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Need female advice about female parts
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My fiance has really bad cramps during her cycle. She says taking midol is like taking tic tacs. I tried giving her pamprin, and she said it was like taking different flavored tic tacs.
I really want to help her out. Any ladies out there have advice? Shes a big fan of natural and herbal remedies, as am I.
Thanks.
I really want to help her out. Any ladies out there have advice? Shes a big fan of natural and herbal remedies, as am I.
Thanks.
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light exercise also helps, especially stretching and some of my friends use a heating pad (that makes 'em worse for me)
But the gym is a great idea. We've both been talking about wanting to work out more.
No magic herbs from a secret mountain in southern Japan then?
EDIT: Calcium! brilliant, thanks
What hasn't been mentioned yet, is sex. Sex can actually help out with cramps especially when you hit the orgasm stage. So don't be afraid of the blood, and get to it!
Hmmm...chocolate, massage, and gettin jiggy...
I like ur advice best so far 8-)
Midol and Pamprin are okay for PMS, but for cramps I personally find them both to be useless compared to plain ibuprofen, because NSAIDs actually help with the pooling and clotting of blood in the uterus (eww).
[edit: DON'T MIX PAIN DRUGS without talking to a pharmacist first]
As for more natural stuff, I'm addicted to those little stick-on heating pads that you can wear under your clothing, also there are some yoga positions that are really good for dealing with cramps.
keep all drinks warm or hot
it's important to keep herself warm both inside and out
she can take all the hot baths and use all the heating pads she wants, but if she downs something iced or otherwise chilled, that does more harm than good
Ok, so this was in the late sixties so I dunno what kind of pills or medication they had back then, but my mom said she sometimes lost conciousness during her periods. Not everyone will react the same to menstruation.
Also keeping active is important, don't just lay around. I'm not saying she should do jumping jacks, but just move around when possible.
She should go the doctor if they are that bad, really. They can help and they can also make sure she isn't suffering from ovarian cysts as well, which I did and also hurt a helluva lot.
I used to faint and pass out from my cramps, it's just a process to find out which helps you the most.
The private reasons I totally respect and it's always up to each and everyone what to do with their bodies. I just want to point out here that her hormonal levels probably already are messed up, hence the horrid cramps. What the pill generally does is to un-mess them.
Does she have ouchie-boobs or other red flags right before she hits Crampsville? Those are how I know to start avoiding caffeine (or blame Mountain Dew for extra pain) and stock up on ibuprofen. Warm baths and back rubs are the only other "natural" remedies I can recommend; heating pads just seem to highlight the pain for me, oddly.
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And hormonal BC is exactly as natural as wearing clothes and cooking your food. The only reasons not to take it apart from 'don't wanna' are if it doesn't work for you, or if you're trying to get knocked up.
Add in a vote for exercise and a multivitamin, but a visit to a competent OB-GYN for a checkup is also sensible if you can afford it. Define 'competent' as 'doesn't dismiss severe discomfort as something she should shrug and deal with'.
Doesn't BC have the potential to affect sex drive or whatnot? Just an aside consideration.
While I certainly don't think it's a moral issue, this is both unhelpful and uncalled for. Boo, hiss.
Its really not. Anti-BC hysteria is ridiculous and terrible, and its proponents should be beaten with sticks until the stupid runs out.
t SkyNeGhe: In some people, depending on the formulation. And its not always unwelcome, strange as that may seem to some. YMMV, basically, but its only a problem if the person taking it defines it as such.
Moral does not always mean "OLOL GOD TOLD ME NOT TO" but can sometimes mean "I'd really like to have children some day and I don't want to risk fucking with my biologic clock by feeding it synthetic hormones."
Although it's probably just scaremongering by anti-contraception-ists.
Some people just don't like being "unnatural," either, though.
And as I said, 'unnatural' is illogical nonsense for anyone who doesn't live in a tree. People are entitled to use that as a reason, but that doesn't make it any less ridiculous, and I'm not wrong to point that out, so the whiners can all shut up.
Hormonal BC has its pluses and minuses, these vary by person and life circumstance, but in the end there've been, no joke, an order of magnitude more clinical trials done on that class of drugs than any other. Its quite literally the safest thing on the market, by that measure.
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One of the largest religions of the world is dogmatically opposed to birth control. Whatever the reasons for that, I don't think it's especially helpful to anyone to label every person who holds that belief a "retard." I was stating the fact that some people find it immoral, because maybe the OPs girlfriend is one of those people. Classy choice of words by the way.
This. A certain amount of pain comes with the territory, but if her cramps are truly that bad, it's probably a sign that something else is wrong. Get her to a gyno, because if regular OTC pain pills can't cut it, it'll be helpful to know why.
This definitely depends on the woman. I am very, very sensitive during my period and any sort of sexual touch is painful. Even showers can hurt if I'm not careful. So if you do consider going this route, be aware she may not be up for it.
That said, a little light exercise not focused on the crotchel region does indeed help.
But I don't have a boyfriend and am thus not worried about getting preggers. Once I am no longer single and expecting to get laid on a regular basis, marching myself down to the doc to get on the ring is probably the first thing I'll do...
*more yucky personal details to follow*
Anyway, one of the great things about being aware of my own cycle is that I know when is best to take the drugs. I often know when I'm ovulating, for example (I get this weird not-quite-crampy feeling and I'm REALLY HORNY), I know when I am PMSing, and that I have 36-48 hours after that before I start bleeding.
Now the part that is more relevant to the OP is this. I do have pretty bad cramps, (not as bad as my sister who HAD to go on HBC at 15 to relieve them), but they're bad. I have the timing down pat though. Once I see blood, I know I have just over an hour to take 3 (always 3) ibuprofens, because if I don't, I will be on the floor in the fetal position and possibly vomiting. So I take the ibuprofens. BEFORE the cramping starts.
After that, I keep taking them at regular intervals, never more than what they're labeled for, but in fairly high dosages. And drink lots of vitamin waters or juice. Cranberry especially is good.
The next thing I do is take a nice long shit at first opportunity. Clear out everything I can from the area, makes it feel less crampy, and even though it's a totally different place in the body, pooping totally makes me feel much better.
After that, I'm usually fine to go about my normal business for a while, even though I'd rather stay at home in bed, if possible. Sometimes I'm lucky and my day off will be thus timed. Otherwise I just gotta deal.
Red wine helps. So does a heating pad, for me. Chocolate does not help me with cramps, although it does placate me a little two days earlier when I'm PMSing. Coffee is BAD. Coffee makes them WORSE.
And if there happens to be a nice boy around just to gently rub my tummy, that is awesome and much better than a heating pad.
So that's my method. The real point is, however, that every woman is different. If your girl friend is insistent upon staying off the HBC, she needs to find what works for her. Take drugs BEFORE the cramps start, that's really the best advice I got. No magic natural herb I know of, just learning your own body inside out and dealing with it accordingly.
While sick, it sometimes does help. Though right now, I've been doing that a lot (oh how I hate menstrual diarrhea) and my uterus feels like someone is clawing it with a hammer or something. Almost threw up too. Was planning on going in to contest my grade but nooooooo, stupid period.
But yes, pooing sometimes helps.
So, no more chemical birth control for me. I just won't do it again, and I can't really recommend the experience, honestly. That's not to say it doesn't work out for most people, but when a woman says she doesn't want to put that stuff in her body, I don't call her ridiculous or a whiner. But I don't know, I guess that's just me having perspective and being reasonable.
OP, I always found that naproxin (aka Aleve or anaprox) worked best for me, but that stuff's not really good to pound down either as it can cause damage to your stomach lining. Heating pads are good.. I've also found that elevating my pelvis helps a lot.. possibly more than any other position I can be in. You can do this by 'lying' on your stomach with your knees under you, or lying flat on your back with your pillows under your rear instead of your head. I also find that drinking lots of water helps.
Edit: Cat, you are the one who stole it in the first place! Saying that some people find birth control immoral is stating a fact. It is not an attack, or a precursor to an attack, and requires a pre-emptive strike in much the same way President Bush feels things require pre-emptive strikes. Calm down.
However, the fact that some people find it immoral is, and I'm not sorry to say this, unnutterably stupid from a medical standpoint. The belief, in this age of readily available information, reflects nothing more than wilful ignorance - and in places where information access is restricted, the wilfully ignorant who pass on that belief to those who can't check for themselves become outright malevolent (hello Africa).
And no, the fact that a lot of people think something doesn't make it any less stupid. A lot people think Obama is bin Laden in a mask. That doesn't make their belief worthy of respect. Especially when the abortion rate is so much higher among those people who refuse to use birth control, and double especially when at least one subset actually use it at a very high rate while lying their asses off about it.
Moral reasons may thrown up as reason not to go on the pill, but those reasons are based on medical misinformation and lies. They are stupid reasons.
Someone might see that taking an action that results in an increased risk of Jaundice, cancer, or death as an immoral decision. But this is all semantics and that could arguably be both. Let's save this for the tri-monthly abortion thread in D&D and agree that HBCP tend to have a net positive effect for the person using it, and that the best way to resolve cramps is finding a method that is pleasant for the woman.
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