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Roommate and His Girlfriend (You guessed it)
Bwah?
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So I share an apartment style dorm in which I have my own room and share a kitchen,bathroom, and living room with another person (who also has their own room). Lately said roommates girlfriend comes over for 2-3 days at a time. A couple weeks ago when I was actually having sex (we're quiet as to be respectful) I thought I heard someone standing over us breathing hard..so we stopped and we heard my roommates girlfriend making noises breathing heavily etc..it was obvious what was going on and it was quite comical.
Fast forward several weeks, and I'm tired of being woken up at 7am..11pm whatever the time. Now I find myself blaring music just to study or have some peace even during lunchtime. I can give leeway to the situation but today it's really come to a breaking point. At three points within 2 hours I've been forced to either leave my apartment or play music to cover up the noise. I admit it was funny at first but now it's fucking disrespectful. I guess they assume loud TV volume must cover up moaning? No.
So here's my predicament...I'm a pretty non-confrontational guy. I want to say something but don't really know how. I know I don't want to leave a passive-aggressive note, or immediately go to a housing admin. The logical explanation would be to mention something to him without being harsh, but I feel that it's still risky because if said roommate gets offended and doesn't tell me- god knows what will happen to my toothbrush, items in my room, dishes etc.
PS maybe it wouldn't be so bad if she was a hot porn star or something. But no, she looks like that beast from aliens 4
So P/A any advice...?
Fast forward several weeks, and I'm tired of being woken up at 7am..11pm whatever the time. Now I find myself blaring music just to study or have some peace even during lunchtime. I can give leeway to the situation but today it's really come to a breaking point. At three points within 2 hours I've been forced to either leave my apartment or play music to cover up the noise. I admit it was funny at first but now it's fucking disrespectful. I guess they assume loud TV volume must cover up moaning? No.
So here's my predicament...I'm a pretty non-confrontational guy. I want to say something but don't really know how. I know I don't want to leave a passive-aggressive note, or immediately go to a housing admin. The logical explanation would be to mention something to him without being harsh, but I feel that it's still risky because if said roommate gets offended and doesn't tell me- god knows what will happen to my toothbrush, items in my room, dishes etc.
PS maybe it wouldn't be so bad if she was a hot porn star or something. But no, she looks like that beast from aliens 4
So P/A any advice...?
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Change that shit and nicely inform your room mate that it's messing with your quality of life and you would like for them to hold it down or take it else where.
Be light hearted about it. Honestly, they probably have no idea. And it's sex, so he's not thinking straight.
"Hey man, I don't mind your lady coming by, but I'm hearing quite a bit of your fun lately. You're a good roommate, but hearing the play by play of your sex life is a shade distracting, you know? Help a guy out? Maybe start gagging her, cause that can be pretty hot?"
You know, be fun with it but get the point across.
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If that's not an option then talking to the roomie works well too. Unless he's a jerk it won't be a big deal.
Maybe some congrats are warranted for puttin it to her so well.
Just so that you kind of let him know that you know he's doing it and you don't really want to be around when they're doing it, and that makes him tell you he's doing it and puts a time limit on it?
It's just an idea based on one of my friends at college and his roomie. Every once in a while his roomie would come in and go, "Hey comrade! Grape soda?" and we'd all clear the premises.
He already can and does leave. The problem is that it's not fair to be frequently forced out of your house, much less in the middle of the night. This does not solve that problem. Plus, nothing to help the mood like thinking "Wait, I have to go tell my roommate we're about to have sex" and "Oh no we're almost out of time!" :P
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The way this house was built the only thing separating his room from another friends room was a door with a dresser in front of it. So yeah - you can imagine.
Critical Failures - Havenhold Campaign • August St. Cloud (Human Ranger)
Or for added awkwardness, change the last part to "seven minutes".
I am two rooms away too.
or just tell him straight to his face like right now
Unless you have a gf he is going to get the you are just mad cause you are not getting liad.
Not been in this situation myself, but I like the Christmas gift suggestion.
then he is dumb and you should punch him in the stomach and repeat it a second time
i am the best friend
(he has a gf)
Critical Failures - Havenhold Campaign • August St. Cloud (Human Ranger)
Did you post over in SE++ because then you were just asking for it. This also doesn't mean his roomie is going to be a jerk about keeping it down or get mad and say it's because the OP is
It's been awhile since the first post I wonder if the OP has spoke to his roomie yet and how it worked out.
Good idea. Open the door and just gaze at them for a few seconds. Say "IT PUTS THE SOCK IN ITS MOUTH OR IT GETS THE HOSE AGAIN!" and throw a sock at them. It would help if you were holding a garden hose. They will never have sex over there again.
Maybe sit down with a bag of chips or something. When they ask what the hell you're doing, just say you thought you'd finally see the production they're putting on.
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No, seriously, though. There's enough good ways to deal with this in the thread already. Just man up.
Playing music doesn't help much when if it's not moans of carnal pleasure, it's music to cover moans of carnal pleasure that are waking me up at 4 in the morning on a work night.
I tried to keep it light, but admit that I wasn't faultless in the situation. I should've been clearer about things, given them more privacy and whatnot, but eventually it came down to us moving apart. Shame too, it was a good deal on the place; 3 bdrm for $400 a month rent apiece, no hydro, 2 bathrooms and split phone/cable.
Critical Failures - Havenhold Campaign • August St. Cloud (Human Ranger)
It doesn't hold as much weight when you don't have a significant other at the time. Going solo could of course be an option, but not nearly as fun.
But much creepier, which could also get them to shut up.
Yeah, that's it...touch me there. Hmmm.