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When to call a girl?
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The short story:
I met a girl. I got her number. How long should I wait until I call her?
The long story:
I am no longer in college, but many of my friends are. Some of them are on Spring break right now. I hung out with an old High School acquaintance of mine at my friends house the other night, I'll call him Rob. Just chilling and drinking. He brought along a lady-friend of his from college, I'll call her Sarah. I didn't talk a whole lot with Sarah, but we chatted for a little bit. We were slightly flirting back and forth while playing drinking games. She is also very very pretty. Because I had to work the next morning, I had to leave my friends house early. Sarah wasn't going to be in town much longer because she wants to get back to her home town in Minnesota (I live in Northern Illinois) to be with her family for some of spring break. I was slightly disappointed because I wanted to get to know her better. So I told her and Rob that I hope I get to see them again before they leave.
Last night was St. Patties day, and some buddies and myself headed out to a friends house and a bar to have a few drinks. I asked my friend who organized the hang-out if I could invite Sarah and Rob along, because I was very interested in Sarah. My friend said he'd rather not because he didn't like Rob a whole lot. Fair enough, no biggie. Well, while we were out at the bar, look who walks in, but Sarah, Rob and another one of their friends. Nice! They catch up with a bunch of drinks, and I end up talking to Sarah at the bar for maybe 45 minutes until closing. We are getting along very very well. I am also finding out how awesome Sarah is. After the bar closes, we all head back to my friends house... along with Sarah and Rob.
It is midnight at this point (when i wanted to go home because I had to work at 7:45 this morning), but I end up staying until about 1:15am just chatting with Sarah. We were hitting it off very well. We have a LOT in common, and she was definitely reciprocating my flirting. About halfway through our chat, I say to her "You know what? Can I get your phone number?" She responds "Yes! you certainly can have my phone number!" We then plan on communicating through facebook on many of our common interests. Finally I had to go home because of work the next day. So I told "I know I live a long ways away from your school in Iowa, but if you''d like, I think we should do something together sometime." She responds with "You know, I think I would like that."
It's all looking great at this point. I then find out that Rob and his other friend (Rob is gay, so I didn't have to worry about him liking Sarah and being jealous) were cheering me on, and they both very much approved of my interest in Sarah. I then left for home in a great mood, and potential steady hangover.
So now, here I am. I don't think I'm going to see Sarah again during her springbreak because she was talking about wanting to go back to Minnesota today (and I don't blame her, wanting to be with her own friends and family). I'm slightly disappointed because I very very rarely find attractive and intelligent women, whom I have many common interests in my town. I feel like it would be a big mistake to pass this lovely woman up.
So, when do I call her? Do I friend her on facebook first? Send text messages first? How many days should I wait until I do so?
Thanks!
I met a girl. I got her number. How long should I wait until I call her?
The long story:
I am no longer in college, but many of my friends are. Some of them are on Spring break right now. I hung out with an old High School acquaintance of mine at my friends house the other night, I'll call him Rob. Just chilling and drinking. He brought along a lady-friend of his from college, I'll call her Sarah. I didn't talk a whole lot with Sarah, but we chatted for a little bit. We were slightly flirting back and forth while playing drinking games. She is also very very pretty. Because I had to work the next morning, I had to leave my friends house early. Sarah wasn't going to be in town much longer because she wants to get back to her home town in Minnesota (I live in Northern Illinois) to be with her family for some of spring break. I was slightly disappointed because I wanted to get to know her better. So I told her and Rob that I hope I get to see them again before they leave.
Last night was St. Patties day, and some buddies and myself headed out to a friends house and a bar to have a few drinks. I asked my friend who organized the hang-out if I could invite Sarah and Rob along, because I was very interested in Sarah. My friend said he'd rather not because he didn't like Rob a whole lot. Fair enough, no biggie. Well, while we were out at the bar, look who walks in, but Sarah, Rob and another one of their friends. Nice! They catch up with a bunch of drinks, and I end up talking to Sarah at the bar for maybe 45 minutes until closing. We are getting along very very well. I am also finding out how awesome Sarah is. After the bar closes, we all head back to my friends house... along with Sarah and Rob.
It is midnight at this point (when i wanted to go home because I had to work at 7:45 this morning), but I end up staying until about 1:15am just chatting with Sarah. We were hitting it off very well. We have a LOT in common, and she was definitely reciprocating my flirting. About halfway through our chat, I say to her "You know what? Can I get your phone number?" She responds "Yes! you certainly can have my phone number!" We then plan on communicating through facebook on many of our common interests. Finally I had to go home because of work the next day. So I told "I know I live a long ways away from your school in Iowa, but if you''d like, I think we should do something together sometime." She responds with "You know, I think I would like that."
It's all looking great at this point. I then find out that Rob and his other friend (Rob is gay, so I didn't have to worry about him liking Sarah and being jealous) were cheering me on, and they both very much approved of my interest in Sarah. I then left for home in a great mood, and potential steady hangover.
So now, here I am. I don't think I'm going to see Sarah again during her springbreak because she was talking about wanting to go back to Minnesota today (and I don't blame her, wanting to be with her own friends and family). I'm slightly disappointed because I very very rarely find attractive and intelligent women, whom I have many common interests in my town. I feel like it would be a big mistake to pass this lovely woman up.
So, when do I call her? Do I friend her on facebook first? Send text messages first? How many days should I wait until I do so?
Thanks!
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I'm not sure if I'm quite ready to set up a date with her. I would really love to, but she goes to school about 3.5 hours away from where I live. Dubuque Iowa seems to be smack in the middle between her school and where I live. Would it be appropriate to suggest meeting there?
I really appreciate your advice! I havn't been in the dating scene in a while, and definitely have never been in a situation like this.
edit: oh man... what if she calls back in the middle of tonights Lost episode? I have a guest coming over to watch the show with me, it would be an important call, but I don't want to be rude to my guest.
More importantly: Whoa. Dude. You are totally overthinking this. If you're fretting about whether she may or may not call you back in the midst of a particular television program, you need to take a step back, sit down, and take a second to breath and relax. Recognize that it'd be nice if she called back at any point in the future because that's better than never getting a call back. And understand that you don't have to have a date planned right this red-hot second or have the logistics of a rendevouz all mapped out. It's okay to talk this stuff over with, you know, her.
I'm actually not too worried about her calling during Lost (which the odds make it seem unlikely she'll call during those 40 minutes the show is on), I was being mostly sarcastic. I'll figure something out if she does.
Good point about overthinking planning the date right-this-second. That will all work out when it comes time.
If she's worth it, she'll say yes.
A small update: I have not heard back from her yet, but I have talked to Rob, who said she went back home to do stuff before the end of her break. He told me she had a really good time, and he plans to bring her out again... which is good news. I definitely plan on keeping in contact with her though.