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Fancy dress gone wrong...
Dr Sanchez
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A couple of nights ago I had a work outing for a collegues birthday. Just a meeting of about 10 or so people from work where everyone would drink and be merry etc. I've worked with these people for approximately a year now and know them pretty well.
A few days before we met, I was talking with a friend of mine who I also work with; Welshy. Welshy and I decided it would be hilarious if we attended dressed up as a couple of people from work. Danny- a 31 year old skin head and Sheldon- who was turning 25, black and part of a rap group. I would play Danny, shave my head, get a fake nosering and wear his usual black hoodie/superman t-shirt combo. Welshy would play Sheldon, get his hair dredlocked and copy his skinny jeans, baggy t-shirt look.
So, the day before we were meeting up I went and paid an extortionate amount of money to get my head shaved. Close to crunch time Welshy informed me that despite his best efforts he had been unable to get convincing dredlocks and was unable to pull off Sheldon.
Although I needed a haircut anyway, I shaved my head for this and wasn't going to back down now. I got the outfit, it was good, at a glance I could of been a long lost twin/son from the future.
So I show up, everybody finds it hilarious as I was hoping for. Including Danny, who had numerous photos taken with me. He didn't expect it and it was great. For the first 30 minutes at least anyway...
Then he left. Supposedly to meet with a friend at another bar, but he was gone for a long time. Other collegues approach me, mid congratulating the genius behind the whole idea, to tell me that Danny is telling people, 'someone's dressed up as me, everyone is taking the piss'.
Nobody else thinks it was done to mess with him (except for my ex who was there, although I'm certain she is looking for reasons to hate me). And more importantly I wasn't doing it to make fun. We are/were (I'm not sure now) pretty good friends and I expected it to be taken as a compliment if anything. I wore his clothes, it was fancy dress for God's sake. I was expecting two reactions; either no one would get it or everyone would think it was aces. Never would I of thought it would be taken offensively.
So now I'm back in work the day after. My head is colder than usual, but at least people are still treating it as the lighthearted fun it was intended to be. However, Danny hasn't shown up, no holiday and he hasn't called in sick. I got informed this morning that apparantly he went to see a friend and in a melodramatic performance threw his hoodie off whilst in tears, 'I can never wear this thing again!' He's 31, and it's not like I legally changed my name to Danny and stole his girlfriend or something...
If I had any idea this would be the reaction I wouldn't of done it. But what now? I don't want to fall out with the guy, we're supposed to be making a film together in August. Maybe it wouldn't of been misconstrued in this way if Welshy had of shown up with dreds... Part of me thinks I should apologize, but what am I apologizing for? Who reacts in this way??
TL;DR, Shown up for a night out dressed as Danny, a collegue from work. He took it badly and hasn't shown for his shift. What now?
A few days before we met, I was talking with a friend of mine who I also work with; Welshy. Welshy and I decided it would be hilarious if we attended dressed up as a couple of people from work. Danny- a 31 year old skin head and Sheldon- who was turning 25, black and part of a rap group. I would play Danny, shave my head, get a fake nosering and wear his usual black hoodie/superman t-shirt combo. Welshy would play Sheldon, get his hair dredlocked and copy his skinny jeans, baggy t-shirt look.
So, the day before we were meeting up I went and paid an extortionate amount of money to get my head shaved. Close to crunch time Welshy informed me that despite his best efforts he had been unable to get convincing dredlocks and was unable to pull off Sheldon.
Although I needed a haircut anyway, I shaved my head for this and wasn't going to back down now. I got the outfit, it was good, at a glance I could of been a long lost twin/son from the future.
So I show up, everybody finds it hilarious as I was hoping for. Including Danny, who had numerous photos taken with me. He didn't expect it and it was great. For the first 30 minutes at least anyway...
Then he left. Supposedly to meet with a friend at another bar, but he was gone for a long time. Other collegues approach me, mid congratulating the genius behind the whole idea, to tell me that Danny is telling people, 'someone's dressed up as me, everyone is taking the piss'.
Nobody else thinks it was done to mess with him (except for my ex who was there, although I'm certain she is looking for reasons to hate me). And more importantly I wasn't doing it to make fun. We are/were (I'm not sure now) pretty good friends and I expected it to be taken as a compliment if anything. I wore his clothes, it was fancy dress for God's sake. I was expecting two reactions; either no one would get it or everyone would think it was aces. Never would I of thought it would be taken offensively.
So now I'm back in work the day after. My head is colder than usual, but at least people are still treating it as the lighthearted fun it was intended to be. However, Danny hasn't shown up, no holiday and he hasn't called in sick. I got informed this morning that apparantly he went to see a friend and in a melodramatic performance threw his hoodie off whilst in tears, 'I can never wear this thing again!' He's 31, and it's not like I legally changed my name to Danny and stole his girlfriend or something...
If I had any idea this would be the reaction I wouldn't of done it. But what now? I don't want to fall out with the guy, we're supposed to be making a film together in August. Maybe it wouldn't of been misconstrued in this way if Welshy had of shown up with dreds... Part of me thinks I should apologize, but what am I apologizing for? Who reacts in this way??
TL;DR, Shown up for a night out dressed as Danny, a collegue from work. He took it badly and hasn't shown for his shift. What now?
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Or else Danny is seriously over-reacting to all this, so just apologize, tell him you didn't intend anything spiteful by it and see how he takes it. Maybe give him a Dr Sanchez costume?
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Call him, if you can't talk to him in person, and just apologize, explain that you were doing it as a joke, not because you thought he is a joke.
Apologizing would be good for the politics of the work environment, but this dude must have some underlying issues.
Crying?
take him out for a pint and tell him it was intended as light-hearted, good-natured humor but you're sorry that he took it as something negative/mean.
also:
Punks have feelings too you Neanderthal!
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