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The "Help me to know if it's flirting" Thread
DoctorArch
CurmudgeonRegistered User regular
CurmudgeonRegistered User regular
Dear H/A, I need your help.
Okay, some background info on me. I was married for almost five years, and dated for two years before that. Last January (2008) my wife and I filed for divorce (religious issues that spread into other issues), and since then I've had one semi-serious girlfriend (two months) a few aborted attempts at getting to know someone better, and one awesome & genuine opposite sex friend with whom I watch chick flicks with (I have no problem admitting it :P).
As of right now I am in a good mental and emotional place and am not actively seeking out romantic connections. Now, having said that, if something falls into my lap I won't question the whims of happenstance & fate and will accept that I should give something a shot. My problem is that after almost seven years of monogamy, most of the mental switches that tell me if someone has a genuine romantic interest in me simply do not work. Here is the current situation.
Tuesday I discover a fantastic new shop in downtown. Going in I order a drink (a 75% dark chocolate mocha), and in walks a beautiful, tall, slender woman with dark red hair and rich brown eyes. Anyways, she goes behind the counter, looks at me and eye contact is not broken for several minutes as we talk about the shop. I thank her for my drink and leave.
Thursday I head to the main branch (the first store was a smaller version) where, as luck has it, she is working there as well. She recognizes me immediately and says "You found us at the bigger store!" While there are a few other customers, she comes out and walks with me showing me everything on the shelves and giving me her recommendations and we chat about the merchandise while looking at each other and making eye contact nearly the entire time. I've worked in retail long enough to know when it's a sales pitch and when it's not, and this definitely wasn't. After getting another drink (fantastic 80% hot chocolate) I leave. Deciding to get a book that she showed me, I come back an hour later, where I notice that she is sitting in the backroom, of which there is a direct view to the main door. As I enter she comes out from the back and says "you came back!" We talk some more and then I go home for the day.
So, what is it? I would like to think she's flirting with me, but after being out of the game for so long, I simply don't know if it's real or just my neurons misfiring.
Okay, some background info on me. I was married for almost five years, and dated for two years before that. Last January (2008) my wife and I filed for divorce (religious issues that spread into other issues), and since then I've had one semi-serious girlfriend (two months) a few aborted attempts at getting to know someone better, and one awesome & genuine opposite sex friend with whom I watch chick flicks with (I have no problem admitting it :P).
As of right now I am in a good mental and emotional place and am not actively seeking out romantic connections. Now, having said that, if something falls into my lap I won't question the whims of happenstance & fate and will accept that I should give something a shot. My problem is that after almost seven years of monogamy, most of the mental switches that tell me if someone has a genuine romantic interest in me simply do not work. Here is the current situation.
Tuesday I discover a fantastic new shop in downtown. Going in I order a drink (a 75% dark chocolate mocha), and in walks a beautiful, tall, slender woman with dark red hair and rich brown eyes. Anyways, she goes behind the counter, looks at me and eye contact is not broken for several minutes as we talk about the shop. I thank her for my drink and leave.
Thursday I head to the main branch (the first store was a smaller version) where, as luck has it, she is working there as well. She recognizes me immediately and says "You found us at the bigger store!" While there are a few other customers, she comes out and walks with me showing me everything on the shelves and giving me her recommendations and we chat about the merchandise while looking at each other and making eye contact nearly the entire time. I've worked in retail long enough to know when it's a sales pitch and when it's not, and this definitely wasn't. After getting another drink (fantastic 80% hot chocolate) I leave. Deciding to get a book that she showed me, I come back an hour later, where I notice that she is sitting in the backroom, of which there is a direct view to the main door. As I enter she comes out from the back and says "you came back!" We talk some more and then I go home for the day.
So, what is it? I would like to think she's flirting with me, but after being out of the game for so long, I simply don't know if it's real or just my neurons misfiring.
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Asking her out for a drink is a good idea. Even if it she wasn't flirting at least it sounds like you'd have a cool new friend.
Good luck!!!
Worst case scenario, you're back to square one.
Ask her out, she sounds into you.