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Crazy Bitch (UPDATE)
Penguin_Otaku
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So it turns out that after all of the legal mumbo-jumbo, the City Attorney didn't even let the charges go through. I'm guessing it was because she could assume this was just a girl wanting some attention and all of that.
I did follow the forumer advice and got a lawyer, I felt the thread was closed a bit prematurely. I wasn't ignoring advice, I just didn't have time to check the thread over the day and a half. Anyhow, I talked to him about the situation and he was very frank with me. He's a great guy, was upset with the situation and that I had to even deal with it after I told him the history of me and her and what happened. He talked to the City, they dropped the charge to Disturbing the Peace and with my clean record the WORST was going to be a 6-month differed sentence. He said there was a possibility of them dropping the charges, but I forgot to even check.
I showed up on April 29 (this past Wednesday) and went to the clerk, told them my name and they couldn't find my ticket. They check, tell me I'm free to go and that there's nothing on me. It was a great feeling. Drank all weekend to celebrate, what I felt, was the end of an era. Had a great time with some friends and am feeling pretty good about it all.
I'm still with the other girl, but perhaps not for long. I feel that I just re-entered this relationship to spite the crazy-ex. We love one another, but I just don't feel we have enough in common. I'm trying to work that whole thing out with myself and her... we're in a "break" right now or as I told my friend; "relationship lite."
Now I was thinking about it today and I don't have a whole lot of ill will towards this girl. I know she's crazy and I put a majority of the situation on my shoulders. I kept myself in it and didn't remove myself when I knew I should have. So how can I be mad at her when I knew to leave and simply didn't?
It's weird. I sent her a text telling her that I put it all behind myself and hoped she could one day as well. I also hoped all was well with her and everything else. Probably shouldn't have said anything but I still wanted to extend my hand in good will towards her.
What does that say about me? That I'm a pushover? That's how I feel but I don't know. I just can'r stay mad about the whole thing because of the reason I said.
Anyway, thanks to everyone who has helped me in the past with this situation. Your guys' advice has gone a long way with me and I appreciate it.
I did follow the forumer advice and got a lawyer, I felt the thread was closed a bit prematurely. I wasn't ignoring advice, I just didn't have time to check the thread over the day and a half. Anyhow, I talked to him about the situation and he was very frank with me. He's a great guy, was upset with the situation and that I had to even deal with it after I told him the history of me and her and what happened. He talked to the City, they dropped the charge to Disturbing the Peace and with my clean record the WORST was going to be a 6-month differed sentence. He said there was a possibility of them dropping the charges, but I forgot to even check.
I showed up on April 29 (this past Wednesday) and went to the clerk, told them my name and they couldn't find my ticket. They check, tell me I'm free to go and that there's nothing on me. It was a great feeling. Drank all weekend to celebrate, what I felt, was the end of an era. Had a great time with some friends and am feeling pretty good about it all.
I'm still with the other girl, but perhaps not for long. I feel that I just re-entered this relationship to spite the crazy-ex. We love one another, but I just don't feel we have enough in common. I'm trying to work that whole thing out with myself and her... we're in a "break" right now or as I told my friend; "relationship lite."
Now I was thinking about it today and I don't have a whole lot of ill will towards this girl. I know she's crazy and I put a majority of the situation on my shoulders. I kept myself in it and didn't remove myself when I knew I should have. So how can I be mad at her when I knew to leave and simply didn't?
It's weird. I sent her a text telling her that I put it all behind myself and hoped she could one day as well. I also hoped all was well with her and everything else. Probably shouldn't have said anything but I still wanted to extend my hand in good will towards her.
What does that say about me? That I'm a pushover? That's how I feel but I don't know. I just can'r stay mad about the whole thing because of the reason I said.
Anyway, thanks to everyone who has helped me in the past with this situation. Your guys' advice has gone a long way with me and I appreciate it.
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Glad it worked out okay but just stop texting her.
Which is what you're doing now. Stop contacting her, for any reason.
Satans..... hints.....
I'm starting to wonder if maybe you don't enjoy the drama. There's no reason whatsoever you should have contacted her/
Is that direct enough?
No texting. No calling. No email. No Facebooking. If you see her somewhere completely and totally fucking ignore her.
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Not far enough, it would seem. C'mon, man, this is a real easy one.
She pressed charges against you when you didn't do anything wrong just to spite you. It was obvious to everyone that she was being crazy, therefore, she's crazy. She will add nothing to your life except crazy. Why in the hell would you possibly break up with a sane girlfriend just to go back to the embodiment of pointless drama?
Why are you still reading this? Erase her number.
I spent a few weeks in the hospital, but the doctors eventually told me that I'd probably be able to have children someday, so I was happy. Then I got to thinking about the dog. I realized that I didn't blame the dog for what it did, because hey, it's a RABID ANIMAL. So, right now I'm standing on the sidewalk right in front of its lawn, and I'm reaching my hand out towards it to pet it, just to show it that I have no hard feelings. This is cool, right? I mean, nothing bad could possibly happen...
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I completely understand that I should not talk to her and I'm not trying to engage any sort of last relationship. I sent her one text, that does not mean that I am pining for her nor does it mean I'm going to keep texting her and expect anything to come of it. I don't want anything to come of it. I see and recognize what she did to me and all of that. I get she's trouble and I should stay away.
I'm not going to turn someone away because of that though and I get that's not really a conventional thought and I'm alright with it. I'm not seeking her out or anything so I think a lot of the worry is slightly exaggerated. Thank you for the concern, but I'm not as clueless as it may appear.
Critical Failures - Havenhold Campaign • August St. Cloud (Human Ranger)
Every time you say or do something, you're just prodding with a metaphorical stick. Aggravating it. Causing it to fester.
Just. Stop.
It's like dealing with a kid that has to say the last word - regardless of whether it's relevant or will do any good.
Don't do it again, and hope this doesn't get brought up again.
What will it take for you to turn someone away, if months and months of sheer hell topped off by false criminal charges won't? Burning down your apartment? Raping your mother? Some people you just have to turn away.
Lie, lie, lie. You sent her a text. Why on earth would you send her a text, if you weren't seeking her out? Also, why the hell do you even still have her phone number? Erase it.
Look. I'm sure you're an intelligent guy, but trying to contact this person AT ALL is a king whopper of a moronic move.
So, I know we all like to help out our fellow forumites and everything, and hope for the best. However, we of course only ever get one side of a story and simply can't guess what's really going on. Guys, I think the OP really is a big part of the problem here, possibly the instigator of a lot of this stuff. Wasn't there a restraining order at some point? There need to be more of those.
Edit: In his post the guy says, "Oh, it's cool. I'm not going to stop being her friend." At the same time, he named the thread "crazy bitch."
OP, maybe you should get some counseling, I think you have very serious issues.
Here's my advice, and you should not misconstrue the fact that I'm lifting it directly from an episode of Seinfeld to imply that I do not mean it in earnest: if every instinct you have ever had was wrong (note: take this premise for granted because it's true), the opposite would necessarily have to be right. So when that little voice chimes in and says "hey I should intentionally derail my relationship with my current girlfriend whom I claim to love and then text my ex g/f who got me arrested that one time," go ahead and acknowledge that as the part of your brain that would make you easy prey if we still lived in a hunter-gatherer society and do the opposite instead. Heed my counsel, and you shall be living the Summer of George in no time.
Serenity Now.
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Have you ever noticed how this bullshit NEVER EVER happens to anyone else? As far as your cluelessness goes, we're all operating under the assumption that you have no earthly idea how to conduct your interpersonal relationships but are so confident in your own stupid ideas that you lack the basic self-awareness to proactively stop yourself from making poor decisions. In that sense you are exactly as clueless as you appear.
Critical Failures - Havenhold Campaign • August St. Cloud (Human Ranger)
Nah, people doing stupid shit like this is what keeps food on his table. I mean, it's all the same to him if the OP gets himself into some trouble.
Every opinion in this thread is exactly the same same. And they are all with the same amount of amount of force. Think about that. There's no variance, no debate. The only person who disagrees is you.
All of your H/A threads don't support that. Leave her alone. Do not under any conditions talk to her.
Perhaps?
Critical Failures - Havenhold Campaign • August St. Cloud (Human Ranger)
A white knight wants to rescue someone from bad situations. PO is tilting at windmills -- in his continually misguided efforts to be a good guy, he's creating the very dramatic catastrophe's from which everyone needs to be rescued.
I have learn-ed somthin'.
Critical Failures - Havenhold Campaign • August St. Cloud (Human Ranger)
It's really all about stimulating the economy.
I know someone else already said this but, in your mind, what would be grounds to turn someone away? How about if she lit you on fire? Impaled your dog with a shovel? Would it still be a peachy-keen idea to "not turn her away"?
I mean, if you're after some non-consenual prison sex, just dress in drag and sign up for conjugal visits, man.
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Critical Failures - Havenhold Campaign • August St. Cloud (Human Ranger)
You need a criminal lawyer.
What he said.
When trumped up bullshit charges are being brought against you, there's no need to ever extend another olive branch. Ever.
No more message, no emails, no phone calls. You don't need to be a snarky jerk. If you stumble across her 'in the wild', be civil if you should cross paths and leave her alone if you don't. Ignore her completely. You have better things to think about and do, and any time or effort put towards her (for good or ill) is a waste at best and going to backfire horribly at worst.
You're free, savour it and keep walking with your head high.
The irony of this post being just two posts below this one is too good to pass up.
Listen to yourself:
"I get that she's trouble and I should stay away"
BUT!!!!!!
"I'm not going to turn someone away because of that" - "that" being the fact that she had you arrested and could have done more and is insane and just plain bad for you?
You are as clueless as you appear, that much is apparent by looking at this and all the other threads you've started in H/A.
Let it GO. That text was stupid and could open up a whole world of trouble...dumb dumb dumb.
I agree with Kate frankly I think there's more than one crazy bitch in this thread besides that girl.
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