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Broken Heart
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My ex girlfriend and I broke up this past May 28th. This has been the hardest summer of my life and recently, she talked to me on facebook (terribly cliche, eh?). It was a pretty nice conversation actually, we talked for about an hour. She initiated that one, though. Then last night, I started a conversation with her. It was much shorter, full of many more awkward lulls and she seemed much bitchier. I found out that right now she's on her period, and she was frustrated with some guy she was texting, but that's all beside the point. I love her, and I have no idea if she loves me back, or if she ever really loved me at all.
I'm convinced one of the reason she broke up with me was her friend. See, her friend liked me first, and then I picked Brittany over her (brittany being my ex). After that, I can only imagine her friend made every moment of Brittany and I's relationship a living hell for her.
Thus, her friend and I hated each other. I haven't talked (barring a couple other occasions other than those mentioned with Brittany) to either of them since the end of May. I'm trying to set up a 'meeting' with her friend, me, and another girl who's a friend of both parties involved to act as a sort of moderator. I figure, if I can get her friend back on my side, then I might have another shot.
But still...guys, this hurts. Really bad. Food is bland, I haven't had a dream without Brittany in it in 2 months, a week and 2 days. I'm sick to my stomach every time she crosses my mind (which is about 5 times a day, at the VERY least). I used to know where I was going with my life, when I was with her. Now I can't imagine even surviving another day. I used to love making films, and now...colors are matte, everything I see is just poorly done. I need advise guys, really bad.
I'm convinced one of the reason she broke up with me was her friend. See, her friend liked me first, and then I picked Brittany over her (brittany being my ex). After that, I can only imagine her friend made every moment of Brittany and I's relationship a living hell for her.
Thus, her friend and I hated each other. I haven't talked (barring a couple other occasions other than those mentioned with Brittany) to either of them since the end of May. I'm trying to set up a 'meeting' with her friend, me, and another girl who's a friend of both parties involved to act as a sort of moderator. I figure, if I can get her friend back on my side, then I might have another shot.
But still...guys, this hurts. Really bad. Food is bland, I haven't had a dream without Brittany in it in 2 months, a week and 2 days. I'm sick to my stomach every time she crosses my mind (which is about 5 times a day, at the VERY least). I used to know where I was going with my life, when I was with her. Now I can't imagine even surviving another day. I used to love making films, and now...colors are matte, everything I see is just poorly done. I need advise guys, really bad.
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what i'm saying is that, unless you're in your upper 20's (doesn't sound like it) or been with this girl for 2 years or so (doesn't sound like it) with time, the wounds will heal. go have fun with your other friends. fill your time with activities you enjoy. it may seem black now, but eventually, things will start to lighten up. what it will also come down to, is are you making yourself wantonly miserable over this? if so, stop, and talk to real people, whom you can see and touch. that will be much more meaningful that a few colorful avatars spouting their words of wisdom here.
to be honest, i still think of her from time to time, mostly just wonder what she is doing today, if she is still working on her parents dairy planning to take over once they want to retire (don't think you can do that if you have a dairy though).
in the movie Out Cold, then rule of thumb was 2 weeks of pining for ever 6 months you were together.
in the meantime, go out and try to meet new people. maybe even new women. if you are meant to be with this gal then it will work out in its own time. there are some things in our life we can't affect, and we need to realize this and just let them go. otherwise it will consume us whole and there isn't a damn thing to be done about it.
However my advice to you would be to do what i'm doing, get her out of your head, don't talk to her till say october and you've had a chance to clear your head. If you still think about her all the time after this point, then give it a go and get back in contact.
You don't want to make the wrong decision in getting back with her when actually you just had rebound lusts.
Limed for importance.
I'm 18 years old. I know, it's probably just puppy love or whatever.
This isn't my first serious relationship. I've been in about 7 relationships before this. 4 were purely sexual in nature, 2 were serious relationships but I new it wasn't meant to happen by the end of them, and the other one was the only other person I've ever felt this way about. But I had to let her go for reasons I'm not emotionally prepared to get into.
This relationship lasted exactly 4 months, but I knew how I felt about her LONG before that.
Wayyyyy too young to be worried about this. Cut off all contact. Especially after 4 months.
Un-Friend her, completely forget about it.
Also, 7 relationships before 18?
None of those can be considered serious. 14-17 is hardly emotionally mature and consists mostly of hormones and lust. Take some time alone, hang out with friends, go do 18 year old stuff. I think you need some alone time to figure your self out before you go worrying about someone else too.
my only serious relationship before my wife was 8 months. when i was 20 and i didn't really date anyone else till 24 or 25... you see what i'm getting at. you are quite seriously too young to be putting this much into a relationship.
and yea, don't talk/text/email/im/fb/twit/smell her. ever. again. only way to get over is to not see her for 6-12 months.
Oh and the bitch broke up with you remember? fuck that bitch. remember that.
Believe me, OP - once you get a bit older (even another year or two will bring you incredible perspective over what you have today) you'll realize that four months is a drop in the bucket. You will meet more girls in time and you'll be over this one completely. Hell, the real challenge will be to remember this one five years from now.
As for now, take the advice given here; get out of the house, get some exercise, spend time with friends and do not let yourself dwell on this girl. Also, take some time being single for a while and just become comfortable in your own skin. Good luck to you.
Things always get easier. Take it from the person who had the month from hell.
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