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Cats and our Newborn
Ganluan
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My wife and I are proud parents of a son as of April 4th. He is still in the hospital as he was born a few weeks early, but is doing well and will be home in the next week or so.
Because he was born early and may be more fussy because of it, we wanted to keep him in a bassinet as we sleep. The big problem is we have 2 cats who also want to sleep in the bed with us, and we are worried about them jumping into the bassinet or reaching up to the bassinet and trying to play with the "toy".
If we close the door and keep them out of the room, they howl like they are being tortured, and it's loud enough to keep us awake even with some white noise on in the bedroom. Their food and litterbox are not in our room, but they want to be where we are. Anyone have any advice on how we can either get them used to being outside the room at night, or ensure there won't be any problems with our son being in the room at night with them? Once he's a bit stronger, he'll be in his crib in a separate room, and we'll be keeping that door closed anyway so the cats won't be a concern.
Because he was born early and may be more fussy because of it, we wanted to keep him in a bassinet as we sleep. The big problem is we have 2 cats who also want to sleep in the bed with us, and we are worried about them jumping into the bassinet or reaching up to the bassinet and trying to play with the "toy".
If we close the door and keep them out of the room, they howl like they are being tortured, and it's loud enough to keep us awake even with some white noise on in the bedroom. Their food and litterbox are not in our room, but they want to be where we are. Anyone have any advice on how we can either get them used to being outside the room at night, or ensure there won't be any problems with our son being in the room at night with them? Once he's a bit stronger, he'll be in his crib in a separate room, and we'll be keeping that door closed anyway so the cats won't be a concern.
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You've got the right ideas: stories about cats sucking babies' breath out of jealousy are total shit, but cats curling up on the squishy warm thing, not so much.
My best friend and her husband got their animals accustomed to the baby's things first; bring home baby blankets, set up the bassinet, and let the cats go to town exploring. Hopefully, they'll satisfy themselves that nothing about the new setup is that much fun. If they do try to get in, you can look into more drastic deterrents.
I've heard of some people playing recordings of babies crying to gauge their pets' reactions, but unless your cats are really chill, I can predict it'll be pretty much "AUGH WTF WE'RE UNDER ATTACK RUN." Are yours the kind of kitties who want to thoroughly investigate potential threats? (I've got one who's fascinated by my baby goddaughter's screaming, and one who wants nothing to do with her.)
Assuming your cats are nice your kid will likely just be a curiosity until he is old enough to crawl after and grab handfuls of cat. If cats and kid sleeps with you at the same time it would be best for cats to be out of grabbing range of the kid. 'Grats.
What we did was first kept the bassinet in the room for several months before he was even born. Kind of late for that now, but it allowed us to break him of the habit of jumping into it (which he loved to do). Really, you'll have to be firm and get on to them every time they jump in there, baby or no, just like when they scratch the couch or whatever.
Really what we did was put the bassinet far enough from the bed so that he couldn't easily jump to it and he never tried. I would advise against sleeping with the bassinet against the bed. I know you'll be checking on the baby every 3 seconds to begin with, but after a few days, you'll only check on him every 5 minutes or so. ;-) I find it best to start them on the road to independence as soon as possible. Don't let them sleep in the bed with you and move them into their own room once you feel comfortable enough (with a monitor, of course). I think we put our son in his crib at around 3 months. I've just known far too many parents that have to fight to get their children to sleep in their own room because they waited too long.
We were worried how our cats would react, but they pretty much give him a wide berth, so we haven't had any problems.
Maybe try creating a really comfortable area for the cats in the living room? Somewhere warm and Catnippy, If you can create a comfortable area for them and then ignore their howling for a few nights they will get used to the idea of not sleeping in your room.
I hope it all goes well :-) Congratulations
Not a cause for alarm really, it's just an avoidable thing and if I had a child and a cat, I'd really like to avoid it if possible and would take extra steps to ensure it.
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Another thread (elsewhere) with this exact question.. but add a dog.
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My cat is extremely sweet and curious about the baby. Up until now he generally avoided her. Now however she can sit up and has begun crawling the cat is checking her out to see if she is able to pet him yet. My cat is an attention whore.
I haven't had issues with my animals and the baby but with all animals you always want to keep an eye on them. Sometimes for the animals sake!
My German Shepherd is a great example. She's super sweet and patient. A few times the baby has made a speedy crawl over to her tail and has grabbed, yanked, slapped the dog. My dog doesn't care and adores the children. I am however always right there no matter what.
Cats are much easier to deal with babies. I wouldn't worry too much. Your biggest issue might be the shedding of their fur wherever the baby sleeps or likes to crawl.