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getgoing21
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i love my gf of almost 4 yrs but lately i feel as tho we are drifting farther apart. b4 we used to talk on the phone but now we just have dead silence on the phone until she says that she has to go do something. when i ask her whats she going to do she is really secretive bout it all. i have actually caught her at some lies but i havent told her that i know yet. i think she might be seeing her old bf or someone else. when i touch her she seems kind of stand offish. even the sex has gone down hill. she doesnt get turned on by anything i do. is she being unfaithful? i dont know what to do. i love her very much and i dont want to lose her. please help.
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So the "get her pregnant, and then her dad will accept me for some reason" scheme didn't work?
http://forums.penny-arcade.com/showthread.php?t=75648
Assuming you're a real person, it sounds like things are over. She's shutting you out of her life, and lying. (What are the lies, by the way?) It's very likely she's seeing someone else on the side. With what little you've said I'm not sure what could be done to help things.
i am a real person with a real problem.
if you guys agreed you wanted a baby so you could get married, and she's actively trying not to have a baby, that should definitely tell you that she definitely does not want a baby, and almost certainly does not want to marry.
also the lying thing... if she's really slipping with names on the phone then she really isnt very apprehensive or cautious about it anymore, which likely means it's been going on a while.
you need to talk to her and tell her what you know.
if she still denies everything then it's up to you to make the choice, but my last girlfriend lied to me to the last word about cheating, even though i had the evidence right there in front of her.
it's going to hurt to admit, but it's time.
However, all signs seem to indicate she doesn't want to be with you. She certainly doesn't appear to want to marry you. You should probably break it off now and start moving on.
Or, alternatively, you could get a puppy together. That might be more in line with previous problem solving attempts by the OP.
Break up.
Okay, thread done.
NOT A TROLL!!!
But there is some other stuff going on here. Your biography timeline is fucked. Family matters have been under or misrepresented. You're looking for something, a trick, a thing to do, something, to get things back on track. There is something you're hiding, either intentionally because you think it puts you in a bad light, or unintentionally because you simply have no desire to look in that direction.
Whatever the fuck it is, there is a big goddamn elephant you're specifically not mentioning, and I would put good money that it is the major factor in play here. Until you start being honest with yourself and your situation, you wont come up with anything tangible.
There is no magic bullet, no enchanted to-do list. One cannot lawyer or trick their way through love. You can grow, you can change, you can learn all kinds of things about yourself and how people see you, you can accept the world as it is. What you can't do is make something real out of desire, you can't make nothing out of something, and you can't change who you have been up until this very moment. All you can do is change moving forward.
The situation around you is already in play; the only way to change that situation in the future is to make honest and applicable changes within yourself. Learn, adapt, move. Anything else just results in more of the same.
No... wait... what's the opposite of awesome again?
Super awesome.