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Friend's Pregnant Wife Smokes
Valcien
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My friend's pregnant wife smokes, and he isn't doing anything about it. Who do I call? I don't care if either goes to jail.
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but they're listening to every word I say
*edit* Fast Elki is fast.
I would guess the short answer is probably there's no one to call and neither of them are going to jail.
Why can't you believe it? It's a legal product that adults are allowed to consume. Christ, I've seen lung cancer patients on oxygen smoke. Just because it's bad for you doesn't mean people suddenly stopped doing it.
No offense, but if they don't care, you shouldn't either. I mean, if you wanna argue with 'em, feel free, but it's kind of a waste of your time.
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Like I said, diplomatically suggest to the husband he say something.
but they're listening to every word I say
Unless there is a fire and you're a fireman. Then it's kind of necessary. But otherwise!
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"So you saw a woman being raped in an alley?"
"Yes sir"
"And you did nothing?"
"Fuck no! It ain't my job to save everyone!"
Dude, there's a difference between saving everyone and being a dick.
That seems odd. I'm looking at my pack of cigarettes right now and it says-
SURGEON GENERALS WARNING: Smoking By Pregnant Women May Result in Fetal Injury, Premature Birth, And low Birth Weight.
This might be helpful
But good luck finding anything concrete. The honest to god fact is that smoking in moderation isn't all that bad, the problem comes from the fact people smoke so much in one day. On the same note drinking while pregnant in moderation is not all that bad either but it's helpful to tell everyone no drinking because too many people have no concept of moderation.
On the drinking note it's not illegal for a pregnant lady to be drinking either it's simply discouraged by peer pressure.
Put simply of the millions of smokers in this country less than half give up smoking for pregnancy. I'd stop being concerned by it and move on.
Plus maybe she became pregnant somewhat unexpectedly and is working on quitting gradually, which works best. It's not going to help the baby much if she quits completely then 4 months later snaps and starts chain smoking.
If you actually think they're both ignorant of the risks, you should inform them, but they probably are aware.
Legality of it is a touchy issue. Women can have abortions for personal reasons, so in a legal sense the fetus is theirs to do with as they please...to a point, as far as abortions go, however. The difference here obviously is that the baby is going to be born, and then there's no debate over whether or not it's alive.
Okay uh. Constant emails? If this guy is your friend, voice your concern. But being overbearing and annoying about it isn't going to help anyone.
While I agree it's bad for her baby, I'm pretty sure she knows the fucking risks and decides to smoke irregardless of them.
How would you like it if she came over and banged on about something you did that wasn't illegal?
Satans..... hints.....
Really? It looks like people just started offering advice or information you didn't agree with. If you bring it up, they're going to say one of several things:
"My doctor told me occasional limited smoking would be fine."
"I'm actively cutting back and trying to quit."
"OMG I wasn't aware of the risks."
"I'm not pregnant, I'm just fat, you horrible man."
"I don't give a ****, it's my body"
In all but one of those situations you're no help at all
Well technically he could be of help in that situation which he seems to think is the only possible situation. It's irritating that his opinion on something so fact based couldn't be changed though. It's like arguing with someone who eats organics, even if you prove that organic isn't better they'll still find a reason to eat it.
Understand that the less of an ass you come across as, the better chance you have of being successful. I say this because of your opening post which makes it sound like your first plan was to be like "hey stop smoking or I will call the cops on your ass!" It's nice that you care, despite what Magus says. Don't just tell them facts, they probably know, don't just tell them "hey you should maybe quit smoking," they know that'd be ideal. Talk to them like friends. Ask them if they've tried to quit. Ask if she wants help quitting and offer your help!
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