Feeling Detached

Toxin01

Ever since this school year started, I've not really felt ... well, anything.

I was one of those people with a couple of very close friends, and some acquaintances to talk to in classes where I didn't know anyone.

Unfortunately, both of my friends have gotten Girlfriends (which isn't bad on it's own) and have, for the last 3-4 months, not wanted to do anything with me.

So for the last while I've been mostly alone, and it's kinda starting to get to me.

I'm horrible and making new friends, even more so since I play paintball as my main activity, which isn't very common.

I hate Football and Basketball. I also do not enjoy going to any school functions.

I know this is mostly my fault for having so few friends, but it doesn't change the fact I'm beginning to feel very isolated, and I think I may be starting to get depressed.


(I'm sorry if none of this made any sense.)

Cryogen

Toxin01 wrote: »

I hate Football and Basketball. I also do not enjoy going to any school functions.

Do you really hate these things, or just not really like them?

I say this for good reason. I used to avoid many things, because i wasnt really into them, under the justification that since i didnt like that activity then i was wasting my time, and i may as well just stay home. As a result, this is what actually happened. People stopped asking me to come along to anything, figuring i wouldnt be up for it i guess, or that i didnt like them.

A few years ago i decided i needed to massively revamp my life, and the way i was living it. This was after a major breakup, and i realized i had virtually no friends anymore. I started off by getting in contact with old friends and scheduling meet-ups to get the ball rolling again. That bit may or may not be any use to you. Also i'd started a new job, and i decided that i would attend every event i possibly could, through work, work colleagues, my new-old friends, whoever. Even if i thought it was going to be lame, i would make myself go. The alternative was to sit at home in front of the TV or computer.

What i've discovered is that there were a lot of things that are actually pretty fun, and a lot of things that really arent much fun but can be MADE fun by the people around. I went to a fundraiser with an Arabian Nights costume theme, complete with dancing. I thought it would suck, and the old me would never have gone in a million years. Dragged myself along anyway, and had a GREAT time. I knew ONE person in the room of 100+ people, but it was still a great laugh. I went to an Opera night at a local church (i dont even go to church) and dragged a couple of old friends along. Opera itself was ok in parts, boring in others, but the night overall was still fun just chatting to people. Theres also been nights which turned out rubbish where i was basically just waiting for a polite time to leave, but they were far far less frequent than i thought. Its ALWAYS worth trying. I still try to go to as many things as i can, and the more things you go to (and dont be afraid to try to rope other people into coming along!) the more things you in turn get invited to.

This advice may not actually be applicable to you, of course. I know for a fact its applicable to some forumers though, based on other H/A threads, so i still thought it was worth typing out

ChrisDude

This isn't really a long-term solution, but start doing stuff that you normally do by yourself in a place where there's a bunch of people. For example, if you normally do homework or surf the internet at home alone, head out and do it at a library or cafe instead. It's kind of interesting how just being around other people can make you feel not so alone.