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Want to date the girl across the hall.
bigpanda
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So there's this girl that lives across the hall that I've been crushing on for like the last year. I only run into her every once in a while, but every time I see her I get all tongue tied and feel like I'm back in high school. Typically I wouldn't make a move because I'm afraid it would be like dating somebody from work and would get weird if we parted on bad circumstances. Hell, it's possible that she has a boyfriend but I've never seen her with a dude (or a chick for that matter).
If there's a general consensus to go for it, anyone have any ideas as to how to increase the probability of running into her without seeming like a complete freak or a stalker.
If there's a general consensus to go for it, anyone have any ideas as to how to increase the probability of running into her without seeming like a complete freak or a stalker.
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have you ever formally introduced yourself?
I mean it could be the one and since you only run into her once in a while should it go bad it will not be much of an issue.
As for the actual meet why not simply knock on her door? Don't bring flowers or stuff like that simply say "Hello" and tell her you have noticed her and ask her out for coffe, Ice cream or something like that as a quick informal way to meet. If she says no without slamming the door shut then ask if some other time might be better.
That was maybe in October. The last time I saw her was before Christmas but she was pulling into the garage and I was pulling out. I've been out of state for the last 3 weeks and have only been back for two days so I haven't seen her recently.
As long as you exchange pleasantries and you're not the "weird guy across the hall who has never spoken to me" you should be good.
if knocking on her door seems iffy to you, then i would say that to me it would honestly seem a lot less creepy than hanging out around your hallway waiting for her. worst case she might think you're a bit direct, but that's better than creepy.
example:
"hey how's it going... i've been wondering if you'd like to go out for a couple drinks sometime... maybe we could finally get to know each other <big smile>."
just be friendly, flesh things out and if she's already with someone it will come up eventually in your conversation. at the very least, you'll have a new friend across the hall to chill with.
Do you know her name? Her friends? That might be a good way to find out a bit more basic info before you just dive in.
If by "across the hall" you literally mean she lives next door to you, you should just knock and say hey i've seen you around a few times do you have a boyfriend and if not would you like to get coffee not that it would be a date but so that such a boyfriend would not become jealous if one were to exist.
-Begin Making Cookies
-"Whoops I have no eggs"
-Ask cute neighbor to borrow eggs
-Finish making cookies
-Bring cute neighbor an offering of cookies for her trouble.
-Continue talking to cute neighbor
Ah. This is an age thing, I guess. My automatic assumption was that the OP lived in an apartment building, and the girl's apartment was on the other side of the same hallway.
Just as long as were not both wrong and the situation isn't you living at home and the girl in question isn't your little sister, the advice ought to be the same regardless. Be friendly, say hi, ask her to do something casual like go get coffee so you can get to know her better in a neutral, no-pressure environment.
added: I normally don't like cheap tricks or things, but Monolithic_Dome is clearly a smooth criminal.
I do like Monolithic's suggestion. I was thinking of asking to borrow a cup of sugar, but yeah, kind of indirect and non-threatening. Hadn't thought of returning the favor with cookies though. Very nice sir, I like your style.
It's gold! Gold I say!
Or have a small party and invite her over.
but they're listening to every word I say
I came here to say this but with cake.
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
I'll probably stick with the cookies over cake unless I run into her beforehand and something develops. I'm thinking they'll be easier to work with and I don't really have the cake pans I'd need. Although I suppose I could ask to borrow those, I'd have to return them so there would be a second conversation there.
What sucks is that I'm all ready to do this now, but I'm sicker than a dog. Last thing I want is to be the jerk that gave her a cold.
Sounds like I've got some baking plans for the weekend though.
Dude. More as in "I should hang out with BigPanda more often."
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
Then you find out she's a devout vegan. >_>
Nah, seriously, this is pure gold, and it made my day. Kudos.
But for real, something like this or the "You know, I just realized, we've been living next to each other all this time and I don't know much about you. You wanna get some coffee sometime?" Breaking the ice will be the hardest part. And if she says no, well...you said yourself you only see her once in a while so it's no big loss.
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Hehe, borrow a vegan ingredient and then use it to make a vegan batch and omni batch
it is fucking gold
arguably the best thing to come out of h/a in a long time
ever, really
make sure the cookies dont taste like shit.
true story
Peanuts, for instance. Don't want to give the girl a hospital trip for her trouble.
Or do you?
Pretty hall girl, having passed out is thrown over OP guy's shoulder, and taken to the hospital. rescued if you will. She awakes to see him by her side, having saved her life
The only date I ever had in the dorms was on Valentine's Day, and I invited this girl I liked from one of the floors upstairs to come down and have dinner with me in my room. I got everything all fancy, made a little makeshift table in the dorm room, and cooked chicken in the stove that was in the lounge area's kitchen...
... but though it looked cooked on the outside, cutting into it it quickly became apparent that it was raw on the inside.
There wasn't a second date.
Sorry, I got a bit lost in the narrative there. What I'm trying to say is, be sure if you make something for her that you have more than just best intentions to back it up... learn how to do whatever it is you intend to do for her.
I mention this because I only buy eggs as I need them, so if someone came to my door asking for eggs, 90% of the time I'd have none to lend. But everyone has an extra couple tablespoons of butter if you realize you're short.
I'm thinking a Saturday or Sunday baking session might be in order though.
In the event that they do, it might be wise to pay your bakery a visit.
Also, I think it would be awesome if we could get her in on the baking. For example: *knock* "Oh, hey, I made a small trial batch, what do you think? Pretty terrible aren't they... hey, you wouldn't like maybe to come over and give me some tips would you? Oh, you would! Coolio!" You guys go back to your place, bake and goof around, then have a good chat over coffee and cookies.
The only thing is, I can't really conceive a way of doing it that doesn't seem a so forward. And the fact that it is purposely planned kinda seems a bit seedy to me. Perhaps it should just be left until you're a little more familiar with eachother. Anyway, was just an idea that I thought might be cool.
Hope it all goes swimmingly OP, and get well soon.
Yeah be careful with inviting someone over to cook. A week ago I offered to make dinner for a girl I've been seeing, and she gushed about how impressed she was because she can't cook anything. Then I offered to push dinner back by an hour so she could get in on the cooking with me so we could make something together, and she suddenly felt intimidated. Long story short, we're going out for dinner tomorrow night instead.
For example
You: "I have these extra cookies, you don't happen to like oatmeal raisin do you?"
Girl: "I love them."
You: "You're kidding, what a crazy random happenstance."
If she gets that, BUY A RING.