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Sex question - round two - normal?
jasonlester
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Okay, here we go, another sex thread. This will be quick though. (lul)
What is the average time for a guy lasting in bed? I'm not really having too much trouble but it's still annoying that I have to distract myself. I kinda lose track of time but I'd say 10-15 minutes if I'm lucky. This is when I have jacked it that same day.
What is the average time for a guy lasting in bed? I'm not really having too much trouble but it's still annoying that I have to distract myself. I kinda lose track of time but I'd say 10-15 minutes if I'm lucky. This is when I have jacked it that same day.
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As for your endurance question, I think 10-15 minutes is probably about normal once you've actually started the sex (as opposed to foreplay). To extend this, though, you can stop yourself from ejaculating when masturbating, give it some time, start again, stop before you ejaculate, etcetera. Basically, prolong your orgasm. That's supposed to help endurance, or so I've read; it seems to work in practice.
If you're going 10-15 minutes you're not doing too bad. Learn to love foreplay?
Also, average refractory period for adult men (the amount of time it takes to have a second orgasm after the first) is 20-30 minutes. If you think about this, it means that average "rest time" between sex should be 15-20 minutes (given that average IELT is 5-10 minutes).
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
Do this and you can regularly hit 15 minutes. Plus, remember it isn't all about length.
but they're listening to every word I say
Yeah, girth is important too.
*rimshot*
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When I was younger I could last up to 15-20 minutes or more. I learned a trick reading a book that teaches how to delay ejaculation and I applied it to real life.
Also, condoms reduce sensation for me and I sometimes can last ten minutes or more to complete.
If you're particularly worried about having an impressive length of time that you can brag about to your friends and what not then you might want to re-think relationships. What matters is that you and your partner see one another as a person you want to be with, regardless of the length of intercourse.
That being said I can totally understand the desire to be sure you and your partner are satisfied. To be honest I still feel bad if my wife doesn't reach climax and we've been together for nearly a decade. Foreplay is key a lot of times and dependent on what you're comfortable with that can be some of the most exciting part of sex. Also, the more often you have sex or even masturbate, the longer you tend to last. Think of it as building up a tolerance I guess. This may mean a bit of self love in the morning equating to some longer time spent loving someone else in the evening.
As for the 'round two' scenario, it may just take time for you to recover a bit. Take a breather, get some fluids and maybe spend a little time just sort of touching and massaging. The ultra thin condoms I think can help but I've also had them break a bit more frequently, especially if things start to get a little dry down there, I also find them to be a little uncomfortable after awhile, like putting a too tight rubber band around the base.
I'll give a suggestion for what to do between rounds, it's not really very naughty at all. Take your finger or even a DS stylus (kinky, I know) and draw small rows of little circles along your s/o 's back. Other shapes are also acceptable. Some people are too ticklish for this, but for others.. well, lets just say I have gotten sex before just because of the potential for the circle drawing afterwards.
that said, try a cock ring... quite fun on the 2nd or 3rd time around
I definitely don't think it's normal, nor do I think it's necessarily desirable. That gets extremely tiring for the guy, and probably soreness-inducing for the girl.
Go slow. Change things up. Stop and kiss. Laugh. Joke. Talk. Lots of foreplay at least helps.
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Think of it as a glorified rubber band for the base of your penis. The idea is to keep blood from leaving and thus keep things swollen as well as acting as a physical deterrent to your eventual release. It's not always a guarantee to work of course and I think any effect it has in lengthening performance is something of a placebo effect paired with the distraction of having the thing on, sort of like having a TV on in the background or chewing a piece of soft candy or the like.
That being said it is one option to explore if you're absolutely desperate to prolong things, and thus falls within the OP issue of lasting longer or recovering faster. Some versions also come equipped with things that stimulate the girl as well and I'm sure a good selection is to be found at most adult stores. I would also note that the mere act of trying to do 'something new' is typically appreciated by one's partner, even if it doesn't work out in the end. So aside from the money you might sink into things or if it isn't kept clean (like anything should be if its used in intercourse) the possibility of a Urinary Tract Infection, there isn't a huge downside to trying something new and having it not work out, provided both parties are interested in the first place.
Disclaimer: do not actually use a rubber band.
Yeah, it sounds obvious, but sometimes people do stupid things.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
The penis is a live organ, it needs oxygen and nutrients to keep the tissues alive. If you decide to do this anyway, do not use it for a long period of time to avoid necrosis.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Necrosis
Having sex is not always about penetration, some women enjoy kissing, touching, and receiving oral sex. These activities can prolong the act and make it enjoyable. Others are plain flat and refuse foreplay.
It will depend very much if the girl in question actually enjoys having sex, or if she is just "acting". Believe or not, some women have never experienced an orgasm, while others have the ability to achieve several orgasms one after the other.
I literally went
alcohol +1
ymmv. whiskey dick rarely leads to great sex.
Word.
Freshman year I was getting consistently hammered and having sex that would last too long. Simply doesn't feel as good, establishes weird fears and anxiety about having sober sex, and creates a strange relationship with whatever girl you've found.
I don't last especially long if I'm in a great position and my girlfriend's really going at it. For me, the trick is finding positions that feel great for her and don't do much for you until she comes, and then going to town.
Running 3-4 miles three times a week also leads to better orgasms and greater stamina in bed.
7 minutes is the average for actual intercourse; with foreplay included, most people are satisfied with 30 to 60 minutes.
Alcohol will make it take longer for a male to orgasm, sometimes making it nigh impossible, but (I'd argue) it makes you sloppier so she enjoys it less, and it also makes your orgasms weaker. Alcohol does, after all, slow your blood and numb your senses.
I'd wait at least a half hour in between 'rounds'. Go eat a sandwich -- no caffeine and no alcohol. The 'round 2' is harder or easier to do depending on the male. The female sometime has a hard time getting wet again, too, so I suggest keeping a bottle of Silk personal lube around so she doesn't get uncomfortable.
As the G-spot is located (at most) 2 inches inside the vag ... penis length is usually not a big issue. You've just gotta know how to enter her. What you came out with is likely enough hardware to do the job.