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Problem with new girl's oral situation...

ZeromusZeromus Registered User regular
edited June 2008 in Help / Advice Forum
No, it's not quite what you're thinking, but that would perhaps be preferable.

I've started seeing a new girl. That's all well and good, but said new girl unfortunately took something of a large tumble while... inebriated a couple of weeks ago, which smashed up her front teeth to such a significant degree that she now has four braces. Apparently, these front four teeth are in such a state of pain and disarray that brushing them is monumentally painful, and so, I suppose, she is unable to do it.

Unsurprisingly, this makes her breath the stuff of legend; the sheer potency of it could fell the Cthulhu. I am not exaggerating - it is rank. Prior to make-out sessions, I will find discreet ways to offer her gum (vast amounts of Eclipse Midnight Cool being my weapon of choice thus far), but even that doesn't really rectify the situation. Unfortunately, the problem gets even worse, as even after I decide to suck it up and go for it despite the smell - and taste goodness gracious - the braces situation seems to produce kind of a gross buildup of dark gooey material around our lips, which is, to be frank, foul.

Now, I like this girl, but I'm not really sure what to do about this. Because this is a very new relationship, I'm not sure how altogether comfortable I feel mentioning that her braces are creating a dire situation (and she is probably really self-conscious about them, anyway), but they're making the prospect of having my tongue inside of her mouth less and less attractive by the moment.

Any suggestions as to how I should proceed here? D:

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  • DragonCatDragonCat Registered User regular
    edited June 2008
    Well...even if her teeth hurt, she could use those spongey type tooth "brushes" they're soft and squishy and they do the job w/o having to scrub with the bristles of a traditional toothbrush. Also.... listerine... I mean, for pete's sake she should at least be trying to prevent infection in her already banged up mouth.

    I don't know what to say about how to bring it up to her w/o her being embarrassed or potentially hurting her feelings, but she *does* have options other than just not brushing.

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  • AlyceInWonderlandAlyceInWonderland Registered User regular
    edited June 2008
    ....mouthwash maybe. Just a gentle swish won't hurt much I'm sure, and would get some of the gunk out. Believe me, I know. I had braces for 3 years, and every time they were tightened I wasn't able to brush for like 2 days, but mouthwash did wonders for breath and whatever was stuck.

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  • TrowizillaTrowizilla Registered User regular
    edited June 2008
    Suggest she talk to her dentist? That shouldn't be happening.

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  • ZeromusZeromus Registered User regular
    edited June 2008
    She does use mouthwash, and to clarify, part of the reason her teeth are hurting so much is because they were all but completely knocked out after her fall, and the dentist had to actually push them back into place from, like, pretty much the roof of her mouth or something. So, the pain is probably more gums-related than braces-related. But still.

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  • TavTav Irish Minister for DefenceRegistered User regular
    edited June 2008
    I had the same thing happen to me (Except for the drunk part, I was tripped while playing football on a road) and believe me, it is fucking agonizing. Mouthwash and breath mints are the best thing for it.... and some consideration from people close to you.

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  • ZeromusZeromus Registered User regular
    edited June 2008
    Tav wrote: »
    I had the same thing happen to me (Except for the drunk part, I was tripped while playing football on a road) and believe me, it is fucking agonizing. Mouthwash and breath mints are the best thing for it.... and some consideration from people close to you.

    Yeah, I realize that it's probably more awful for her than it is for me, and I'm definitely not trying to antagonize her at all or anything. But try as I might, with the breath situation going on I feel like I'm definitely not as into making out with her currently, and I don't want her to wonder why that might be. So, I guess I'm asking for advice on how to tactfully approach her about this, and possible solutions, as well...

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  • JebusUDJebusUD Adventure! Candy IslandRegistered User regular
    edited June 2008
    she can still brush her bottom teeth and her tounge right? that should get rid of alot of it.

    edit: or is it top and bottom? either way im sure she could get the side ones a bit. Just be gentle and careful.

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  • ZeromusZeromus Registered User regular
    edited June 2008
    She brushes all of her teeth but the ones in front that were injured... Or so she says.

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  • FofamitFofamit Registered User regular
    edited June 2008
    I assume she just uses a after brush mouth wash like Listerine or Oral B, um this is something I use called "Plax" and you use it prior to brushing and it will basically make it a lot easier to "knock-out" the plaque in your mouth.

    Um, as for approaching her about this, I would say to just be honest and upfront about it... but in a nice way.

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  • Wonder_HippieWonder_Hippie __BANNED USERS regular
    edited June 2008
    Maybe I'm just insensitive and my make-out sessions are rougher than average, but it seems to me like neckin' alone woul be pretty painful. I'm not seeing how she gets past that, honestly, much less brushing them.

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  • Chop LogicChop Logic Registered User regular
    edited June 2008
    I would just tell her. It'd be better that you risk hurting her feelings a little and let her know why you're hesitant about making out than have her wondering why you don't want to kiss her.

    Also, I'm sorry, that really sucks. A lot.

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  • VThornheartVThornheart Registered User regular
    edited June 2008
    Yeah, that's an extremely unfortunate situation.

    Ahh! How about this as an alternative to directly addressing it?

    What if you asked her how her teeth were feeling, see if you can start up a casual conversation about the injury and the state of her teeth (not in the context of the smell)... maybe if you bring it up and let the conversation go forward, the fact will come out in something resembling some kind of natural way? Hell, maybe she realizes it and is too embarrassed to mention it... but if you start talking about the injury/what happened/how she feels now maybe she'll open up, and you can THEN suggest some of the ideas above as to how to fix it.

    I don't know if this will work... but it seems like the only way I can think of where you can bring it up short of saying something like "girl your breath stank", which obviously won't go over well. =)

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  • ZeromusZeromus Registered User regular
    edited June 2008
    Hahah, I'll try that out. :P

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  • ZephonateZephonate Registered User regular
    edited June 2008
    Yeah, that's an extremely unfortunate situation.

    Ahh! How about this as an alternative to directly addressing it?

    What if you asked her how her teeth were feeling, see if you can start up a casual conversation about the injury and the state of her teeth (not in the context of the smell)... maybe if you bring it up and let the conversation go forward, the fact will come out in something resembling some kind of natural way? Hell, maybe she realizes it and is too embarrassed to mention it... but if you start talking about the injury/what happened/how she feels now maybe she'll open up, and you can THEN suggest some of the ideas above as to how to fix it.

    I don't know if this will work... but it seems like the only way I can think of where you can bring it up short of saying something like "girl your breath stank", which obviously won't go over well. =)

    This is the best suggestion I've heard thus far.

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  • SeptusSeptus Registered User regular
    edited June 2008
    I don't know for sure, but I would think lots of mouthwash in addition to tongue brushing, and possibly staining(special prescription to protect teeth, not sure how it smells) could help all of this.

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  • ceresceres When the last moon is cast over the last star of morning And the future has past without even a last desperate warningRegistered User, Moderator Mod Emeritus
    edited June 2008
    Listerine will KILL... but it will also prevent infection and she should be doing it anyway. If she absolutely cannot bring herself to brush those teeth, at least maybe that can help with the whole bacteria thing.

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  • nexuscrawlernexuscrawler Registered User regular
    edited June 2008
    If she can't take Listerine than espon salt water will do a bit to help the infection and smell too.

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  • SerphimeraSerphimera Registered User regular
    edited June 2008
    I don't see how her breath can smell a bad if she's brushing and using mouthwash. Maybe it's not a mouth related smell. Is she taking any medication for her injury, like antibiotics or painkillers?

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  • Adhoc2008Adhoc2008 Registered User regular
    edited June 2008
    When is her review appointment at the dentist?

    She has a splint on her front teeth after trauma, it's possible (and usual) for teeth to become dead after this.

    If the teeth are dead, it creates necrosis, infection, and granulation tissue in the tips of the roots, that's a typical cause of bad breath. are her teeth discoloured (darker) than they should be?
    A trip to the dentist will see, but thats my immediate thought on the matter. If they are dead, the teeth will require root canal treatment to rid her of the infection/bad breath etc.

    Alternatively, if it's as simple as gunk and plaque: brush the teeth, they should not be so tender after a number of weeks that gentle brushing with a soft brush will hurt.

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  • MagicPrimeMagicPrime FiresideWizard Registered User regular
    edited June 2008
    Have you been honest to her in discussing it?

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