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Making out (and the problems that lie within)
AlternateAcct
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So, I should preface this by saying that (surprise!) this is an alternate account. I'm a little embarrassed about the subject, so please indulge me this one favor.
Anyways, where to begin... Well, I've been seeing this girl (and I'm a guy) for a month and a half or so now and we've just begun making out or well, doing more than just a quick peck on the mouth/cheek. The problem lies in that I'm not getting any... reaction down in my nether regions. Now the reason I come to you with this query dear H/A forum is because this is the first girl I've ever kissed, let alone done anything more with and I'm not sure exactly what is supposed to be happening and what I should be doing or shouldn't be doing. Now we've only done it twice (and by it, I mean a long kiss. It's been about 30 seconds each time, which isn't long, but a lot longer than we had been doing, also with tounge), so I'm not sure if I'm just doing it wrong or... what.
I should also mention that I've had quite a lot of anxiety, although I seem to be getting over it the longer I see this girl. Maybe that's inhibiting me?
Anyways, where to begin... Well, I've been seeing this girl (and I'm a guy) for a month and a half or so now and we've just begun making out or well, doing more than just a quick peck on the mouth/cheek. The problem lies in that I'm not getting any... reaction down in my nether regions. Now the reason I come to you with this query dear H/A forum is because this is the first girl I've ever kissed, let alone done anything more with and I'm not sure exactly what is supposed to be happening and what I should be doing or shouldn't be doing. Now we've only done it twice (and by it, I mean a long kiss. It's been about 30 seconds each time, which isn't long, but a lot longer than we had been doing, also with tounge), so I'm not sure if I'm just doing it wrong or... what.
I should also mention that I've had quite a lot of anxiety, although I seem to be getting over it the longer I see this girl. Maybe that's inhibiting me?
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it's really not a big deal
you don't need much of anything going on to be able to kiss
Understand that I'm not trying to give you shit when I say, why does this worry you? It's not like you can't get it up for sex - she probably hasn't noticed or doesn't care.
really, there's absolutely nothing to be concerned about here. It's not even a problem.
Try making out for at LEAST 5 minutes before you think you have a problem.
Seriously, you have a lot of anxiety and you're worried about not getting an erection while kissing?
Stop worrying. I know it's hard sometimes, but stop worrying and enjoy the ride. The more you pressure yourself to feel a certain way, the less rewarding it is.
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when you will require a boner, things will occur that will precipitate the boner
things that are way better than making out
If things progress and you find you aren't interested in other activities, you might be barking up the wrong tree. I take it that is what you are really asking us? How to know if you might be gay?
I mean, otherwise, why would you give a shit if you had an erection while making out? Stop worrying so much and have fun.
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TV and movies fucking lie about this. All. The. Time.
(And while we're here, it won't make you go blind, crazy, or get hair on your palms.)
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But not the obligatory :winky: immediately following. Let me fix that:
Boner :winky:
@ the OP, the blood flow will come dude, all in due course.
30 seconds of making out usually doesn't lead to a boner with me. You're really anxious too, that's probably why you aren't getting a boner. If you relax, a boner will come when it's needed.
oh ho ho
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Damn firewalls, now I gotta go home at lunch and watch this.
Blue balls hurt. It only happened to me once, once I learned how to get rid of this affliction.
You don't want that shit.
Get out of your own head and into the moment, just enjoy it. And remember theres rarely a medical reason for failing to get an erection especially if you're young and inexperienced its nearly always a psychological issue.
This is just a psychological barrier you need to overcome, you need to stop thinking of sex as some performance test you have to ace and just think about its as something enjoyable.
I can't remember if this happened to me during my first make out session, but I do know it happened the first time I (almost) had sex. I was fine and dandy up until taking her panties off, then whoops no more erection. "What the Hell?! NOOO!" my mind rages. I get more nervous and a little scared. Nope, not happening, "Im broken!" I think. Then I tell her I have no condoms(Which was true) and we can't do this. Looking back on it, I'm glad it happened that way. This experience also happened with my younger brother and a few of my friends. Was fun to find out after a few beers that I was not alone, and we all laughed at our misfortune.
Moral of the story, it happens to almost everyone at one point or another. Just try and relax and not worry about it. If the a story like mine happens and the girl notices don't freak out. Just try and explain that it happens to a lot of guys and its mostly the nerves and excitement and you can try again later when you have calmed down.
P.S. The upside to guys like us is the reverse of what you see in the movies. Our first time lasts for god damn ever. This makes us look like studs when the time is right. Enjoy it.
Just because random Indy Music from last year doesn't immediately start playing when you're making out in the middle of a crowded train station doesn't mean movies lie!!!
(Oh wait, that shit doens't happen either)
oh hi i extended your hyperbole :P
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I LOLed....
...hard...
...like a boner