Girl Advice

Ckfire

Well I'm new to the forum and I need some advice if you don't mind imparting your wisdom.

There's this girl that I've been known to like for many years, when people think of me and who I am interested in pursuing a relationship with they think of her.

But I've finally moved on and know that it is just a dream, because No matter how hard I tried I couldn't get her.

Now there's this new girl who I've known for a while, but who tries to avoid any compliments I give her or what she deems "advances" and I can't even just have a conversation with her without her thinking that she's leading me on, and that's all because of what people think about my situation with the earlier girl.

I'm tired of these preconceptions and the fact that because of them she won't give me a chance, but I think we're getting closer as friends, but what should I do?

Chalk it up to a lost cause?

Don't pursue? Tell her my thoughts?

Any thoughts?

Edit:Okay That's all the advice I need thanks.

Mojo the Avenger

sounds like she's not interested.

sounds like you kind of screwed yourself.

if you want to take a crack at fixing your reputation you could make a move on this girl and when she rejects you just stop talking to her. On the other hand it sounds like you're becoming friends so if you dont want to torpedo that then take the middle road and stop complimenting her. Be wary of your own behavior, make sure you're not treating her differently.

I'd get the idea of dating her out of your head though, from the way you describe her behavior she's not interested.

Consider that perhaps your reputation isn't the only reason she isn't giving you a chance. She might just not be into you.

Cynic Jester

Wait, wait. You're known as the guy who pines over girls, and a friend of yours, most likely aware of this, is being as straight forward as she can be on the matter that she doesn't see anything happening in the future and that you shouldn't pine for her?

Sorry man, but that's how I see it. Whether intentional or not, you've probably been giving out vibes and she's just letting you know instead of stringing you along, which in my eyes is an awesome thing on her part. It might not be what you want to hear, but it beats being strung along for years hoping that something will develop. It's good that she cares enough about your friendship to tell you straight. Takes guts.

Ckfire

Welp of course I thought about all that, too stubborn to give in. But okay you guys are right, friendship's the highroad this time, and I'll take it. Let my rep cool down. Thanks all.

Ckfire

Lol how do you lock your thread if you're done with it?