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You should probably wait until you have stronger feelings you're more sure of. You might not even be bisexual, if you have lots of gay/bi friends perhaps you're just subconciously trying to fit in? Point being if you're unsure don't be in a rush to out yourself.
Is there a reason you would need to tell people? If you happen upon a guy you want to date, just do it. If it comes up in a conversation with your friends "my boyfriend and I...", then I'd say you just told them.
Is it that big of a deal in your circle of friends to define your sexuality so much?
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The Black HunterThe key is a minimum of compromise, and a simple,unimpeachable reason to existRegistered Userregular
I would also vote for adopting a sort of "wait and see" approach.
I know that being 18 makes you all growed up and such like but trust me there's a lot of living left for you to do that I'm sure will help you figure out just what your orientation really is. I wouldn't just dive head first into this hint of a feeling that you're Bi. Just be who you've always been and if in doing that you find yourself with a guy and you get to feeling that you really are attracted to him, well then maybe you're Bi. Again I would not recommend jumping into your first sexual encounter just to figure out which way you go.
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Generally, it's a good idea to sort things out for yourself before giving a defined term to others.
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FalloutGIRL'S DAYWAS PRETTY GOOD WHILE THEY LASTEDRegistered Userregular
edited June 2009
What Sarcastro said.
If you're not going out with anyone it's sort of a moot point anyways. Just give it time, you don't have to declare a major when it comes to your sexuality.
Kiss a dude. If you like it, then you are not 200% straight.
Then come to terms with it.
Kiss more dudes.
Tell people when necessary that you kiss dudes.
????
Profit
Oh and if its something you knew deep down inside since you were a kid, then you probably will have to come to terms with it.
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mysticjuicer[he/him] I'm a muscle wizardand I cast P U N C HRegistered Userregular
edited June 2009
Getting into a relationship with members of both sexes may not clarify things for you at all. It didn't for me. I was just as caught up in trying to apply some sort of quantifying label to myself after I'd made out with a guy as I was after I made out with a girl. "What if I'm just fooling myself? What if I'm not really attracted to girls, and I just enjoy kissing? I barely ever masturbate to gay fantasies, what does that mean?" Which sounds utterly stupid in hindsight, I'm aware, but the sense that I was "doing it wrong" somehow or being dishonest was pervasive.
My solution was to stop overthinking, realize that yes, I liked the idea of doing sexual stuff with guys, and I liked the idea of doing sexual stuff with girls, and that correlates strongly with the dictionary definition of bisexuality. My advice to you is to stop torturing yourself with what label you should declare for yourself, and just be. Go to school/work, hang out with your friends, and sooner or later you'll get a crush on someone. Then you should ask them out. That's complicated enough on its own without adding to the challenge with your own headgames.
you shouldn't even be worried about a label until "never" turns into "twice" or so.
You're going to simply confuse yourself and make it more uncomfortable to try and feel your way through this (:winky:)
but most importantly, do whatever feels right. you're waaaaay too young to worry.
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you shouldn't even be worried about a label until "never" turns into "twice" or so.
You're going to simply confuse yourself and make it more uncomfortable to try and feel your way through this (:winky:)
but most importantly, do whatever feels right. you're waaaaay too young to worry.
this. don't worry about how/when to tell other until you're sure for yourself. at one point i wavered on my own label, tried playing for the other team, and decided it wasn't for me. it wasn't necessarily unpleasant, just more of "huh.... this doesn't really do anything for me."
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Is it that big of a deal in your circle of friends to define your sexuality so much?
give it a month or so
I know that being 18 makes you all growed up and such like but trust me there's a lot of living left for you to do that I'm sure will help you figure out just what your orientation really is. I wouldn't just dive head first into this hint of a feeling that you're Bi. Just be who you've always been and if in doing that you find yourself with a guy and you get to feeling that you really are attracted to him, well then maybe you're Bi. Again I would not recommend jumping into your first sexual encounter just to figure out which way you go.
But thanks for the advice. I did think I was rushing in to things a bit.
If you're not going out with anyone it's sort of a moot point anyways. Just give it time, you don't have to declare a major when it comes to your sexuality.
Then come to terms with it.
Kiss more dudes.
Tell people when necessary that you kiss dudes.
????
Profit
My solution was to stop overthinking, realize that yes, I liked the idea of doing sexual stuff with guys, and I liked the idea of doing sexual stuff with girls, and that correlates strongly with the dictionary definition of bisexuality. My advice to you is to stop torturing yourself with what label you should declare for yourself, and just be. Go to school/work, hang out with your friends, and sooner or later you'll get a crush on someone. Then you should ask them out. That's complicated enough on its own without adding to the challenge with your own headgames.
you shouldn't even be worried about a label until "never" turns into "twice" or so.
You're going to simply confuse yourself and make it more uncomfortable to try and feel your way through this (:winky:)
but most importantly, do whatever feels right. you're waaaaay too young to worry.
Why do you think you are bisexual and not gay/lesbian?
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