So, I'm an awkward bastard
See -
There's a girl, who is
smokin', and she arouses great sentiment in me (nudge nudge) Only, not in situations in which I actually need a great sentiment.
We were sitting there in the car slobbering on each other when she started to lean down to apply mouth to dick. neat-o, lovely. but instead of going harder like i should, i
deflate like a fucking popped balloon, and then I'm like "shit shit i need an erection" and that doesn't help at all. She got up after a while of trying all "it's okay, it's okay", but it's still humiliating. Argh.
I've had perfectly normal erections before when I'm just sitting there staring at her in class or something. So I figure it must jsut be nerves or something. any advice on how to get the hell over that would be mightily appreciated.
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And hey you could always return the favor to help rev your own motor, so to speak...
I always lose my boner when I do that. Not because i dont think its sexy or anyhting, I dont know, I just lose it for some reason. Unless we're doing 69.
The absence of direct manual stimulation + needing to concentrate on something else = flag flying at half-mast for a lot of guys. So long as it pops back up when it's needed, it's not a big deal.
Needing to concentrate on something that isn't his penis's barometric pressure for a bit and knowing that she's not going to be too disappointed even if he can't get it back up, however, can get a dude out of a bad case of the limp-dick freakouts.
Yeah, first time for me I got these wierd muscle spasms in my right side... Made me do this wierd jerk to the right in reaction... Chick gave me an odd look but went on.
Shit happens though, just relax, go with it.
Dear satan I wish for this or maybe some of this....oh and I'm a medium or a large.
Seconded.
Like everyone else says, it's probably just performance anxiety.
If your first reaction is "oh, this has never happened before, so it must be you," then yeah, she's probably going to bail, and rightfully so.
However, if you explain it to her in more of a "oh, man, you're so hot, and so attractive, and I feel like I should be doing so much to please you, that I just get so nervous" kind of way, you're likely to get a lot more mileage out of it, and she's a lot more likely to be willing to give it another shot.
Most chicks are a lot more understanding and know that basic physiology comes into play a lot more than the power of Greyskull. It can generally be gotten past so long as she's not just in it for sex and the guy doesn't freak out and make things so awkward that nobody can look each other in the eye for a month.
Basically, ignore the part of your brain saying 'YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG!' with an ebaumsworld picture.
Just relax. It'll go away eventually.
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As far as I'm concerned, I think it's pretty much the other way around. My dick is a conniving bastard.
But seriously, could it be stress related? This has happened to me when I've had a fuckload of stuff on my mind that I can't stop thinking about. Normally, I just have to take a second or two to get back into the moment, and then it's on.
if it makes you feel better you are lucky to have found a girl that is understanding rather than "if you dont have an erection you dont think im sexy!"
those girls are hell
Abandon all hope, for no one is here to help you.
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And, uh, thanks for all the advice, guys. 8)
turns out I woke up with a cold the next day, so it was just a case of being under the weather
shit really isn't a big deal
Your username fits this perfectly.
I had honestly for a month thought I didn't work after we went two or three times and it didn't wanna go.
But after a while we got really close - and I even told her how worried I was about it. Low and behold we got really comfortable with each other and fucked like rabbits for the longest time. Once we got over that first time.. shit - it's like there never was a problem.
In the mean time I got hella good with my fingers and tongue.