorrow.
I'm more math, hard sciences, and art oriented, so we focus on that. Most collages want homeschoolers, actully. It's mosty the really religious homeschoolers that they don't want. You'll probly have a harder time getting into a nice science collage if all your textbooks are some variation of 'Jesus and friends explore history!'. I've found HOLT to be a good brand for highschool level. You don't really need to hire someone, I really just teach myself. My mum checks the tests, though.
Homeschooling for any reason other than academic ones would be (as others have said) treating a symptom and not a root cause.
Good luck, I'm sure you will get to the root of this, and will have it perfectly under control. Many people have gone through your exact experience.
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You need treatment for the anxiety, that's the problem - not the school. Go see your school counsellor, get a referral to a real psychologist/psychiatrist. Try the psychologist first, they don't drug you up first go because they aren't allowed to write prescriptions (although they may reccomend that you see someone who can do that for you). If they're good, they'll try something like cognitive therapy first. Don't go to a GP, they generally lack the experience to handle mental health properly.
Meanwhile, I think you should have a work through the stuff in MoodGYM. Its really good for identifying problem behaviour patterns to yourself and helping you work through them. Find a time when you feel comfortable and safe, and work through the modules on the website.
My dad really doesn't want me to do the online schooling thing because, as he put it "You're as smart as I was, and I graduated at 15. I don't want you falling into a period where you're lost because you finished so early and feel alone."
I'll take a look at the MoodGYM when I get home today, thank all of you.
Best of luck to you.
Don't ride it out, go to a psychiatrist as soon as you can.
I was homeschooled.
I can attest to the poor socialization thing, because I got to meet all of those kids. Also, most of the homeschoolers in our area that weren't religious sheltering types were the Randy Weaver sort. This went a long way towards my appreciation for firearms, though.
Basically, make your kid socialized at gunpoint if you have to, and you'll probably homeschool him OK. I turned out decent even though I completely quit after 15, a total non-self motivator at that age. Most people just assume I'm a college grad because of my ability to self-educate and my job. I don't disabuse them of this notion.
My parents were a professor who taught at a local college and a former high school english teacher. This got them no end of resentment from other homeschoolers who already have a crazy persecution complex relating to qualifications to educate their kids on their own.
Most likely, I'd take online classes which suit me just fine.
If I make the effort to go out, to see friends, I end up having a good time, it's just leaving the house and the walk/car ride there that gets me all antsy.
You sound like a very bright kid, from a very bright family, you have to see that homeschooling will only delay and compound any sort of social anxiety you have now into full blown sociopathism in the future.
While homeschooling would be a much better choice than the one I made, I still feel like you'd be doing yourself a disservice by allowing your anxiety to distort your thoughts on what should be a normal part of your life. You'll have to trust random internet stranger when I say that I've been where you are, I've gone to bed wishing that I just wouldn't wake up in the morning, that I could sleep forever and never have to go to school again, but these aren't rational thoughts, and they're not normal feelings. They're symptoms that something has gone haywire, and the sooner you learn to identify exactly what's causing it and overcome it(not on your own of course. I second the advice of everyone to talk to a professional), the better time you'll have of it in the future whenever these feelings surface again. and I don't mean to sound ominous or anything, but they will most likely surface again if you are predisposed to anxiety.
You sound like you've got good parents and friends, so you're well equipped to handle this, and I sincerely hope you do.
Remember, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger!
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If I'm not mistaken, I can take as many classes as I want, correct?
As I said before, I failed quite a few classes, and making up credits would be in my best interest.
I definitely want to go to high school for my senior year, and most probably my junior year as well.
It's an odd thing to come to grips with, I've never thought of myself as the anxious type, and since making this thread and hearing from all the anecdotes and suggestions, I found myself today feeling disoriented and confused...
I definitely need to talk to someone about this, and I think possibly my father would be the best choice.
Posting our text messages to each other would be boring, but he is truly an incredible man.
Thank you, I do count myself lucky for all the support I've been given, both in my personal life, and apparently, on this forum, and thank you for sharing your experience.
If you don't mind my asking, did you drop out?
I finished junior year by the skin of my teeth. Then my family moved and I attended a new school my senior year. None of the previous stimuli that I'd attributed as the cause of the anxiety was present at this new environment, but it still came back. I did end up dropping out in the middle of the year. The very thought of going to school was paralyzing, but looking back at it now I still can't exactly figure out what prompted that episode.
I actually still go through these periods from time to time, but I've learned how to better think myself through them over the years. My mantra when I'm going through them is basically,'it's not as bad as you think it is, don't trust what your anxiety is telling you'. And oddly enough, thinking that hard enough actually works for me. I'm sure you'll find something that works for you. Like I said earlier, the sooner you confront this thing, the better off you'll be, now and in the future.
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