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Long Distance Relationship
4U2NV
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Hey all,
What are some good activities / ideas to help get over the distance? My girlfriend and I text each other throughout the day, but I am really not that great on the phone. She wants more interaction with me, as I do with her, but I guess I need some ideas.
I was thinking of maybe skype + maybe watch some TV shows online? Is there a program that does that? Any ideas would be helpful.
We will see each other once a month, until Christmas break when we will probably take a trip somewhere together, so it helps to have concrete dates when we will see each other, but any activities that we could do together over the distance are what I am looking for.
Thanks!
What are some good activities / ideas to help get over the distance? My girlfriend and I text each other throughout the day, but I am really not that great on the phone. She wants more interaction with me, as I do with her, but I guess I need some ideas.
I was thinking of maybe skype + maybe watch some TV shows online? Is there a program that does that? Any ideas would be helpful.
We will see each other once a month, until Christmas break when we will probably take a trip somewhere together, so it helps to have concrete dates when we will see each other, but any activities that we could do together over the distance are what I am looking for.
Thanks!
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Here are some things that I did:
Photograph of a guy with a cane I kept randomly bumping into around town, with explanation.
Party favor I found in a box left over from my 11th birthday party, along with a weird story about what happened there.
A CD containing live versions of some of her favorite songs.
A leaf from a Ginko tree near my apartment (we went to an artshow once and came close to buying a painting of a ginko leaf).
An American Chemical Society "Hazardous Materials" sticker that I swiped from my biochemistry lab, with instructions to place it in the most damaging place possible and document it.
Also it was important that we'd talk a lot about the shows we were watching, so watch the same stuff.
I would recommend talking at night before bed for as long as you can. It really helps to have something regular and reliable to look depend on each day.
Until they leave you for a Night Elf Hunter!
Online games work for me (we play a fair amount of backgammon and chess in real life, and handily both these can be played through Skype).
Is there some kind of online sync'd TV watching tool out there? This would be very handy.
I'm going to third or fourth playing games online together. It gives you the opportunity to spend extended periods interacting, while also serving up some prompting for subject matter/conversation. Something like an MMO is perfect, and there are even plenty of free ones out there if you don't want to spend a dime. I'd personally recommend Free Realms. It's cutesy, kid-friendly style might appeal to her, and everything is kept simple and easy which is great for a novice gamer. Plus there's a wide variety of different activities you can participate in, so odds are you'll find something you enjoy doing together.
I'm not sure that watching something 'together' will really do much for you. If what you're watching is any good at all, you're both liable to get engrossed in it, and not much conversation would ensue.
I actually knew a couple that would watch movies together, though one lived in Ohio and the other in North Carolina... I don't know if they had an actual program/service, or if they were just renting the same movie and starting it at the same time.
Might be worth checking out.
Hmm... that could be what they were doing.
Last Call of the Day - sometimes a brief recap for each, sometimes a more lengthy conversation - voice contact other than Ventrilo made it special and specific to the relationship. Besides Ventrilo's not always appropriate for :winky:.
Movie "dates" - if a movie we both wanted to see was coming out, we would occasionally arrange to see it at about the same time, and it would make for good conversation fodder later in the evening.
Pay attention to what's going on in each other's lives, and act accordingly. While we were dating, I had my tonsils removed, and he made a point of calling in the late afternoon on the day of my surgery, even though I was staying with my parents (they were in town for a wedding). It's a little thing, but it was a big deal at the time.
We're still good friends, post-relationship, post-WoW, and well into new relationships for both of us.
Satans..... hints.....
Chanus is totally right (after bickering with him on the health care thread, I feel like I ought to make this very clery). You want to focus on quality of contact, not amount. Being in a long distance relationship is no good. You won't be able to make her totally happy about this, because no amount of distance contact is going to make up for your absence. Is this going to continue on to the forseeable future?
Yes, but we will be seeing each other once a for 3 -5 days. BUt it will continue on for a while, as I graduated and she has at least 3 semesters left.
Thanks for the suggestions. I guess the problem is that neither of us are really good on the phone, and our conversations seem to last no more then 10 minutes. She texted me saying she would love to talk for longer, but I am just bad at talking on the phone, and the reason they are 10 minutes long is because after that I feel pressured to make conversation to avoid phone silence.
I think I will try skype or webcam. I am sending her a package tomorrow.
She doesn't really play video games that much, so I am not sure how that would work. She does like text twist and scrabble, and halo oddly, but she doesnt have any gaming systems.