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Good question! It's good practice in general, even among people who have no sexual experience--and it's not for your protection, it's for hers. Oral herpes simplex infections are predominantly caused by the virus strain HSV-1, which is easily transmitted in droplets of saliva. The majority of genital herpes cases are caused by the HSV-2 strain, but the proportion of cases caused by the HSV-1 strain are increasing. Many researchers attribute this to unprotected oral sex.
The "shedding" phase of HSV-1's cycle is much shorter than HSV-2's, so transmission is still significantly less likely even without protection, but generally speaking it's still not a bad idea.
Yeah I didn't know that. Oral is pretty awesome though, both ways. I don't know why buts its a lot of fun. I usually hold the back of the thight to so you can feel tenseing.
Being in the medical field you find out a lot of really creepy stuff people do to actually stay healthy and attractive. Like bleaching your sphincter.
Is that safe? That can't be safe.
Why would you do that?
Who sees someone's sphincter regularly enough to begin to justify such a thing? And what's wrong with the normal color of a sphincter?
What IS the color of a sphincter?
I'm so confused now.
I guess your partner would see it a lot if you liked "doggy-style" or some other position that is similiar. Some people may be self conscience i guess.
Enlighten us bowen any other weird things :P
Also, the smell of rotting flesh is mildly sweet after the "gag your organs out" phase.
Also people who get their teeth pulled out and replaced with metal teeth or plastic teeth so they don't have to brush them anymore.
There's an internal sphincter and an external sphincter. The external one is the brown eye, the internal one is the one that controls whether or not the shit is coming out.
They both make up your anus. Which is what people usually call it. Meh.
Sorry, it was my horrified response that prompted this, I apologize.
Don't sweat it man. I do the same thing nearly every time my GF and I have sex. I always fumble around for a condom in the drawer of my nightstand. Then she has to get me back up again. We always laugh about it.
I just realized we laugh about my penis
That would be weird walking around with a condom on and the smell of latex may be over powering?
Also what if there were doing oral, I though I guess it is safer to do oral with a condom so that works.
I would just say try practising a bit first, like putting one on I mean.
Does anyone else do masturebate if they know there are going to be having sex later on to make it last longer? I've done that before to, kinda like a mental stimulus. You know you've already gone through your first 'round' so you don't have to worry about it as much. I guess everyone has there own tricks though
However, what I meant was more like just having the package around. Actually opening it and putting it on early is definitely a good idea if you can tolerate doing that (and I think I did mention that before), but short of that a compromise would be to keep the package, unopened, in an easier place to reach than in a drawer. Put it on top of the nightstand for example, or if your bed is next to a window put it on the window sill... or just hold the package in your hand if you must (as a bonus, the condom and packaging isn't icy cold if you've been holding the package... which is a concern if you live in an area that gets really cold
... god damnit, I can't un-see it.
And to be helpful to the thread; what they all said. Relax, have fun, take it easy. My first time lasted 30 seconds. The second and third times (same encounter); 1.5 min and 5 min. When else can you triple your 'best score' twice in a row?
I say this in jest, of course; quality over quantity, just make sure all involved are having a good time and understand she's likely just as nervous as you are, if not moreso.
The part that should really make you go
My advice to you: delegate. Make her go get the condom. Make her open it. Hell, make her put it on you. You just lie there and watch her prance around naked.
15? You were lucky! I had to escape into the next room and jerk for about 10 mins just to get hard, and then followed a half-hour saga of "I'm trying... you're too right... ow! Ow ow ow! More lube! Does... no... goddamnit!"
In other words, welcome to the club, kid.
Man don't do this. Maybe if you asked she would, some women don't mind, but in the end, it's your wang, it's your responsibility to get it covered.
ORAL!
I didn't think my school was that great lol...but they did make everyone in the class put condoms on bananas. As funny as it was with everyone laughing. I never realized that other people had so many problems with getting them on right. But I think that practice without actually being in the moment was really helpful.
Oh! Also my teacher in HS talked briefly about dental dams. She said that you could make one out of a square of saran wrap. I didn't even know you bought the things. I've never used one, but I haven't been with many people. If I hadn't ended up married so early I probably would have.
I sympathize with you OP. My first time was an awkward time. The biggest problem was that the condom ended up being too small. And then we're fighting to get this thing on. My husband doesn't need magnums, but the lifestyles we got were just too small wouldn't go on...eventually it happens but, yeah. Still a mood killer.
It seems like people get the impression the first time is supposed to go smoothly and magically, but when you put 2 virgins together it is just a recipe for "Well MY first time..." stories to happen. Don't worry though, it gets better...once you start having sex regularly you can discover what each other likes and that's the fun part.
I'd just like to add that I've always enjoyed having the girl put the condom on me. It's worth a shot.
Important fact: don't use microwave-safe saran wrap for this purpose. It's slightly porus to let air and moisture through so that it doesn't stretch and melt into your food. It doesn't take too much imagination to realize how something that will let air and moisture through it isn't that great for prevent the transmission of diseases carried by bodily fluids.
Um and apparently you shouldn't use the non-microwave safe version, either?
They lied to me! ;-D
Saran caught on for food storage because it was less permeable to oxygen and water vapor than other plastics. I may be completely wrong, but it's permeability is much higher than polyurethane, however made up in elasticity.
Uh. She does do that.
I'm not really the one asking for advice though.