How To Deal With a Friends Death?

Kratos55

I'm making this topic to answer a question I have been thinking about lately. How do you respond when a close friend dies, but you can't get to the funeral?

God forbid one of my close friends dies, but what would you do in a situation like that?

(This idea was started because one of my classmates father's died, and I wasn't able to attend his funeral because I was on vacation. Personally, I felt like an ass for not attending.)

Discuss.

Shadowfire

While I was away on vacation, one of my employees died. I felt like a prick because I couldn't be there (I wasn't responsible for the transportation, my in-laws were, so I couldn't just take off), but you get past it. If you're looking for closure, visit the grave site (or better, the family) with some flowers.

Not being able to make the funeral does not mean you can't pay respects to the dead.

Kratos55

Cool, that's a good idea.
Sucks that I couldn't make it because I knew the guy as a strong fearless cop, and he withered away to noting in a few weeks.

Incenjucar

I would generally do some solace-seeking with friends and family, maybe find some fitting music to let the tears flow fully so you can get them off your chest. Maybe do something that they would have liked, like donating to their favorite charity.

Preacher

The way I handle grief is to remember the life that they lived and not just that they died. Especially remember your positive interactions with them. As long as you have a memory of the person they were they didn't truely die.

Elki

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