1 Month Anniversary

KeyScourge

I know it's meant to be 1 year as the big milestone but on the 13th of this month I will have been in my longest relationship to date, surpassing my old record by 3 weeks, so it's kind of a big deal.

And an extra layer of this is that I never would have met the guy again (read my GSA Surprise thread for full details) if it wasn't for you brilliant people on here!

So since it's a special occasion, and since I really love this dude so much, I'm wondering how I can make our 1 month anniversary unique and special

Richard_Dastardly

KeyScourge wrote: »

So since it's a special occasion, and since I really love this dude so much, I'm wondering how I can make our 1 month anniversary unique and special

By not making a bit deal out of it. It's been ~30 days. Might be a bit early for anything fancy. Wait about another five months for that.

Just take him out to dinner... but nothing too expensive. Maybe just take him to the Olive Garden or Red Lobster.

RocketSauce

In high school, my gf made me cookies for Valentine's Day. I thought it was the most, gosh-darndest, cutest thing ever. She looked so proud, too. I could tell she put time and thought into it.

truck-a-sauras

keep it small and simple. If you wish it to last longer than 1 month you don't want to come off as crazy/obsessed. To guys the 1 month, 2 month, 6 weeks 3 hours and 4 seconds celebrations don't come off well. If he is as excited as you are, then awesome and kudos to you, but if you get that WTF look or he doesn't reciprocate the excitement don't get down about it or press the issue. To most guys it really isn't a milestone worthy of notice.

witch_ie

You could also get him a card, explaining in it how much you've enjoyed the last month. If it comes from the heart, it will be memorable and unique. It's simple and probably won't make him feel weird if he's not into celebrating 1-month anniversaries.

JAEF

RocketSauce wrote: »

In high school, my gf made me cookies for Valentine's Day. I thought it was the most, gosh-darndest, cutest thing ever. She looked so proud, too. I could tell she put time and thought into it.

This is pretty much the greatest thing. Who doesn't love cookies? Who doesn't love homemade cookies?

It shows that you spent some time thinking about and working on something for him without being awkward or overbearing just one month into a relationship. At the same time it's really endearing. Greatest thing. Maybe some dinner too. But cookies for dessert.

SammyF

My advice: bake a cupcake and put a single birthday candle in it. Split it down the middle. Don't make a big speech about it or try and go over-the-top because you do need a sense or proportion about this stuff so you don't have an impossible standard to meet when you get to the more significant milestones in the relationship. But recognizing this is your longest relationship thus far is kind of cute and worth a little time spent baking.

admanb

SammyF wrote: »

My advice: bake a cupcake and put a single birthday candle in it. Split it down the middle. Don't make a big speech about it or try and go over-the-top because you do need a sense or proportion about this stuff so you don't have an impossible standard to meet when you get to the more significant milestones in the relationship. But recognizing this is your longest relationship thus far is kind of cute and worth a little time spent baking.

While this is quite reasonable, proportionally, it seems a bit silly to bake one cupcake. Might as well make a half or full recipe, do the cutesy thing with one of them, then have a bunch of cupcakes to eat.

SammyF

admanb wrote: »

SammyF wrote: »

My advice: bake a cupcake and put a single birthday candle in it. Split it down the middle. Don't make a big speech about it or try and go over-the-top because you do need a sense or proportion about this stuff so you don't have an impossible standard to meet when you get to the more significant milestones in the relationship. But recognizing this is your longest relationship thus far is kind of cute and worth a little time spent baking.

While this is quite reasonable, proportionally, it seems a bit silly to bake one cupcake. Might as well make a half or full recipe, do the cutesy thing with one of them, then have a bunch of cupcakes to eat.

It's not special if you bake more than one cupcake.

Yes it is.

Limp moose

SammyF wrote: »

admanb wrote: »

SammyF wrote: »

My advice: bake a cupcake and put a single birthday candle in it. Split it down the middle. Don't make a big speech about it or try and go over-the-top because you do need a sense or proportion about this stuff so you don't have an impossible standard to meet when you get to the more significant milestones in the relationship. But recognizing this is your longest relationship thus far is kind of cute and worth a little time spent baking.

While this is quite reasonable, proportionally, it seems a bit silly to bake one cupcake. Might as well make a half or full recipe, do the cutesy thing with one of them, then have a bunch of cupcakes to eat.

It's not special if you bake more than one cupcake.

Yes it is.

Isn't there a commercial about how guys don't bake?

instead of baking you could buy him a six pack of his favorite beer.

An ex of mine once asked which I would prefer cookies or a six pack of sweet micro brews. I said beer The next random anniversary we had I had a pack of ROUGE dead guy ale with a bow on it. That was way cooler than cookies. (plus just like cookies you can share them)

JAEF

You can't buy homemade cookies from the liquor store down the block.. It's not something that all guys would prefer. Just sayin'.

Also I am a sucker for sweets.

Sarcastro

Awww, the monthiversary. It's cool to go hard if you're both into it. But just the first three, then the six month, then the one year, and then every year after that... (special days aside of course, I think the monthiversary gradually gets replaced by special outings, around one a month at the least; ymmv, of course.)

A special dessert is lovely, a nice time out, extra time in, grooming products (a nice cologne maybe, or a small gift set) Nothing huge, just a little emphasis. Nothing wrong with saying 'hey, its been a while and I think you're amazing'. A little goes a long way.

On that note, I do go hard, much harder than the above, but my relationships tend to be marked by thier intensity; it's almost a given that the SO is going to be into it. As you can tell by the replies already, not everybody is. So use your judgement, but feel free to celebrate. Just don't set the bar so high it would be weird to do that every month. I'd say slightly more effort than a first date, significantly less than a birthday.

Also, hooray! Glad to hear you're doing well, that's awesome.

SatanIsMyMotor

Personally, I don't think you should do anything. Maybe mention, "Hey, we've been going out for a month. Cool!"

GreasyKidsStuff

My first month fell really close to Xmas, so I kinda can't talk about how I was subtle about it. Cuz it wasn't. She got me a homemade stocking full of little things like chocolate and pins for my jean jacket and I got her a picture frame. So don't follow my example.

AlyceInWonderland

For my 1 month, I drew him a picture of him and I. Only he was in a ww2 german uniform, and I was in an American uniform... and we were fighting. and then I drew another picture of him and I sitting on a rock wall eating sandwiches while bombs went off in the background, and smoke from the explosives forming little hearts.


....We like WW2 type things, and he literally squealed when I gave it to him.

Sooo, maybe you can draw him a cute picture or something? Maybe? Possibly?

EskimoDave

How the fuck do you bake a single cupcake? Are we talking about some sort of giant mongoloid cupcake here?

MONGO IS A CUPCAKE

VisionOfClarity

SatanIsMyMotor wrote: »

Personally, I don't think you should do anything. Maybe mention, "Hey, we've been going out for a month. Cool!"

Yea, when my bf and I hit one month I just mentioned and his reaction was 'Wow, that's neat." I mean, it's one month. To do more than something very, very small would be overkill.

DVG

I generally am against anniversaries unless it's been a year (because, well, annual is built into the word), but doing something to celebrate it being your longest relationship is cute, and stating it like that instead of a 1-month anniversary prevents you from having to come up with something to do to celebrate every thirty days, so yeah, go with the cupcake thing.

Khavall

I am of the mind you can never go wrong with cookies/muffins/other baked foods.

They're small, so it really never comes off as "HEY! HEY ONE MONTH! HEY!"(hell, I've got a voice teacher who bakes me these awesome caramel bars that are incredible just when I play for her class... nothing even romantic there, they can be really a low-key thing), but they're tasty food. That when you are receiving them you don't need to do anything to but eat.

If you want to do something for the 1 monthiversary, I'd go with baked tasties.

Corvus

If you feel the need to do anything to mark the anniversary, keep it understated. Its too short of a time to make a big production out of it.

Blake T

KeyScourge wrote: »

So since it's a special occasion, and since I really love this dude so much, I'm wondering how I can make our 1 month anniversary unique and special

Red Flag! It's been a month.

Take it slow!

Just make cookies or something and eat them at his place and watch a movie.

Anything more would just come off as weird. You've been in this relationship for a month

Sporked

I'm gonna have to say, make some cookies, do something nice for him, but DON'T make a big deal about 30 days. 30 days is NOT a big deal. He probably won't even get that it's a 30 day thing, because 30 days is NOT a big deal, either as a total length of time or as a metric. Saying "Hey, we've been going out for 103 days, (or any random length of time), let's do something sappy!" and THEN making a big deal out of it is ~1 hojillion times more romantic than picking a marker like 30 days. Paychecks and bills happen once a month, don't start to mark your relationships that way.

Do something nice, but the message you want to send is more like "This is awesome and I like you here's some dibeetus." and less like "Thanks for hanging in there for a whole month champ!". Make it about you guys being together, not about being together for a month.

noir_blood

Just give him some good sexin'.

Belruel

don't make a deal out of it. have a date but don't call it an anniversary. make him dinner and watch a movie at your place or his or something

KeyScourge

See this is why I need you guys to give me advice. I'm an overly emotional fool. If I hadn't asked for your advice I would have gone totally over the top

Zombie Monkey

That cookies idea sounds fun, thought more than funds my lad

Hobbit0815

Cookies. Everyone wants cookies.

i n c u b u s

Cupcakes. You can decorate cupcakes more than cookies so that can give you a little personal touch (ie, messages, fav colors, etc). I think the monthiversary thing is awesome and I pretty much follow Sarcastro's timeline precisely with all of my relationships and they'll all gone well. It really shows that you care about this guy and that your thinking about him enough to do something special like this.

Tucanwarrior13

My only piece of advice is to not blow it out of porportion. Taking it too far is by far the worst thing you want to do. A nice dinner at an inexpensive restaurant is ideal, or something small, and homemade.

KeyScourge

I'm just gonna order in his favourite pizza and just relax round my place with some really lame movie so we can laugh at it

DVG

KeyScourge wrote: »

I'm just gonna order in his favourite pizza and just relax round my place with some really lame movie so we can laugh at it

:^:

ruzkin

KeyScourge wrote: »

I'm just gonna order in his favourite pizza and just relax round my place with some really lame movie so we can laugh at it

This is the best thing.

For something a small as a one-month anniversary, the best thing you can offer is your time, attention, and soft girlish hips.

Hobbit0815

ruzkin wrote: »

KeyScourge wrote: »

I'm just gonna order in his favourite pizza and just relax round my place with some really lame movie so we can laugh at it

This is the best thing.

For something a small as a one-month anniversary, the best thing you can offer is your time, attention, and soft girlish hips.

Or guyish.. hips..

Good conclusion, btw.

KeyScourge

Hobbit0815 wrote: »

ruzkin wrote: »

KeyScourge wrote: »

I'm just gonna order in his favourite pizza and just relax round my place with some really lame movie so we can laugh at it

This is the best thing.

For something a small as a one-month anniversary, the best thing you can offer is your time, attention, and soft girlish hips.

Or guyish.. hips..

Good conclusion, btw.

Thanks. Glad I have you guys to talk to about this stuff. I know I would have gone totally OTT if I hadn't asked your advice

ruzkin

Tis what we're here for.
Hobbit, nobody likes guyish hips. They're all knobbly and bony like twin carving knives hidden beneath the skin. All guys should have girlish hips and manly shoulders.

mooshoepork

ruzkin wrote: »

KeyScourge wrote: »

I'm just gonna order in his favourite pizza and just relax round my place with some really lame movie so we can laugh at it

This is the best thing.

For something a small as a one-month anniversary, the best thing you can offer is your time, attention, and soft girlish hips.

hahaha, zooooooooom

To the OP: Good idea.

I haven't cooked cookies ever for my gf. I might do that.

KeyScourge

mooshoepork wrote: »

ruzkin wrote: »

KeyScourge wrote: »

I'm just gonna order in his favourite pizza and just relax round my place with some really lame movie so we can laugh at it

This is the best thing.

For something a small as a one-month anniversary, the best thing you can offer is your time, attention, and soft girlish hips.

hahaha, zooooooooom

To the OP: Good idea.

I haven't cooked cookies ever for my gf. I might do that.

ah it was simple to think of really when I put my mind to it. He's a lazy pizza-loving hottie that finds stuff funny that nobody else would find funny. Example: me and him both, due to a weird running joke we have, find it funny whenever someone mentions Walruses. It's just the way we are.

Locust76

mooshoepork wrote: »

ruzkin wrote: »

KeyScourge wrote: »

I'm just gonna order in his favourite pizza and just relax round my place with some really lame movie so we can laugh at it

This is the best thing.

For something a small as a one-month anniversary, the best thing you can offer is your time, attention, and soft girlish hips.

hahaha, zooooooooom

To the OP: Good idea.

I haven't cooked cookies ever for my gf. I might do that.

Be sure to start out knowing that they will be baked, not cooked Just so you don't go and deep fat fry them... though that might actually be delicious....

freelancerbob

We did something special on the first few monthiverseries. We're still together 7 years later. Correlation =/= to Causation, but hey, you know, it's still cool.

Also, baking is awesome, and walruses are always funny. Especially when they lose their buckets.