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Chop Logic

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Sheep

Sounds like you have it setup. You guys talk alot, have enough in common, know each other fairly well, go to school in the same area, and obviously you have good feelings for her.

It's 50/50. If you guys don't make it, that's just how it is. If you guys do make it, you'd be happy about that, right?

What would be worse is if you have one of those, "what if" regrets on your shoulders for some time.

I'd say it's worth it. The time you'd have together would be great anyway.

RocketSauce

I don't really buy it when you say that you're "in love with her". If you were, you probably wouldn't have broken up with her after almost 2 years, because you were bored and wanted to hang out with your buddies.

You're new at college, and I'm sure a part of you is probably wanting to find something familiar.

tsmvengy

WTF? There is no reason why you shouldn't get back together. Just do it already. But be sure you have time set aside to make friends and stuff in college. Don't go for 24/7 with this girl just because she's there and familiar. But seriously it sounds like you're looking for confirmation to do what you already know you want.

JUST DO IT.

Speakeasy

I'm just going to go ahead and say that perhaps you shouldn't get too wrapped up over this girl. Plenty of fish in the sea and all that. If you try and it works, then good for you. If you find yourself back into that situation you were in the first time around, learn to just drop it and move on. There's always that lingering feeling...perhaps that's what you are mistaking for love.

Deadfall

You're in college? I'm going to agree with Speakeasy.

I'm telling you, because I've been there in a similar situation that there are so many more interesting girls in college. It'd be almost impossible not to find someone else fun.

I am no expert at all, so take this how you will, but I'd move on. By reading what you've written, (and this is only my opinion), you want her because you stay in contact. You met her when you were fifteen? Move on.

In fact, I wouldn't even worry about dating someone in college. Make some friends, meet people. Make female friends that you don't intend to date. There is nothing better than a female friend.

That's just how I see it.

Erios

I'm throwing in my chips with Sheep. It really sounds like you want to but have some fears. Well guess what, risk is part of life and you damn well can try. If things don't work, you're a freshman in college for chrissake.

Trowizilla

Eh, give it a shot, but try to stop building her up in your head as this PERFECT GODDESS OF LOVE AND WONDER, because she's not.

If it doesn't work out, it's not the end of the world. You'll cry and mope for a couple of days and then go do the million other awesome things there are to do in college.

DiscoZombie

RocketSauce wrote: »

I don't really buy it when you say that you're "in love with her". If you were, you probably wouldn't have broken up with her after almost 2 years, because you were bored and wanted to hang out with your buddies.

You're new at college, and I'm sure a part of you is probably wanting to find something familiar.

this is what it sounds like to me, too. You obviously can't love her *that* much if you dumped her because she wasn't keeping you entertained 24/7. just being with someone you love should make you happy. but maybe her absence made your heart grow fonder. if you do get back together with her, try to learn from your mistakes and don't dump her over anything silly like boredom again. or if she does bore you, just find someone more exciting.

Chop Logic

Alright, thanks a lot guys. I'm going to talk to her tomorrow when we hangout so we'll see what happens. Will hopefully let you guys know what happened on Friday.

Derrick

I had a somewhat similiar situation (though I broke it off Junior year of high school with her because well, she was acting completely fucking crazy).

We picked up our relationship sophomore year of college, and had about 3 good years of love and romance afterwards.

I would suggest that you play the field a bit and stay friends, and see what happens. It really sounds to me that she's a good anchor for a transition period for you, and it's better overall not to get involved with her if you're looking for new shiny things.

Lacroix

Eh, give it a shot, but try to stop building her up in your head as this PERFECT GODDESS OF LOVE AND WONDER, because she's not.

This. Also i'm concerned by the way you throw around 'because there was nothing to do' as a legitimate excuse to dump her. Yes, college is exciting. College will end... then...what? You dump her again because life isn't exciting to you? If you couldn't be content to spend your time in an empty igloo with the woman, i'd say don't bother... you've dumped her once, don't make it harder. It's nice to be sympatico with tastes and stuff I agree, but a relationship can work well without those. You seem to be using an awful lot of 'we're into the same stuff' as part of the reason why she no longer bores you... don't do that.

That said. If you want her back and she will take you then god speed to you... but i think she's going to be the one who ends up getting hurt in all this. Make sure you really do want what you want. If you think you'll make a go of it for HER and not because of the exciting things there are around the area to do then do it.