Love triangles and bisexuality

ben0207

So, I'm a bit wasted, but the probelm remains, it is only my spelling hat is affected.

I have about a million things to think about personally. I will list them, perhaps they will make sense to you, as external people to my crazy brain:

I think I'm in love with a girl from work. Any by girl, I mean boss. And by boss, I mean boss whose boyfriend is a mate of mine. I think I'm still in love with my ex-girlfriend. Really quite a lot. But she refuses to answer my calls at all, and barely acknowledges my existance I'm slowly coming to terms with being bisexual. It's really quite awkward for everyone involved. Especially me, who doesn't really know where to look most of the time.

I don't know what to do. For the first time in my life, I genuinely don't know what to do.

And it scares me. Really scares me. More than anything I've ever faced.


Does anyone have anything that can help? Anything?

Thanatos

I changed the title to something more helpful.

You've got a chance now to withdraw this post, if it is a joke. Because if I find out later that it's a joke, I'm going to ban you, and it will not be a short ban.

ben0207

Thanatos wrote:

I changed the title to something more helpful.

You've got a chance now to withdraw this post, if it is a joke. Because if I find out later that it's a joke, I'm going to ban you, and it will not be a short ban.

It isn't. For the first time in a very long while, Im posting something serious. Very serious.

liquidlogan

I'm going to attempt to help in hopes of maintaining my faith that people come here for help.

In terms of your boss, I think the obvious answer is to stay away. I know you think you are in love with her, and that might be fine and well, but dating a co-worker, especially one in a position of authority, is never a wise choice. For one, it places her in an incredibly awkward position. And if anyone finds out, it might become an issue which might result in both of you (definitely you) losing your job.

In terms of your ex-girlfriend, it is more difficult to answer that question because really you haven't given us much to base our advice on. But my advise would be to you that if she barely recognizes your existence, it's time to move on. Liberate thine eye (in the direction of a non-colleague).

Finally, I don't know where to give you advice on how to find a relationship with someone of the same sex, but I think the best advice is to not force anything until you are entirely ready or it falls into your lap. The worst thing to do when you are confused is to just pick something or do something without thinking. It never leads anywhere productive, normally just heartbreak or regret in general.

Hope that helped.

Amigu

Come back when you're sober?

ben0207

I tried posting this when I was sober. I wasn't able to actually post the message. I tried though. I suppose the content was about the same.

A bit more detail about my ex-girlfriend who I miss more than anything I've ever known:

I dumped her becase she was an egotistical bitch who wouldn't shut up about how much she's been on TV. And he went to Greece for two weeks with her ex-boyfriend, who she constantly compared me too. Even when he became a mate of mine and laughed about how mental she was. Oh, and she dropped constant hints about how she wanted to settle down and start a family, which I was in no way ready for. Shit, I'm only twenty. She was twenty-eight, but still, that's not the point.




Err,a nd about relationships of the same sex: I've had a few, but onyl if you use the Bill Clinton definition.

Amigu

Well ok then atleast read through my advice again once you've sobered up.

Your ex sounds like a bitch and your boss sounds unattainable, jumping into a same sex relationship sounds even more destabalizing.

Looks like you're going to end up being on your own for a while which sounds like a good thing because it seems like you have some shit to sort through before you can start thinking about relationships anyway.

ben0207

Oh shit I've done it again.



Okay, err, cheers for the help, but I really shouldn't have posted this here. I'm just going to work through all this with my IRL friends and err, whatever.

Mods can you lock this and throw away the key?


(Subnote: My typing wasn't that bad, was it?)