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Possible dating triangle? Or something?

mellowshipslinkymellowshipslinky Registered User regular
edited November 2008 in Help / Advice Forum
So I've been giving the online dating thing a try lately, and have gotten plenty of messages from various fellows. None of them, however, really struck my fancy, and random browsing generally didn't yield much of anything better. So I decide to do a really picky search, and discover two guys that seemed to have some potential. I message them both, exchange back and forth a bit, then they both message me the same day asking if I wanted to go on a date. I think, well isn't this nice for me, and decide to go out with both of them and then just pursue things with whichever one seems the most promising. Fellow 1 ends up getting sick and putting things off until a later time, but I still go out with Fellow 2. I was slightly disappointed at this because I was honestly more excited about Fellow 1. But whatever. Fellow 2 is fine, we have a lot of similar interests and he's perfectly nice and normal. There isn't a tremendous amount of initial attraction, though. Just kind of... hey, you're alright. I went out on a second date with Fellow 2 tonight, with (finally) a lunch date set up with Fellow 1 for tomorrow. Fellow 2 mentioned having a roommate with the same name as Fellow 1. Huh, that's funny, I think. Then I get home later and start to really think about this. I think of a few more coincidences. Then some more. And I'm pretty much 95% sure these guys are roommates. I'm definitely going to ask Fellow 1 about this tomorrow, but I'm a little annoyed at how things have worked out, because I get the sense I'll find Fellow 1 more attractive than Fellow 2. But, because they're most likely friends, and because Fellow 2 essentially beat Fellow 1 to the punch, I'm imagining Fellow 1 will back off. Bros before hos, or whatever. So I guess I'm just trying to figure out how to handle this... maybe I'll end up hating Fellow 1 (or he'll hate me) and it won't be a problem, but if the opposite is the case, then what? Keep up the dates with Fellow 2, despite this fact I may be thinking,"Shit, I wish this was a date with Fellow 1?" Or maybe just say fuck this dating bullshit and stay home and watch some TV?

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  • ceresceres When the last moon is cast over the last star of morning And the future has past without even a last desperate warningRegistered User, Moderator Mod Emeritus
    edited November 2008
    Just... see what happens, I guess. Go to lunch with the guy. It was an online site after all, you guys aren't exactly talking relationship yet.. you're only two dates in with the one guy.

    Or fuck it and watch tv. That sounds good too.

    ceres on
    And it seems like all is dying, and would leave the world to mourn
  • mellowshipslinkymellowshipslinky Registered User regular
    edited November 2008
    Yeah, that's probably the obvious answer, go with the flow. I have this awful tendency to over think things and get all flustered!

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  • LiiyaLiiya Registered User regular
    edited November 2008
    You're probably best to wait until you know for certain they're roommates, it could just be a strange coincidence. Try not to let your over-thinking get in the way of having a good time on the date with fellow 1, for the time being theres no problem and like ceres says, its an online site and they won't be expecting a sudden relationship, its just a relaxed date.

    Liiya on
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