Female troubles?

CephalicCarnage

So my friend, took this test for her job, for qualifying to be certified in it. she passed with a good score, and told me she wanted to celebrate. I said "what do you want to do?" and she said she didn't know, and would tell me when she thought of somthing. well i was tired as hell and went to sleep. Now she wont respond to anything i say, i keep texting and calling her and i emailed her at work, im like "wtf? why wont u talk to me" nothing.
what kind of bullcrap is that? she hadent made any plans, im like wtf is the problem? you didnt even know what you wanted to do. im angry

Comahawk

How long has it been?

Maybe you are just being a little annoying and crazy with trying to get in touch with her?

Bionic Monkey

Uh, how long since you first contacted her? If she's at work, there's a chance she's simply indisposed.

CephalicCarnage

wednesday night at about 8 pm was the last time i said somthing to her, and she did not respond to me saying "goodnight" wich she always does. so all day yesterday she did not have work, but she still ignored me, and i didnt flood her with txt and calls, i txt her 3 times. "hey whats up?" like 2 hours later "hey what r u doin" then bout an hour after that "r u ignoring me?" that was yesterday from like, 3pm till 9 was the last one. i also called her after and no pick up. i txt her once this morning, and then i called her a couple hours later. and i emailed her at work incase her phone could not get signal. we are realy realy good friends, we ALWAYS talk, and ALWAYS go out of our way for eachother. i love this girl, and she loves me, she says it all the time its ridiculous lol. but for some reason, now shes real pissed or somthing, maybe her phone is off the line or somthing. im going to go knock on her door when she gets off work today, and find out what the hell is going on.

Fireflash

This seems like something that just happened last night.. right? I'd take the wait and see approach.

Or maybe the "let's celebrate" was innuendo for "Let's have sex" and she's mad that you didn't pick up on it.

CephalicCarnage

lol it wasent for sex, we are just friends. i do like her though, i told her how i felt, shes super religious, and im athiest, so she wouldent date me for that, and she says she has to put god first or w/e, and shes not ready for a relationship, wich is true because she is obsessed with this other kid, and she turned him down because she wasent ready for a relationship. but she does know i like her alot, and she said she thinks about us being together, but the whole "god religious" stuff comes into play. she just got out of a 2 year relationship where her man cheated on her, so i can understand. now its like shes using the fact that i like her so much against me! she never ignored me before, and i have made her mad b4, but she would always respond. gah! its crazyness!

edit- it started wednesday night.

Fireflash

CephalicCarnage wrote:

wednesday night at about 8 pm was the last time i said somthing to her, and she did not respond to me saying "goodnight" wich she always does. so all day yesterday she did not have work, but she still ignored me, and i didnt flood her with txt and calls, i txt her 3 times. "hey whats up?" like 2 hours later "hey what r u doin" then bout an hour after that "r u ignoring me?" that was yesterday from like, 3pm till 9 was the last one. i also called her after and no pick up. i txt her once this morning, and then i called her a couple hours later. and i emailed her at work incase her phone could not get signal. we are realy realy good friends, we ALWAYS talk, and ALWAYS go out of our way for eachother. i love this girl, and she loves me, she says it all the time its ridiculous lol. but for some reason, now shes real pissed or somthing, maybe her phone is off the line or somthing. im going to go knock on her door when she gets off work today, and find out what the hell is going on.

Don't harass her like that. If she doesn't want to talk to you right now, all of this is only going to make her more annoyed at you. She'Ll talk to you when she wants to. I doubt she would completely stop talking to you forever just like that.

CephalicCarnage

i dunno. one time i didnt get her messages one day, and she sent me like 5 times as many text askin me if i was avoiding her. i thought in comparison i wasent harassing too much lol.

Veevee

CephalicCarnage wrote:

i dunno. one time i didnt get her messages one day, and she sent me like 5 times as many text askin me if i was avoiding her. i thought in comparison i wasent harassing too much lol.

But then she is a female and they can be irrational creatures.

I vote with the sit and wait. Maybe knock on the door but if that doesn't get results just send her an email telling her that when she wants to talk you'll be waiting it just put it out of your mind.

CephalicCarnage

Veevee wrote:

CephalicCarnage wrote:

i dunno. one time i didnt get her messages one day, and she sent me like 5 times as many text askin me if i was avoiding her. i thought in comparison i wasent harassing too much lol.

But then she is a female and they can be irrational creatures.

I vote with the sit and wait. Maybe knock on the door but if that doesn't get results just send her an email telling her that when she wants to talk you'll be waiting it just put it out of your mind.

yea, thats a good idea, i will do that, thanks

The Fritz

She might have lost her phone.

True story.

Kewop Decam

Fireflash wrote:

This seems like something that just happened last night.. right? I'd take the wait and see approach.

Or maybe the "let's celebrate" was innuendo for "Let's have sex" and she's mad that you didn't pick up on it.

That's the first thing that popped into my head. Not saying this is the case, but just because she hasn't returned your calls or messages doesn't mean she's avoiding you.

EclecticGroove

I'll play devils advocate here tho and say this is something I've noticed as a way to "deal with things" for a few people I've known.

Not saying this is the case, but I've had similar situations where things would come up, seem to be cool, then without warning I never hear from this person again.

Also, it's not that there was NOTHING going on in my cases to be an issue. Just that the other party didn't seemed to be bothered by it, and never had any problems at all that they stated.

And I was guilty of it once as well.. but it did have a fair warning, I gave someone a second chance at something one time and they betrayed my trust. I told them when I gave them a chance that I'd be gone without a word if they did it again, and I was... I don't think yours was that situation.

I'd agree to just let it simmer down.. wait a few more days, and if she doesn't contact you, then go and see her once. If she isn't there, leave.
If you want, after this wait a few more days.. and if you STILL have not heard anything, go to her place with a note... if she isn't there or isn't asnwering at least, slip it under her door and leave.

Note would just be a simple, "I haven't heard from you in awhile, not sure why we seem to miss each other lately, but I'd like to get together and hang out" kind of note.

WHatever you think/know would be a pretty normal and non pressure way to basically say "I'd like to hang out again".

After that, it's all in her court.

Doc

I can't stand when people keep text messaging me, or I get home and I see something in my IM client along the lines of:

Hey
How are things?
Are you there?
Why aren't you talking to me?
Are you pissed?
Fine. We can talk later. Whatever.

If someone's bugging me, it makes it even more likely that I'll take my time in getting back to them.

That is to say, knock it off.

EclecticGroove

Doc wrote:

I can't stand when people keep text messaging me, or I get home and I see something in my IM client along the lines of:

Hey
How are things?
Are you there?
Why aren't you talking to me?
Are you pissed?
Fine. We can talk later. Whatever.

If someone's bugging me, it makes it even more likely that I'll take my time in getting back to them.

That is to say, knock it off.

Wow, I didn't know my mom IM'd you too!

lol

She doesn't always get the concept that the "instant" part of IM doesn't hold any truth if the other person isn't actually there.


With that... from the OP's decription, he hasn't sent more than a handfull of messages over the last few days. If he's used to hearing from her next to immediately, I don't think it's too far out of line for him to have done that. Unless he's covering up an extra 10+ messages/calls or some such.