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Raziel078
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So yeah. Last night I get a text from the older sister of an old friend. Pleasantries are exchanged but its a really random call so I ask her to what do I owe the pleasure. She responds with, basically, "well my husband and kids are out of town and I wanted to get laid. But I didn't want to pick up a stranger." So apparently shes been thinking of me sexually for awhile now and believes I will provide great sex (ha shows what she knows). My point is that while I have made out with married women and indeed had my peep touched by them, its always been some drunken heat of the moment thing not a sober decision like this. I know it's wrong, I know she's married. But I haven't been laid in so long. So so long. So please tell me something. Because I feel like.... I feel like I'm about to eat a deep fried twinkie, it's bad for me, I know it, but I want to. So help. Please.
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Dude.
Seriously, this is, while tempting I'm sure, a terrible idea with terrible repercussions. She's clearly doing it without her partner's consent which makes it a giant no-no.
Don't do it.
THUMBS DOWN.
She has kids?
kids.
You do realize that she's a psycho hoebag and the fact that she's seeking out someone her husband knows from her past rather then just cruising for someone at a bar is because she's going to tell him and create crazy psycho-bitch drama for everyone.
What's wrong with a lady with kids? Nothing wrong with a little MILF action every now and again. :winky:
Edit: and since this is the help and advice forum, I advise you to make sure you take precautions so as not to get her pregnant or contract any venereal diseases she is potentially carrying from sleeping around so much.
No, you can't call it "one more mistake." A mistake is "whoops, I used salt instead of sugar and ruined the birthday cake." When you look at two options and choose one, that's not a mistake - that's you choosing to be a homewrecking asshole.
Do it if you want, but heed this message.
Right/wrong, that's up to you. However, coupla things:
Outcome A: It is reasonably decent one time NSA lovin, it never happens again, and you feed hobos or strays for a while until you feel better about yourself as a person.
Outcome B: It is terrible, the guilt or paranoia overwhelms you, and it was so not worth it.
C: It is fucktastically amazing, you do all the things you've ever wanted and you would like more, thus begins an illicit affair on the side, you get to be booty boy and then what? She leaves him for you? Wants a real relationship? Fucks up her marriage? Lets the secret out to her family? Paints you as the homewrecker?
D : You're cool with all that and the kids, hook up, and now spend the rest of your days wondering if shes going to do the same to you.
Do whatever, I'm just saying, Outcome A is the best possible thing, and its still not all that awesome. Don't think about now, think about after, and what happens when this thing leaks, because I shit you not, it always does. Whether or not you would feel like a fucker doesn't really matter, I guarentee you you'll be wearing the Fucker hat when the drama hits the fan.
Considering how normal it is for married people to get some action with someone else than their significant other a good portion of the people are either:
A. Guilty of double standards.
B. Totally statistical impossible.
C. Living in an alternate universe (The pennyverse?)
Raziel078. Do it if you really can't help it but do consider that it will likely not be a one time thing - after all she did not just pick you out at random. So ask yourself if you're up for something that could get serious very quickly. If not I recommend hitting the dating scene on-line or the nearest watering hole and get the sex that way.
And if they get divorced, prepare for the possibility to be the guest star in official court documents.
Are you serious o_O ? So all of us cheat on our significant others and that are faithful live in an alternate universe? I hate to say your wrong, but, you are. I can't speak for everybody but I can tell you that most of the friends and people I know are monogamous.
1) giving terrible advice
2) being terrible people who enjoy rationalizing a horrendous act
Don't do it, OP
If you do, you're a fucking asshole and you deserve any comeuppance you (will) get
Don't be an asshole
It's pretty simple approach really. I'm not going to stop you from sticking your penis in the honey-pot, but I can warn you of some pretty simple ramifications if you do.
I think his mind is already made up. It probably would have helped though if he "manually" relieved himself before coming to such a decision...
He'd be an asshole because, what? The husband has a claim on the wife?
Yeah, you don't fuck a dude's wife behind the husband's back
You just don't
Especially if kids are involved
edit: To be honest, it sounds like she has done this before, and if it wasn't you, it would be someone else. It's not like your choice in this matter is necessarily affecting the outcome of her cheating on he husband. That obviously still doesn't make it OK, but like I said, it's not your marriage.
Now, I'm not big on arbitrary morals. I'd say if there were no kids involved, go for it if she's that forward about it (and it's NSA and all that jazz). However, with kids, well, there is a strong possiblity that you'd be fucking up life for them in a big way. That I cannot stand by. If she's that desperate, maybe you should advise her to get a divorce... not like that is much better, but certainly preferable to infidelity/lawsuit/losing kids for her.
A: Not hard at all.
Just to point this out. I don't know if you can be like "Oh man, I made a mistake..." when you know its wrong, you got advice from other people that it is wrong, and premeditated the event.
That said, that last "just one more mistake" seems like you may have some self esteem issues which would give good reason why you need the "Boost" of gettin' a woman to cheat on her man with you. PERHAPS THAR BE DEEPER ISSUES THAN DICKNESS IN THIS THREAD?
In addition: Although this is more D&D, I don't think the "She's done it before, she would do it again even if it wasn't with you" or what have you doesn't really provide any incentive to act on this urge. She may have cheated on her husband before. She may do it again. But how does that factor into "Welp, might as well be me!"?
I might say it's not a horrible thing if it was just the husband. She and the husband are probably having their own issues and they can inflict pain on themselves if they want.
But infidelity like this that will likely lead to divorce if he finds out, and then hurts the kids? That's very bad.
Find some action elsewhere, seriously.
Because you have to be a real asshole to actively participate in infidelity when you know and admit it's not cool. If she wants to sleep around she should get a divorce.
*shrug* I wasn't telling him to do it, I'm just saying there are a few people acting like him doing this is ruining the woman's marriage, when it's really her doing it that's fucking things up. Who she does it with is incidental, and so whether not it's him or not doesn't matter. She's not the one we're talking to. Resisting her advances may make him a better person, but not resisting doesn't make him a homewrecker, unless he's like... seduced her into doing it or something.
Help/Advice - don't call it "my peep".
Also, you're going to do it anyway, but you shouldn't. Then again, she'll probably call up someone else anyway so the end result will be the same.
Unless... this could all be some setup by your previous friend to trick you to come over to a house where you'll go into the bathroom where she's supposedly showering for you, and you'll take off your clothes and then him and his friends will break into the room with a camera and a firehose and humiliate you in front of the whole school so that later at your 20 year reunion you will come back and kill them one by one in the old abandoned school.
I'd say you shouldn't do it in case that happens.