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chopin16
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Have pity on a poor bastid, H&A. :shock: I am already aware of how hopelessly adolescent this is all going to sound.
I have these two lady friends, see. First girl, "R", I've been great pals with for about a year, and second girl, "E", I've just become friends with a few months ago. Both of them are great friends to each other as well. Quite often, all three of us will hang out together as part of a larger group.
Anyways, they've both recently expressed an interest in me. E is gorgeous, a great musician, and has great taste in both video games and underwear. She's also very laid back and easy to talk to. I remember feeling remarkably comfortable around her not at all long after meeting her, which is rare for me. R is someone I don't find particularly attractive physically. She's also very, very shy. Normally I wouldn't complain about this, because I suffer from the same condition, but sometimes being around her feels really painfully awkward because she's holding back so much, even though we've known each other for so long (increasingly, lately). Besides that, though, she's an absolutely brilliant conversationalist, very funny, a talented writer, blah blah blah... basically, she's awesome friend material, perhaps my best friend, but I haven't ever really thought of her in a romantic sense.
My inclination is to take up E's offer, not R's, and I kind of feel terrible about it. R is a really shy and sensitive person and she's pretty much writing me love poems at this point. How can I tell R that I'm really not interested in her romantically, but I still think she's brilliant and I think of her as one of my closest friends? Without fucking up our friendship completely, that is.
There's also this thing about going out with E when E and R are close friends themselves. Advice on this would be appreciated, too, if you've got any.
tl;dr - How do you tell a good friend that you're not interested in them romantically without having them never speak to you again?
:arrow: (we're juniors in high school, if it matters)
I have these two lady friends, see. First girl, "R", I've been great pals with for about a year, and second girl, "E", I've just become friends with a few months ago. Both of them are great friends to each other as well. Quite often, all three of us will hang out together as part of a larger group.
Anyways, they've both recently expressed an interest in me. E is gorgeous, a great musician, and has great taste in both video games and underwear. She's also very laid back and easy to talk to. I remember feeling remarkably comfortable around her not at all long after meeting her, which is rare for me. R is someone I don't find particularly attractive physically. She's also very, very shy. Normally I wouldn't complain about this, because I suffer from the same condition, but sometimes being around her feels really painfully awkward because she's holding back so much, even though we've known each other for so long (increasingly, lately). Besides that, though, she's an absolutely brilliant conversationalist, very funny, a talented writer, blah blah blah... basically, she's awesome friend material, perhaps my best friend, but I haven't ever really thought of her in a romantic sense.
My inclination is to take up E's offer, not R's, and I kind of feel terrible about it. R is a really shy and sensitive person and she's pretty much writing me love poems at this point. How can I tell R that I'm really not interested in her romantically, but I still think she's brilliant and I think of her as one of my closest friends? Without fucking up our friendship completely, that is.
There's also this thing about going out with E when E and R are close friends themselves. Advice on this would be appreciated, too, if you've got any.
tl;dr - How do you tell a good friend that you're not interested in them romantically without having them never speak to you again?
:arrow: (we're juniors in high school, if it matters)
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For starting something with this "E" you're going to have to show interest aswell. Make it known because if you don't it could be that perfect catch you let swim away from your boat.
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Say exactly that. It might seem like it hurts at first, but it's better than being strung along.