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Help plz:( im scared.

Tender WolfTender Wolf __BANNED USERS regular
edited August 2008 in Help / Advice Forum
My mom has a drinking problem and shes going NUTS right now.
I dont know wat the fuck her problem is? She just started talking about
random crap and she kept going on and on and I asked her to stop plz and
she kept talking and screaming at me and I told her i was tired and i told her to
plz leave me alone and she started screaming so i told her to shut up! Shes driving me
nuts. And shes telling me to go to bed and it's fucking 9:00 and i said no im just on the computer
and plz dont talk to me. And wat the fuck should i do??

My mom has a fucking drinking problem and she wont stop drinking!!
im so mad right now.

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  • XanoXano Registered User regular
    edited August 2008
    Hey, I understand what you're going through; I've had similar family issues in the past.
    It could be that your mom is going through a difficult moment or phase right now, and she's having trouble getting things together. Although this is a really intense time - it will blow over, so remain calm.

    What is your mom's history like? does she get physically abusive? (IF so, get outside help ASAP) Have you tried contacting another family member about this yet? They may be able to give more suitable advice than the forums.

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  • trantramptrantramp Registered User regular
    edited August 2008
    How old are you man?

    I'd get the fuck out of there for a few hours or a day or two if you can. Stay at a friends place tell their parents whats up maybe.

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  • DjeetDjeet Registered User regular
    edited August 2008
    You're not going to be able to reason with her while she's drunk so don't even bother trying to. If you want to talk some sense into her, wait til she's sober (tomorrow) and talk to her then.

    Calm down, don't be angry. If you fight and argue with her she'll likely just drink more.

    If she's drunk and you're angry, then neither of you are really in a state for constructive action.

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  • WheezerWheezer Registered User regular
    edited August 2008
    I recommend talking to some other family members about this. All you need to tell them is what's going on. Perhaps your mother has a sister or a brother.

    Even so, it's difficult for you to change your mothers behaviour, and even more so alone. We on the forum can't really help that much either, but talking to someone else might.

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  • Fizban140Fizban140 Registered User, __BANNED USERS regular
    edited August 2008
    Take the car keys and hide them, lock yourself in your room.

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  • TubeTube Registered User admin
    edited August 2008
    if you have a sister or brother you can call do that, otherwise ignore her until she's sober and try and ride it out.

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  • KealohaKealoha Registered User regular
    edited August 2008
    I sincerely feel for you, OP. My mom used to be a huge drinker and once completely flipped out, destroying a lot of stuff in my room. She'd bought it all, so I had no real reason to get upset, but it was one of the scariest, most heartbreaking moments of my life to see her like that.

    I think, in order to get her to at least consider cutting back on her habit, you'll need to approach the subject gently. My mom gets really defensive if I try to say anything about drinking and will tell me that if I want to be judgmental I can move out. So, be wary of that, too. But try to let her know it's not just for you that you want her to cut back. And also, unless she realizes a need or desire to stop drinking, it's unlikely that she'll quit. Most people who are forced into recovery programs by someone else often relapse fairly quickly.

    I know it's tough, believe me, but I think you should talk to her about it, and definitely do it while she's sober. And if for a moment it gets too scary, or she becomes physically violent, or even verbally abusive, find a nearby relative or friend to stay with for a day or two. If she realizes she's created an unsafe or uncomfortable environment for one of her children, maybe she'll clean up a bit.

    Good luck.

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  • noobertnoobert Registered User regular
    edited August 2008
    I can't give any advice that hasn't already been given. But I feel for you man, my mother is a huge drinker too.

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  • BasarBasar IstanbulRegistered User regular
    edited August 2008
    noobert wrote: »
    I can't give any advice that hasn't already been given. But I feel for you man, my mother is a huge drinker too.

    Same here :( It's not like I care much anymore as I don't live with my parents anymore but everytime my father opens his mouth about my mom's drinking, she gets all defensive, and I mean really really fvckin defensive. She will start talking about how she has taken care of her children for years, did all the household work since she got married, and she deserves to drink o_O So sad really and I would love to talk some sense into her cause I love her so much but it seems impossible. She goes through a bottle of vodka in 3-4 days by herself :cry:

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  • RUNN1NGMANRUNN1NGMAN Registered User regular
    edited August 2008
    Call Al-Anon. No offense to the H/A crowd, but they will be a much better resource for you.

    http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

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