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Birthday Gift for a possible girlfriend

TiniTini SlippyPARegistered User regular
edited December 2006 in Help / Advice Forum
So me and my friend are soon to be going out. She likes me. I like her. She has a boyfriend. Yeah... you heard it right. Lately the boyfriends been a real dick to her so shes going to break up with him and were going to start dating most likely.

Her brithday is on thursday the 21st and I kinda think it'd best if i just made her something special. thing is im not sure what to make her.

theres always the mix cd but i was looking to see if you guys had anything original. Thanks in advance.

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  • unilateralunilateral Registered User regular
    edited December 2006
    you could build her a cake.

    but seriously, make if you want to make something for her, a nice dinner you made would be nice if you have any sort of culinary skills.

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  • DaemonionDaemonion Mountain Man USARegistered User regular
    edited December 2006
    If she really wanted to break up with him, she wouldn't be procrastinating and she'd be single already.

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  • unilateralunilateral Registered User regular
    edited December 2006
    Daemonion wrote:
    If she really wanted to break up with him, she wouldn't be procrastinating and she'd be single already.

    Ya, I wanted to say something along those lines, but didn't want to be out of order. Basically, I guess the warning is, don't invest tons of money or time into something, unless you would do that for her without the prospect of an intimate relationship.

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  • TiniTini Slippy PARegistered User regular
    edited December 2006
    Yeah, I realized that. Might I add both of us are 16...

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  • AndorienAndorien Registered User regular
    edited December 2006
    Don't make a move (including doing something romantic for christmas) until she breaks up with him, for two reasons:

    1. You don't want to be "that guy".
    2. You don't want to be with a girl ready to cheat/get started before the previous relationship is completely over.

    Even if the guy is a complete, total, uncompromising douche bag, that just means it should be easier for her to do the deed, end it, and then start fresh with you.

    In addition, waiting for the relationship to end will help cut out some of the inevitable drama (IE Bullshit) that will occur as part of the relationship fallout.

    If she does breakup with him in time, cooking for her seems like an excellent idea. At this stage, I wouldn't go for the heavily serious/romantic angle (something like a candle light dinner might be too much), but that really depends on what type of person she is.

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  • SzechuanosaurusSzechuanosaurus Registered User, ClubPA regular
    edited December 2006
    Get her something thoughtful but not overtly romantic. You're not her boyfriend yet, but it's a good idea to let her know that you're there and available because that will make it easier for her to break up with her current boyfriend, knowing that there is a better alternative available.

    So maybe get her something that you know she needs. Like a pair of gloves if she's been feeling the cold. Whatever, something thoughtful that lets her know that you care and listen. She'll cherish that more than anything.

    And quite frankly, be that guy. I was and I have no regrets.

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  • durandal4532durandal4532 Registered User regular
    edited December 2006
    The first gift I got my GF was for Halloween. She had talked about how much she loved the holiday, and how it annoyed her that Christmas got all the atention just because you got stuff, so I thought she'd dig a gift. Of course, I came up with this idea oooh... 5 hours before I was supposed to see her on Halloween. So I got a sharpie, some computer paper, and made her a card that was also 1/200th of a ghost costume. She loved it, everyone was happy, and the bar for gifts went pretty low. But seriously, if you can express yourself well in writing, a card is a wonderful thing to give, and obviously nice in addition to another gift. Plus, if you lack a ton of disposable income it's a nice way of adding "value" to the exchange that is not strictly monetary.

    Gifts are usually just concrete examples of bothering to listen. I know for Christmas I'm getting my GF 3 or 4 things I remember her really being excited about over the course of the year. Last year was the first time either of us got to see "Firefly", and she loved it, so I got her the DVDs. It's tougher if you haven't had a ton of time to listen to her, but remembering things like this is usually a spot-on way of making your significant other happy.

    Note that this is general gift advice, I've never had to deal with giving a gift to a girl that already had a significant other. Maybe less romantic is good?

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  • TiniTini Slippy PARegistered User regular
    edited December 2006
    well. as of right right now im going to make her a mix cd with some songs on it that say how i feel about her. not toooo romantic but enough i think.

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  • EggyToastEggyToast Jersey CityRegistered User regular
    edited December 2006
    Mix CD is tricky; either she thinks it's overly sappy or it's a kind of music she doesn't like. Which means you gave her a gift she'll listen to once, at most, and will think "damn, we don't like the same music."

    Unless you know her musical tastes already, of course.

    If you're romantically interested and you know what's gonna happen, and you absolutely MUST buy her a gift, just get her some flowers. But I'm in the "don't buy a gift until you're actually dating" crowd.

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  • TiniTini Slippy PARegistered User regular
    edited December 2006
    yea im pretty sure i know some of her taste. im in the same crowd tho. but here is what i have on the cd so far.

    01. Chairman of the Board - Give Me Just A Little More Time.mp3 [2:46]
    02. Morrison - Moondance.mp3 [4:32]
    03. Barenaked Ladies - [Maroon #05] Falling for the First Time [3:40]
    04. Cascada - Cascada-Every_Time_We_Touch.mp3 [3:19]
    05. Daft Punk - [Discovery #03] Digital Love [4:58]
    06. Flaming Lips - [Yoshimi Battles the Pink robot #09] Do You Realize? [3:33]
    07. Jack Johnson - [In Between Dreams #01] Better Together [3:27]
    08. Kermit the Frog - [The Muppet Movie #01] The Rainbow Connection [3:14]
    09. Muse - Bliss.mp3 [4:14]
    10. Sixpence None The Richer - Kiss Me [3:25]
    11. Tal Bachman - She's So High Above Me [3:44]

    i wanted it to be a bit romantic but sitll funny...

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  • ZekZek Registered User regular
    edited December 2006
    I agree that you you really shouldn't do anything "romantic" for her until you're going out, i.e. after she's dumped her boyfriend. Personally I wouldn't get her a gift at all until then, but if you must, then drop the relationship subtext.

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  • Locust76Locust76 Registered User regular
    edited December 2006
    Daemonion wrote:
    If she really wanted to break up with him, she wouldn't be procrastinating and she'd be single already.

    She's just waiting for the right time to rip the poor guy's heart out and feed it to him. Intravenously.

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  • HazzelhoffHazzelhoff Registered User regular
    edited December 2006
    get her a picture frame of her and her boyfriend and photoshop your head over his.

    just kiddin'... don't get her anything, and if you must, make sure it's small / not expensive

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  • Chop LogicChop Logic Registered User regular
    edited December 2006
    Shes going to break up with her boyfreind a few days before christmas?

    Sounds like you picked a winner.

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  • TiniTini Slippy PARegistered User regular
    edited December 2006
    She has reasons other than just me. Also thats not what I was asking advice on, so if you could kindly shut your pie hole that would be great.

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