Yet another girl question.

eltsian

Sorry for asking a girl question but you guys seem to always be pretty on the ball for advice so I thought "Why not". I'll give as many details as I can.

Okay well there's this girl, we'll call her "Lucy" and we've known each other around two years. We met when we both worked at a cell phone cover kiosk in a local mall, and I ended up developing a crush on her. When she moved to a different town for college I got over it and even had a g/f in the interim but now we live close to each other. (Two towns seperated by a river).

She's an RA at her college so she doesn't see any of her friends at all. Hell her best friend and I have both only seen her three times but I digress. We (her, her friend, and I) were at a social gathering last weekend and both Lucy and I had a bit to drink. I knew that she was a cuddler when drunk but she knew some people at this gathering longer than me but she was always hanging on me. And here's a dialogue between Lucy and another girl.

girl: So are you two going out? You seem pretty lovey dovey.
Lucy: Nah, I know Eltsian and I would make a cute couple but I just dont have the time right now *looks at me* but next semester I'm quitting one of my jobs and I won't be a RA"

I took it as a joke since she was drunk. We even slept in the same bed and cuddled last new years eve. Nothing happened and she said she enjoyed the fact that she could cuddle with a nice boy and not have to worry about anything bad happening. But when I told my friends this, they said it was her way of saying "Ask me out next semester since we both will have the time for a relationship you idiot!"

So I ask you if I should just not worry about it or if I should actually pursue this?

tl;dr: A girl I like made a comment about how we would make a cute couple next semester but I don't know if that was an invitation or just a drunken comment.

Conditional_Axe

If you need any of us to tell you whether or not to pursue a girl, then the answer is probably no.

What do you feel about her, logistics aside?

Marty81

Alcohol can do a lot of things, but one thing it doesn't make you do is lie.

Sounds like she wants you.

Vincent Grayson

That sounds to me like a pretty clear indication to ask her the fuck out. I mean, drunken comment or no, what've you got to lose? Just don't be creepy about it, and either she'll jump at the opportunity, or turn you down and things remain the way they are.

eltsian

If you need any of us to tell you whether or not to pursue a girl, then the answer is probably no.

What do you feel about her, logistics aside?

Sorry I guess my question was pretty ambiguous. The main question is whether or not that little comment really meant anything. I would've made a move a while ago but I knew there would be no time for a relationship but if there's time, why not? Another reason I haven't is because we actually have a good friendship, and the last thing I need is for things to be weird.

As for how I feel about her, she's an awesome girl who is smart, is a looker, and laughs at my dumb jokes. In my little world, that's damn near perfect. But I'm also pretty easy-going as far as "standards" (god I hate that term) go.

Dak

Vincent Grayson wrote:

That sounds to me like a pretty clear indication to ask her the fuck out. I mean, drunken comment or no, what've you got to lose? Just don't be creepy about it, and either she'll jump at the opportunity, or turn you down and things remain the way they are.

Yeah, not really much to lose. It's in how you approach it. Asking her out won't make her feel awkward if you do it right, and if she isn't actually interested, she'll at least be flattered.

Don't make it weird, is all I'm saying.

JWFokker

Get together with her next semester. But don't be a dope about it and ask her out on a "date". Just get her to start hanging out with you at social events and doing shit together. If you don't make it blatantly obvious you're madly in love with her, she'll come to you pretty easily.

Conditional_Axe

eltsian wrote:

If you need any of us to tell you whether or not to pursue a girl, then the answer is probably no.

What do you feel about her, logistics aside?

Sorry I guess my question was pretty ambiguous. The main question is whether or not that little comment really meant anything. I would've made a move a while ago but I knew there would be no time for a relationship but if there's time, why not?

As for how I feel about her, she's an awesome girl who is smart, is a looker, and laughs at my dumb jokes. In my little world, that's damn near perfect. But I'm also pretty easy-going as far as "standards" (god I hate that term) go.

Well, then yeah, go for it.

I am pretty sure that that comment, even if it wasn't supposed to be a set of instructions for you, indicates that she's at least open to the possibility of taking things to the next level.

redpanda

Sounds like you two will make a pretty good couple. Just like a few of the other guys have mentioned, try not to make it weird when you ask her out. Stick to social gatherings, parties, hell even coffee. If you two have already spent the night together, that means that she’s comfortable with you (she feels safe around you). Don’t screw this up by pressuring her to have sex with you at the start. I had a similar experience come up just a few weeks ago. In short, take your time, get out of the “just friends” box, and have fun.

DynamiteKid

I had a similar experience. All you need to do is come across in a jokey (not too jokey or they'll say it was a joke no matter what) way telling them what they said, maybe laugh about it, then ask them if they meant it.

Also, entirely separate to that, I find that being drunk makes people become MORE themselves, be that just a more exaggerated version of themselves or doing and saying things they've always wanted to but never had the guts to do. I think either of those could apply here.

Zek

Uh, yeah, listen to your friends. She just told you to ask her out next semester. No joke about it.

eltsian

Well its good to know that my friends and I aren't taking things out of context. I will definately take the advice, just keep it casual and not be weird about it seems to be the norm. If anything good turns out I'll let you guys know that way you can take credit for it.

Amigu

Don't try and extract meaning from little snippits of things she says. The only way you'll know whether she really digs you is by escalating with her (ie kiss or sex or something). Try your luck.

Kewop Decam

Marty81 wrote:

Alcohol can do a lot of things, but one thing it doesn't make you do is lie.

Sounds like she wants you.

Mad Jazz

I'll give you the same advice I just recently gave to one of my good friends (with good results):

Ask her out on a date, stupid.



To clarify, I mean next semester of course. I also don't mean get dressed up and go out to dinner, necessarily. Do something silly and fun like others have suggested, but do something. For serious.