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Coal
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I'm pretty nerve-wracked at the moment, guys. Why? Well, a few days ago my girlfriend and I were having sex and the condom broke. I didn't notice it at first, but I honestly think it only slipped off of me once I pulled out. Note though that I did not ejaculate or even come close to ejaculating during this time. I'm just pretty nervous that she may get pregnant. What are the chances of that sort of thing occurring?
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you'll be okay, but keep an eye on the situation
Depending on when this happened, you may want to have her take the Morning After pill just to be safe (most effective within the first 72 hours, with the first 24 being ideal).
As far as the likelihood of your girlfriend being pregnant, I can't give you those odds. The vagina is a pretty hostile place for sperm and the odds of getting pregnant from a single encounter like this seem very low, but they are not 0%.
EDIT: Wait, did it break (pull out and only have the ring around you/hole in the side with you hanging out of it/etc) or did it slip off (you pulled out, condom wasn't on, had to fish for it, pulled it out whole)?
This is also why Plan B is over-the-counter. I suggest you and your girlfriend get some. That way, if you DO have an accident, she can take Plan B and not worry so much.
pre-ejaculate does not contain sperm, the walls of the (urethra?) can hold sperm from a previous ejaculation, and may come out with the pre-cum, but the pre-cum itself contains no sperm. The sperm inside are not in their ideal habitat and thus die pretty quickly
if this is wrong then every sexual health textbook I have read over the lat 7 years is wrong
I say be safe and have her do the pill and everything, but don't freak out over it
(despite what some people say to the contrary, pulling out is a reliable form of birth control, done correctly)
PHEEZER EDIT FOR AWESOME:
73% reliability is what you can actually expect in the real world. Absolutely perfect and consistent use of the method (virtually impossible under real world conditions) still only nets you 96%. That's a kid for every 25 times you fuck. THESE ARE NOT GOOD ODDS GIVEN THE GRAVITY OF THE SITUATION. THIS IS NOT WHAT WE CONSIDER A RELIABLE METHOD.
Pre-ejaculate does not contain sperm, however there will be sperm remaining in the shaft of the penis from last time you ejaculated which will get picked up by the pre-ejaculate and transmitted during sex. Urinating between ejaculations causes this to no longer be an issue, as the urine will flush out any remaining sperm.
In other words, pre-ejaculate does not contain sperm, but make sure you urinate between ejaculations just to make sure.
Edit: damn you Raneados!
You will hear conflicting information about this- most sex advice sites say that it is possible to have pregnancy occur from preejaculate, and that does indeed appear to be the case, though very rare. What I've read indicates that there is generally no motile sperm in preejaculate, but it could contain residual sperm from a previous ejaculation that was not completely cleared from the urethra (for instance, by urination).
It seems like the odds are very low- astronomically low if you hadn't ejaculated since your last urination. If there is still an opportunity for the morning after pill, that would be taking less of a chance. I don't know.. anything at all about the side-effects or cost of such a thing, though, so I hesitate to advocate it for your situation.
Edit: Beaten. Multiple times.
GOD
The former. I pulled out and the condom was basically in half so to speak, but still was attached and was a whole piece, if that makes sense. That's why I"m thinking how I am, because it didn't break off inside of her and we had to look for it. It was still half on me and half off after I pulled out. The sex itself didn't feel any different and I think I would have noticed that first and foremost I'm sure, having never had sex without a condom before. Also, if it makes any difference, the kind of condom we were using had spermicidal lubricant.
Also, this would have been the first time I ejaculated that day.
So is the rhythm method, but the problem is that people don't do it correctly, and thus it isn't recommended. Pulling out is effective if only for reducing the amount of sperm available to reach the egg.
Uh-oh I accidentally deleted my signature. Uh-oh!!
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Coal, is she on any sort of hormonal birth control? If she's not, I would also suggest you (she) get Plan B. It should be available without a prescription at any pharmacy if she's 18, and is technically viable up to three days after the incident (though it's recommended to take it as soon as possible). Like others are saying, the chances are extremely low, but peace of mind is probably going to be more of a comfort than a baby.
He's saying it usually works.
*even that fails, but if you get pregnant with this many variables in play then SOMEBODY wants you to have that baby.
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OP: You should see if your girlfriend wants to pick up the pill, and even offer to pay for it if she doesn't have the cash, but don't... shove it down her throat or anything.
Considering your comment wasn't helping, and it was just an offbeat way to offer up some conjecture about birth control methods, but yeah, that's what we do. We also ream morons who advise a person that pull-out is an effective form of birth control (if used correctly). Try to give good advice, not to say stuff because you want to test the waters.
Point...you may want to discuss how you both feel about all things surrounding this issue (the morning after pill, abortions if pregnant, etc.) and make sure you are on the same page or at least understand how each other feel about it. Not that girls don't ever rethink their positions on these things once they actually get pregnant.
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Part two: Don't freak out if her period is late. Stress will do that and it's not a big deal. Instead, go ahead and buy a pregnancy test, just to make sure. Again, she's almost certainly not pregnant, but it's better to go ahead and pay the $10 rather than freak out.
Part three: Talk about what she would choose to do if she became pregnant. If she's against abortion and you don't want to be a father, talk to her about going on the birth control pill. (She can get it very cheaply at a Planned Parenthood.) That combined with using condoms means her likelihood of becoming pregnant is ridiculously, amazingly small, so that when the inevitable second condom breakage occurs, you can just shrug it off.
My cousin got tonsilitis and went on antibiotics.
Now I also have a first cousin once removed
and yes I had to check wikipedia for the correct terminology. I thought it was second cousin
This is what I'm saying here: If it happened once where a condom broke or whatever, odds are you're safe. The odds are not in favor of pregnancy. Keep it up and they will be, in short order. It is a highly UNreliable birth control method but that doesn't make a single instance in the grand scheme of things likely to result in pregnancy.
Also if you really didn't get off, and you were wearing a condom even if it broke towards the end or maybe not even until after you were out of her, the odds are pretty fucking minuscule. Don't sweat it.
Do talk to her about what you'll both do if she gets knocked up though. It can happen and you should be prepared.
CUZ THERE'S SOMETHING IN THE MIDDLE AND IT'S GIVING ME A RASH
So, to the OP, you're almost certainly fine, but it's still an weensy bit possible.
Obviously still not a bet I'd recommend taking though.
While the overall point of this edit is correct (that methods like pull out, rhythm, etc. are not reliable), this is a misinterpretation of what these statistics mean. For ANY form of birth control, the % reliability means the % of women using that form of birth control over the course of a year who got pregnant. NOT the % chance of getting pregnant each time you have sex.
For the best protection, have her on the pill and use a condom yourself. You'll likely never ever get pregnant. Ultimate combo.