graduation gift?

INeedNoSalt

tomorrow i am going to a graduation party for a coworker who i worked with a few months ago. he was cool enough and we hung out a few times but didnt stay in touch too much since i quit (three or four months back.) while we were still working together he asked if id show up at his graduation party, and he called today to inform me he was holding me to that.

im an unemployed student myself, so im going to get this dude a card, but is there anything i am expected to bring to such a party? (he is 18 or 19, graduating high school, and im 21, so like, 'bring some beers' aint an option.)

admanb

I would find it very weird if he was expecting gifts from everybody.

Chanus

A card should be fine.

After all, your presence is present enough!

INeedNoSalt

admanb wrote: »

I would find it very weird if he was expecting gifts from everybody.

true true, i don't know the etiquette. everyone who showed up at my graduation party brought money (they were mostly family though.)

admanb

INeedNoSalt wrote: »

true true, i don't know the etiquette. everyone who showed up at my graduation party brought money (they were mostly family though.)

Family is different. So are adult family friends. If you were one of those, you might have to consider it, but as a friend his age you shouldn't.

Invisible

A card is nice and I'm sure he realizes you're a cash-strapped student as well. If you want, throwing in something like an iTunes giftcard or even just something $10 or $20 is better. But you won't be breaking any social rules by not including a gift with the card.

BrotherVoodoo

You're young, so if I were him I wouldn't expect it. None of my cousins gave me or my other young cousins graduation gifts even though some of them are 4-5 years older. I think it's mostly a generation thing. If you're 10 years difference or a generation older than maybe and even then it's not mandatory or anything, just a nice goodwill gesture from Adults if they can.

INeedNoSalt

yar, i guess im just gonna get a card

i can't afford a hefty kind of gift and i think sticking ten bucks in a card would be kind of insulting :P

Yellowhammer

Invisible wrote: »

A card is nice and I'm sure he realizes you're a cash-strapped student as well. If you want, throwing in something like an iTunes giftcard or even just something $10 or $20 is better. But you won't be breaking any social rules by not including a gift with the card.

Golded and bolded

Figgy

Don't include a gift. I've never given any of my friends gifts on their graduation, even those I've known for 20 years. Then again, we aren't the types to give each other gifts, but still.

I consider graduation a time when gifts are from family only. I'm willing to bet most people there won't even think of a card, so you're golden.