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Sex problems?
Goesll
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This is an alt, I apologize for the secrecy but it's pretty embarrassing.
So my girlfriend of 2 years and I are finally having sex. Both of us are virgins. We both waited this long to be sure we were ready, and we definitely are.
The problem is: It seems it's too tight for her. She looks very, very uncomfortable with the entire thing. After a while she seems to be okay but when we first start doing it looks almost painful.
What I need to know is how I help alleviate this problem for her. I give her oral beforehand to help lube her up but it still seems to do nothing for her. I want her to enjoy this, not cringe in pain. I call forth on the H/A masters to help me with this.
Bonus Question: Is there anything I can do to make it easier for her to try oral on me? Like some sort of powder or something to make it taste better (apart from showering, of course).
So my girlfriend of 2 years and I are finally having sex. Both of us are virgins. We both waited this long to be sure we were ready, and we definitely are.
The problem is: It seems it's too tight for her. She looks very, very uncomfortable with the entire thing. After a while she seems to be okay but when we first start doing it looks almost painful.
What I need to know is how I help alleviate this problem for her. I give her oral beforehand to help lube her up but it still seems to do nothing for her. I want her to enjoy this, not cringe in pain. I call forth on the H/A masters to help me with this.
Bonus Question: Is there anything I can do to make it easier for her to try oral on me? Like some sort of powder or something to make it taste better (apart from showering, of course).
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For part B, she doesn't need to gag on it. Let her go as far as she's comfortable.
As for the second, there are things like honey dust that you can try but aside from that it really is a matter of preference.
Some girls just don't like to do it.
2) Shave.
I'll certainly try some lube. Is there a good place to buy it?
I've had four partners I've had sex with in my life and my boyfriend and I still have slight tightness problems. He's big, I'm tight and usually for the start of sex we have to do a little stretching. Try just putting it in her part way, thrusting gently a few times, put a little more in, repeat. This teases her and stretches her, getting her ready for the full insertion.
Also, as everyone has said, lube.
Drug stores, grocery stores, stuff is everywhere. Water based of course.
I dunno what to say about the whole taste thing...are we talking about the cum or your dick?
If you are uncircumcised, make sure you wash extra well. Is she trying to give you oral after you've come back from the gym? There really shouldn't be a "taste" if you're clean down there.... not until something comes out that is.
It's the taste of the dick that I think makes her nervous. I know when I first ate her out it wasn't exactly delightful. I was thinking it would probably taste just as bad at first, and to alleviate the taste I was going to try some candied powder or something but I wasn't sure if there was something professional or something that I should be using.
I'll start trimming/shaving and seeing if that helps.
Seriously guys thank you. This is really embarrassing to ask this on a public forum but I've seen you guys solve some wilder problems.
Sometimes a bunch of random candy stuff just makes things sticky and gross. It can be easier in the shower to start off, or just doing a hand job with a small amount of sucking when you're inexperienced and later on it will get easier to take more.
Any kind of sugar that gets into her vagina can, and will probably absolutely, give her a yeast infection. Want to cover your dick in fun dip? Rock on, but no sex after untill you've been washed with soap and water.
I will never look at fun dip the same way again.
Lets face it, it's the white stick that you eat it with that will cause the biggest problem.
Diets with high protein and fats apparently make you semen taste foul.
Eating fuits with high acidity helps alleviate this problem, stuff like grapefruit and pineapple.
In terms of your first problem. Expanding what mystikspyral said, I literally have to take it all the way out the first few times before I can get on to regular boning no matter how wet my girlfriend may be before hand.
Satans..... hints.....
Number two the taste of a woman's vagina should not be musky or gross, if they keep it properly cleaned the bad taste should disappear. If she doesn't she's setting herself up for all sorts of womanly problems.
Number three the tightness of her vag is very common on the first few times of use, if it doesn't improve significantly soon that means either she's not quite developed enough for real sex (no idea how old you two are) or her hymen is still partially in tact (common with thick hymens) or you're just big/she's tight and will have to get used to it. Lube helps tremendously and can be bought at just about any store (gas stations, grocery stores, walmart etc).
Number four there shouldn't be any bad taste with your penis at all. Most of taste is smell so if you make sure your penis is clean and doesn't smell (including the areas around) there should be no actual taste to your penis. If you sweat frequently and are having sex before a shower don't or take a damp cloth and scrub the areas with some soap and water or have sex in the shower. A lot of girls simply don't like it. Your penis btw will taste nothing like a girl's vagina.
Number five, shaving your hair is more than just trendy it makes it significantly easier to keep your junk clean and hers as well and lets air and light (both bacteria destroying) hit the areas. Just be careful.
Number six, if you're using condoms be sure to change your condoms in after each orgasm or you'll rip them.
I just use a beard trimmer. Use a guard until its short then either take the guard off and get it real short or leave it just tidy.
It's also wayyy more comfortable than having a huge love jungle.
Altoids. Have her put one in her mouth to help alleviate the issue. Then- have her chew it up and then continue the oral. After that, have her blow on your penis.
I would get her off first and then have sex and go slowly. Lube, going in a little bit and then taking it out and all of the other tips will help but sometimes time is the only way to actually solve that problem.
blowjobs with condoms just doesn't work.
Frankly I think it's completely normal for a woman to be hessitant about putting a cock in her mouth the first time. I mean, we use them to pee. But eventually the vast majority of sexually active women find a way to get over that, presumably when they realise that your purple helmeted warrior doesn't taste like a urinal cake after all. She'll get used to it.
As natural as the urge may seem, it requires quite some learning and getting used to to make everything pleasant and enjoyable for all involved. So just keep trying, go slow, and everything will work out in the end. Also, if this persist, have her talk to her lady-doctor about it. They probably hear about this stuff all the time and can offer some solid advice.
This. When my girlfriend and I first started having sex I didn't even fit in her at all. That was scary. You just have to give it time and practice. Even a year and a half later we still have to start with her on top and let her go at her own pace before we can do anything. So yeah. Make sure she is plenty lubricated, relaxed, and practice. It stretches out a bit.
And definitely do not go gung-ho on putting it all in at once. That = pain.
Thanks for the help everyone. I mean it.
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