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Valentines day
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Valentines day comes about on the 14th of February and is a holiday where you express your feelings to the person you love. Chocolate and valentine cards are a staple of the holiday. Traditionally the classic romantic concepts are used in order to show affection. Therefore the larger the gesture the better it is supposed to be (not true in practice).
So February 14th is coming up and I'm not really surprised that I can't seem to find a thread about it. For hopeless romantics like me who find great joy in making the female gender swoon
However I think both sides (and the ladies of course) could and should be interested in a discussion.
Most of the time really large gestures like making a heart out of a thousand rose petals on the bed, digging out a 100x100 feet heart shaped trench filled with gasoline (obviously lit on fire at the appropriate time) or releasing a white dove from the roof of a building is just to much work for the ordinary man.
I personally believe that romance is instead mostly dependent on a few key concepts (which tie together).
1. Thought. Your partner is much more likely to appreciate a gift that you spent some time thinking about. This tells them that you know them and love them. If you can't really think of something the second best thing is to put a lot of work into it, this also tells them that you love them. The third alternative would be to spend a lot of money (relative to your income) buying something. Also says love, but it's lazy and doesn't have even nearly the same effect in my opinion.
2. Uniqueness. The more unique, rare or special your actions are the more appreciated they are. If you never tell your partner you love them a single text message with a "<3" when they are at the office might make them burst into tears. If you always send that kind of message you might have to go with a bouquet of roses.
3. Surprise. Anyone can see the box of chocolate, small piece of jewellery, greeting card and a dinner out coming. If you manage to sneak it into their car together with mysterious directions to a local restaurant its a whole different story.
As long as what your planning has a little bit of each of these in them it's almost guaranteed to be well received. The trick is of course to maximise the romance while minimizing the work involved.
I'm traditionalist myself because I love the classics. I find that a well planned evening more than makes up for the lack of surprise and that with good planning it's also both easy and cheap to pull off.
It's also great if you don't like like to plan out these kinds of things, if you don't have the necessary imagination or if your out of time or money.
To do that I usually grab heavily out of the old romantic toolbox. A unique gesture is almost always better but the right combination of these aren't to scoff at either.
Candles are a staple and as long as you don't burn the place down the more you have the better it is. Of course an open fire can work even better. It's also cheap so there's no excuse to have a romantic evening without them.
Food is another staple. You probably need to eat either way so why not make it romantic? If you do make food it better look like it took some effort though. There's plenty of exquisite dishes that only require a moderate amount of cooking ability. If you can't cook to save your life dinner out is probably a far safer bet. If you can't cook and you can't afford a dinner a third option is to choose the right location. A hamburger meal for two can be very romantic as long as you eat them on the beach watching the sunset.
To go with the food your going to need some wine. Any wine that you both usually works for me, but if you really want to be romantic there's only thing to get. Amarone is usually called "love wine" over here and for good reason. It has a superb taste, it's smooth as silk and it's fiendishly strong at the same time. It goes well with most food, into the dessert or just as something to drink while you talk. Price ranges from acceptable to quite expensive depending on which bottle you choose.
Since I'm a big fan of wine I usually finish of with some cheese, crackers, a sliced pear and maybe some grapes. It's not just really, really good it's also a great dessert for eating slowly when you want to talk and sip some wine.
Some people prefer chocolate though and I can see their point too.
This year I'm out of time, space (both are students, living conditions are less than ideal) and short on cash. Right now I'm thinking about 50 heating candles, a bottle of Amarone, some cheese with grapes and crackers and a box of her favourite chocolate.
Eat dinner, place candles in heart shapes on 5-8 plates scattered about the room, go see a play, get out the cheese and wine while lighting the candles and then finish of the rest of the wine with some chocolate.
If I had more time I'd find some waterbased paint and paint a heart on the parking lot outside her building but I don't.
Anyone here have tips for their valentines day or care to share what they have planned?
So February 14th is coming up and I'm not really surprised that I can't seem to find a thread about it. For hopeless romantics like me who find great joy in making the female gender swoon
and the cursory benefits that usually follows :winky:
it can be great fun. For everyone else I know it's a necessary evil.However I think both sides (and the ladies of course) could and should be interested in a discussion.
Most of the time really large gestures like making a heart out of a thousand rose petals on the bed, digging out a 100x100 feet heart shaped trench filled with gasoline (obviously lit on fire at the appropriate time) or releasing a white dove from the roof of a building is just to much work for the ordinary man.
I personally believe that romance is instead mostly dependent on a few key concepts (which tie together).
1. Thought. Your partner is much more likely to appreciate a gift that you spent some time thinking about. This tells them that you know them and love them. If you can't really think of something the second best thing is to put a lot of work into it, this also tells them that you love them. The third alternative would be to spend a lot of money (relative to your income) buying something. Also says love, but it's lazy and doesn't have even nearly the same effect in my opinion.
2. Uniqueness. The more unique, rare or special your actions are the more appreciated they are. If you never tell your partner you love them a single text message with a "<3" when they are at the office might make them burst into tears. If you always send that kind of message you might have to go with a bouquet of roses.
3. Surprise. Anyone can see the box of chocolate, small piece of jewellery, greeting card and a dinner out coming. If you manage to sneak it into their car together with mysterious directions to a local restaurant its a whole different story.
As long as what your planning has a little bit of each of these in them it's almost guaranteed to be well received. The trick is of course to maximise the romance while minimizing the work involved.
I'm traditionalist myself because I love the classics. I find that a well planned evening more than makes up for the lack of surprise and that with good planning it's also both easy and cheap to pull off.
It's also great if you don't like like to plan out these kinds of things, if you don't have the necessary imagination or if your out of time or money.
To do that I usually grab heavily out of the old romantic toolbox. A unique gesture is almost always better but the right combination of these aren't to scoff at either.
Candles are a staple and as long as you don't burn the place down the more you have the better it is. Of course an open fire can work even better. It's also cheap so there's no excuse to have a romantic evening without them.
Food is another staple. You probably need to eat either way so why not make it romantic? If you do make food it better look like it took some effort though. There's plenty of exquisite dishes that only require a moderate amount of cooking ability. If you can't cook to save your life dinner out is probably a far safer bet. If you can't cook and you can't afford a dinner a third option is to choose the right location. A hamburger meal for two can be very romantic as long as you eat them on the beach watching the sunset.
To go with the food your going to need some wine. Any wine that you both usually works for me, but if you really want to be romantic there's only thing to get. Amarone is usually called "love wine" over here and for good reason. It has a superb taste, it's smooth as silk and it's fiendishly strong at the same time. It goes well with most food, into the dessert or just as something to drink while you talk. Price ranges from acceptable to quite expensive depending on which bottle you choose.
Since I'm a big fan of wine I usually finish of with some cheese, crackers, a sliced pear and maybe some grapes. It's not just really, really good it's also a great dessert for eating slowly when you want to talk and sip some wine.
Some people prefer chocolate though and I can see their point too.
This year I'm out of time, space (both are students, living conditions are less than ideal) and short on cash. Right now I'm thinking about 50 heating candles, a bottle of Amarone, some cheese with grapes and crackers and a box of her favourite chocolate.
Eat dinner, place candles in heart shapes on 5-8 plates scattered about the room, go see a play, get out the cheese and wine while lighting the candles and then finish of the rest of the wine with some chocolate.
If I had more time I'd find some waterbased paint and paint a heart on the parking lot outside her building but I don't.
Anyone here have tips for their valentines day or care to share what they have planned?
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There were candles and plastic roses and everything.
WE FEASTED LIKE ROYALTY, BEHOLD THE RESULT OF OUR TORRID CONSUMPTION
*buuuuurp*
You can't get much more romantic than that.
I like your ideas, but some of them may come across as a crime. Sneaking into a car? painting a heart on the parking lot? Those sound great, but let some Mrs. Kravitz type see you and then you find yourself being bailed out of jail.
Either way it will be a memorable day.
There's usually a bottle of wine and some hot makeouts, followed by a movie where things explode.
Followed by :winky:
The first one kind of assumes the your married and you have the spare keys. The second one *is* a bit illegal. What can I say, I'm a college student and I'm pretty good at running. :P
Use waterbased paint?
My girl is cool so I'll get her some flowers, maybe cook dinner and we planned an out of the ordinary activity during the day to make it a bit memorable
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She said she's got something planned and it's a surprise. I love this girl.
You know, like when I finish up my grad school classes for the semester, we use that as an excuse for something fun (usually buying expensive seafood that I cook). We typically do the same at some point in the middle of February, because my wife and I like each other and have fun.
But it's not any different from any other "hey let's go on a date" night (which usually just means we eat food out. Pei Wei is a fun date, especially since we get lunch leftovers). We typically have a lot of fun together anyway, so we flip the idea on its head -- we have the fun, and THEN we say "oh yeah valentines day good timing us"
A: I'm doing something fun
B: We don't celebrate
C: ABLOO BLOO I'M SO LONELY BLOO BLOO
I love when my gf does things like that.
Best thing is that then you can treat her to something nice and romantic and then she does something in return and good times are had by all. Well as long as you don't overdo it that is.
Last year, however, he got me the requisite candy and stuffed animal. I trumped his candy and stuffed animal with a key to my apartment, appropriately presented. He spent a couple of weeks being either delighted to have a key or grumpy because I'd outdone him, something he's not accustomed to.
Dance competition, or just open dance night or even a dance class is an awesome idea. Especially if you don't like dancing and they do, then it's the last thing they expect.
Of course this is something my gf would take me to but I'll keep it in mind for a later date.
(And I don't really mean "it in the butt")
Also I almost burst out laughing for some reason following Elki's list and finding
I don't really know why.
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Fuckers.
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Well I was the one that started the breakup, so it's not as bad as it could be.
I love dancing with her, because she's amazing. And I think that was probably from the solo blues competition from last year.
While I share your frustration, when I've tried this it creates an awkward void on the actual day. For example when it falls right in the middle of the week, I've planned nicer things for the weekend (weekend before or after). No matter how elaborate the weekend plans are, when the real day happens the urge to actually do something on the real day grows until there are plans: dinner, flowers and whatever. Before I know it, there are now two Valentine's days.
The same thing happens with birthdays too.
Maybe that's just my weirdness.
Also, apparently I'm getting something she made for me, so it should be wicked cool. The first thing she ever made for me was my Blue Sun shirt, and it's still one of my favorite T's and one of the best understated geeky gifts I've ever gotten.
I'd say what I'm doing but it could be read by the recipient.
Is she doing some sort of interpretive dance? Also I've been meaning to ask are you in some sort of college dance class or is this extra-circular?
On-topic: I despise the holiday and have spent previous years with friends watching as many violent war movies as possible. This year I'm going to convince mi chica to do something at home and I might get her some cool art supplies instead of generic flowers/candy.
Well, I take her out all the time and shit, you know? It's what a good boyfriend does. Plus I'm kind of in a financial bind, and she knows it. So she is going to do all the awesome planning and shit. All I know so far is she's going to cook, but I don't know what yet.
....
That's why. She is awesome like that.
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