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Horrible timing :( [Also nervous about sex]
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So, if you guys remember, I just asked a girl out on a date from work. We both work at a bookstore. So far we have gone out once, and we aren't going to see each other again until next Tuesday. Things went great on the date, we had the first kiss and everything (to clarify, on the cheek), it was very sweet.
Well, I've been getting hit on like crazy at work. Its my first real customer service job, and I was sort of introverted in high school, so it is definitely very strange for me. I have, however, in the last two days, had three girls give me their numbers without me asking, and I've had different girls visiting me, just out of the blue, for lunch every day if I'm eating by myself.
I like it, obviously, but I feel very guilty about this. I feel...committed to the girl from work, even though we've only been on one date. Is it inappropriate to call these girls and go on a date? It feels wrong.
Well, I've been getting hit on like crazy at work. Its my first real customer service job, and I was sort of introverted in high school, so it is definitely very strange for me. I have, however, in the last two days, had three girls give me their numbers without me asking, and I've had different girls visiting me, just out of the blue, for lunch every day if I'm eating by myself.
I like it, obviously, but I feel very guilty about this. I feel...committed to the girl from work, even though we've only been on one date. Is it inappropriate to call these girls and go on a date? It feels wrong.
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It's not rude or immoral to see multiple people while still single. Of course, I wouldn't go discussing this with her as she doesn't need to know. Who knows, one of these random women may end up having more in common with you than the one girl from work.
You don't need to sleep around, but it certainly won't hurt anyone to take these girls out on a date and enjoy their company, no?
When it does, it's an excellent early-warning sign for crazy.
This is certainly true. However, don't just date them just because.
I can relate to the bad timing thing.. I'm king of bad timing, cept mine usually doesn't have such positive repercussions. I would not advise going out with them just becasue they asked, only do that if you actually want to go out with them.
If you sit down and ask yourself "do I want to go on a date with these women?" you should either be able to boil it down to yes or no. If no, then don't bother and have fun with the girl you asked out already.
If yes, then go for it, do NOT sit there and try and be some sort of ninja and hide it from the other girl(s). I'm not saying go and tell her, but if she asks about it tell her the truth, that yes... you went on a date(s) because things were not serious yet. If things DO get serious, don't be a douche and string the others along.
but they're listening to every word I say
Ok, thanks guys. I'm going to wait a few dates with this girl to see how things are going. We actually just came back from our second date, and it was pretty fantastic (though a bit impromptu). We had even a longer kiss with some tongue.
The thing is, I'm a virgin. And I'm incredibly nervous. Any tips for when I'm in the bedroom? I think I should disclose this to her as we get closer to the actual event, but I want to make it as enjoyable as possible for her. Thanks.
Always read this on here. Married a co-worker as did about 5 guys I work with - none of us are having any problems. Maybe it's because we work for a big airline and our office is quite large so we're not living in each others pockets all day?
Why not? I don't think it will do anyone any harm. If he has options, he should certainly check them all out.
If you make an effort in the bedroom, that will be good enough for the girl.
Hi five.
And this is why you don't date where you work. It creates all sorts of odd situations. Such as this one. And yes I know "If people act like adults everything will be howdy doody.". It's not a perfect world though. Far from it.
If he starts going out on dates with girls who come into his work, this is sure to cause tension with his coworker. Women are fickle.
You've been on two dates. Slow down a little there, cowboy. I don't think you're as close to getting laid as you think. Don't think of it as an "event". That's sure to ruin things. If it happens, it happens. Don't dwell on it. Let things naturally progress.
"Hey, I don't want to make a big deal of this, but... I'm a virgin. I'd like for us to have a good time together, but I may need a little guidance."
If she's at that point where she'll want to go to bed with you, then she'll likely be more than happy to oblige. Don't overthink things, and listen to her advice.
Third date rule dude!
Sex is a natural act, you'll know what to do when the time comes. It's in your jeans (get it? Genes).
I agree, that dating more then one person is not a problem at all, as long as everyone is on the same page. You don't have to say "So I've got this date with another chick tomorrow", but don't lie about it either. These are dates, not lifetime commitments.
BUT, if you're this nervous/giddy about girl#1 you probably don't need the added stress of dating more then one girl at a time.
I suppose it depends on how serious you really feel about this girl at work? Do you feel like you two have a really special connection? If so, I'd avoid the other girls. If she's just another girl you're dating, then you've only been on one date and aren't exclusive, and by all means expand your horizons.
If it does get to that point with her then just try to relax and enjoy it.
9/10 someones first time is pretty terrible.
Anyways I remember how nervous you were with asking her out haha.
Can't wait for the post of "OMG SEX IS GREAT" haha
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Sex will happen at the time that will work out for you both. Hell, it may not even happen for months... though usually there is some heavier-than-kissing stuff going on in the mean time.
As for the other girls; hmm... keep the numbers for a month or so just in case. And, really, if it was that easy to get the numbers (which is to say, zero effort involved), then you can always just get more numbers handed to you by random people.
Murphy's Paradox: The more you plan, the more that can go wrong. The less you plan, the less likely your plan will succeed.
Damn, that's actually pretty good. I might need to save that for when the time comes. Simple and theoretically so effective.
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I guess I am of the mentality of, would you be upset if she was dating 2 other guys?
Check out the other thread about this. Also, if you have any specific questions, feel free to ask.
I have to disagree with the people that say "you'll just know what to do." You probably won't know what to do, other than very vaguely, and it will be bad. It isn't all that hard to figure out though. I recommend the
book "sex for dummies." Seriously. Good advice in there.
I would also say that things are going great with this one chick and as long as they continue to go great, do call these other girls.
but they're listening to every word I say