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Condom Question
Ardor
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So I had sex with my gf for the first time last night and I used a Durex dual pleasure condom or some such. I failed to hold an erection for the full time partly because I couldn't really feel anything and partly because I was probably nervous.
Understanding that I need to get beyond the nerves and stop thinking about performance and such, does anyone have suggestions for condoms?
I'm probably going to try some thin or extra thin ones. Do they make any that might help enhance feelings or sensitivity for men?
Thanks for your help.
Understanding that I need to get beyond the nerves and stop thinking about performance and such, does anyone have suggestions for condoms?
I'm probably going to try some thin or extra thin ones. Do they make any that might help enhance feelings or sensitivity for men?
Thanks for your help.
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Although better condoms == better sex, don't worry about things just now.
Also: try masturbating a couple times while wearing one. It helps you get more comfortable (physically and mentally) with the whole condom experience.
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Nope.
Don't give up, try and try again... I can't stress enough how much fun it is to practice!
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It also does wonders for getting her pregnant when the thing comes off. Seriously, there are warnings on the package about NOT GETTING LUBE IN THE CONDOM.
Most likely it was nerves, very few people have mindblowing sex their first time. It's more about figuring out what works and what doesn't, and getting comfortable with the person. If you want something thinner, look into polyurethane condoms, they're thinner and stronger than latex.
Err... I *always* put some inside. It's essential. Otherwise it starts to bunch of and THEN it comes off/breaks. Happened twice before, freaked us the fuck out. Now with a drop or two, it's fine. It only came off once due ot lube, and that was because I put a fuckton in because I was a bit tipsy.
Also try condoms that have a "pocket" tip (not sure what it's called) so there's more space in the end for the head. Like these.
Use water-based lubrication (like Wet).
It may vary from region to region, but regular pharmacies/drug stores usually have it here in canada. One of the larger ones carries a selection of them, from Astroglide to more generic types. They're found in the family planning section along with condoms and whatnot, at least around here they are.
Edit: I've been using Astroglide liquid and found it useful, but it's so slick a liquid it can often risk a little extra mess. If there's a gel version available, that can help contain at least some of the potential mess in application at least.
Also, as always, only use water based lubricants with condoms. Oil based ones can damage the latex and increase the risk of it breaking.
What brand are you buying? Trojan, Durex and Lifestyles have no such warnings. The only lubricant related warning I have ever seen on any of those three condom brands (all of which I have used) is related specifically to oil-based lubricants, which dissolve latex.
Annecdotally, I have never had one slip off. I have sex roughly 10 times per week. My back is killing me.
there are... also instructions on condoms saying you should apply lubrication to the inside. If it slides off the condoms you're using are too big. Lube reduces friction and thus makes the condom less likely to burst.
You can find lube at pharmacies and some grocery stores. Astroglide is the one i use most, but any water based lubricant will do fine. Durex is, in my experience, a better brand than trojan, so just try again, do a lot of foreplay, and try to relax!
personally I use durex ultra thin.
If you put a small dab of lube on the tip of your penis, that should make things feel better and it's something your penis will do naturally as you engage in intercourse -- "pre-cum" is really nothing more than additional lubrication. You can test this out by yourself if you're apprehensive of trying it with your special lady.
do NOT lube the inside, that can cause condom failure, very very bad mojo
Inside the condom is spermicide, your vig against the Sperm mafia. It acts as a lubricant by itself, but if you add non-spermicidal lube in there, that additional lube would be a bus driver, preventing the kill and allowing them to slip by your rubber guardian.
You mentioned "pleasure" in the name, and the ones marked "For Her Pleasure" actually has numbing properties, much like a neutralizer. A condom by itself is neutral enough, but with that additional neutralization you won't feel a thing.
You'll have to seer around to find a brand that works for you, but Ultra Thin isn't a suspicious choice. Hope you don't have masons!
Not so.
The inside and outside of the condom are the same material. Unless you put a fuckton in or are buying too big it won't slip off. It shouldn't "fail" regardless.
This Japanese brand was far and away the best feeling condom, cannot remember if it was beyond7, okamoto or kimono. They were about twice the cost of trojans or lifestyles, but definitely worth the expense, and they came in a metal tin.
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I find the exact opposite to be true, actually. Different strokes, and all that, I guess.
Indeed. Some people swear by the stuff, Mrs. SammyF and I swear in response to it. :P
Limed and limed again. If that fails, try magnums (assuming it isn't obvious that you don't fit the criterion)
Obviously sex is about doing what feels good, and there's nothing wrong with experimenting to see what you prefer. I personally don't trust any trojan brand because they're the only ones that have ever broken on me, and I've corroborated that with friends (which doesn't make it factually true, just a similar experience).
One thing to be careful of when it comes to lubricating inside the condom is to do it sparingly and ensure that your special lady is also appropriately lubricated. A condom is simply a barrier, and if your penis is slick and her vagina is dry, the condom is more likely to come off inside her.
I'm looking at the site, and I'm trying to figure out the difference between these and other condoms. Are these made special? They seem to specialize in thin condoms or specialty condoms.
I did just see this though: http://www.beyondsevencondoms.com/htmls/production.htm
Also, what's with the free sample? I think I knew a girl who only used these, or those Kimonos.
Just wish I had a use for the free sample...>_>
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Just tried for the freebie and it bugged out after the survey
I live with my parents. Not sure how discreet they'd be in the mail, or if they'd spam the shit out of me.
Although, it takes 6-8 weeks to arrive...That'd be a great personal deadline to find a use for them before that date.
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Well I actually hated Superbad, but I was thinking of that first scene, where they're debating which porn service to subscribe to. They're talking about the name coming up on the bill, and one mentions "Perfect Ten. That could pass as a bowling site."
Beyond 7 doesn't sound too bad. I don't get the name though. Is it a condom for more well endowed men? When I first saw the name, I thought it'd be a numbing cream. Sort of like that masturbatory aid, Stroke 29, which turns from slick to frictiony after the 29th stroke. I figured Beyond 7 cream would help you last beyond 7 thrusts/minutes.
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He asked if they were for well endowed guys. Last time I checked well endowed meant "above average". Saying that the condoms were not for those that were above average in no way suggests that they are "tiny". Using the phrase "Not big" is not synonymous "small". Not really sure where you got the idea that I was suggesting otherwise....
You must be at least this large to claim you can't fit into a regular condom.
Aren't pretty much all condoms made in Japan?
While this picture is hilarious, I can attest that choosing the right size condom is important. My bf is rather well endowed (obligatory :winky:) and we discovered pretty quick that even the largest trojans we could find (magnum xl with the gold foil, I think?) would basically turn his penis the color of a ripe eggplant with veins sticking out every which way. It was not fun to look at and he reported numbness from the bottom of the condom cutting off circulation, so after a while we just ditched em and I stayed on the BC.
Try to get a variety of condoms to figure out which one fits and works best for you!
No problem maintaining an erection though.
Thank Christ the girl I'm with right now is on birth control. Condomless sex rocks.