Well, see, one of them found this book by L. Ron Hubbard, and saw "If you want to get rich, you start a religion.", and a few years later...
Note: I may or may not have made this up entirely.
I try not to hold people's tastes against them. I have enjoyed (and enjoy, and will continue to enjoy) some questionable music, books, movies and other media. My iphone, computer, bookshelves and dvd shelves all contain things I'm proud to say I enjoy, and some guilty pleasures.
But at the same time, devout fellowship with certain groups, ideologies or whatnot can be off-putting.
It's a double edged sword; while on one hand I believe that people should be judged based on who they are and what they do, there is also something to be said for what affiliations they're willing to make, especially publically. Admitting you enjoy some trashy novels is one thing. Gushing at length about your adoration of the Twilight saga is something else.
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First they came for the Muslims, and we said NOT TODAY, MOTHERFUCKER!
Yeah the comment about growing up is a little harsh. I still listen to Korn though I don't seek it out. Lord knows I like some things people would find crappy (ex: going to see Tool beginning of July, which some people have an odd reaction to). I guess I'm not trying to be judgmental of people's tastes so much as, like you illustrated, taking those tastes to an awkward extreme.
Anyways, ICP started building their cult of personality sometimes around when they opened up their own wrestling federation (after both WWF and WCW dumped them for being unprofessional jackasses). So sometime around 2001. It's pretty akin to a cult.
kill the bit about the zombie apocalypse in the "i'm good at" section. it's kinda played out. otherwise it looks a-ok!
I dont know man, I actualy got into a serious relationship by telling a girl who was all about some zombies about how she should date me because I had advanced survival skills vital to surviving Z-Day.
I mean it probably helped that it was specificaly targeted at that one girl and she really, really liked zombies....so...yeah, it might have been a good call to tone it down.
I think the idea is that it's totally overplayed, especially with the geek/nerd male population on dating sites. It's come up a few times in this thread (or previous ones). Not necessarily a bad thing, but probably better off cutting it (avoid its clichéd nature).
Good call. I left Zombie Survival Guide in favorite books so if there's that mythical nerd girl out there looking for someone to help kill dead-heads with her post Z-day she'll know what's up. Dropped it from the things I'm good at though.
Anyway, juggalos are more the hardcore fans of the group, and tend to take the fandom to extremes unusual to most other band fanbases - considering themselves to be a "family." In some areas, they've effectively become gangs, perform violent acts. Schools ban kids from wearing the stuff, their mark is people painting their faces like the singers, etc. It's, at the very least, some borderline skeezy stuff. Someone having a tattoo associated with the band would imply that they've at least dabbled/been exposed to those aspects of the band fandom, which is, at the very least, something to consider when considering the sort of person you want to date.
So, basically... it's like some Trekkers filing their teeth into points and going around robbing people while shouting in Klingon?
to those with experience meeting people they're matched with on OKCupid:
how accurate is okc's match %? I am only >90% with a few girls in my area, and reading one's profile there was a lot of stuff that sounded like I could've written about myself. The others, not so much.
My highest matches are all 3-7 years older than me as well
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My highest matches are all 3-7 years older than me as well
I dont see whats the big deal with that???
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about being on a dating site. It's hard to meet people in an area you don't really know. The internet is one of the easier ways to do so.
Which leads me to introducing myself. My name is Mike and I like rap music to but I have to ask, how the hell did you get into liking both country and rap? There couldn't be a bigger oil/water mix in all of music than those two genres.
Thanks,
Mike
PS: Tall girls with red hair are fantastic.
I got this response.
Haha I don't know, I just like upbeat music I guess. Like I said, I'm pretty much all over the place. I tend to dislike "down home" country music and I tend to dislike hardcore rap.
PS Thank you
So I replied with
What's the difference between down home country music and uh, the rest of country music?
And got nothing. Her profile doesn't even exist anymore (granted, this was in March). Did I go wrong somewhere? Or was I fine? I don't even know anymore.
to those with experience meeting people they're matched with on OKCupid:
how accurate is okc's match %? I am only >90% with a few girls in my area, and reading one's profile there was a lot of stuff that sounded like I could've written about myself. The others, not so much.
My highest matches are all 3-7 years older than me as well
It's as accurate as you are honest in the questions. From what I've seen, if a potential match fails a mandatory question, it gives them +~8% enemy. Very important is ~6%, and then on down.
My 90%+ dates were all pretty smooth.
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about being on a dating site. It's hard to meet people in an area you don't really know. The internet is one of the easier ways to do so.
Which leads me to introducing myself. My name is Mike and I like rap music to but I have to ask, how the hell did you get into liking both country and rap? There couldn't be a bigger oil/water mix in all of music than those two genres.
Thanks,
Mike
PS: Tall girls with red hair are fantastic.
I got this response.
Haha I don't know, I just like upbeat music I guess. Like I said, I'm pretty much all over the place. I tend to dislike "down home" country music and I tend to dislike hardcore rap.
PS Thank you
So I replied with
What's the difference between down home country music and uh, the rest of country music?
And got nothing. Her profile doesn't even exist anymore (granted, this was in March). Did I go wrong somewhere? Or was I fine? I don't even know anymore.
what did you do wrong? it feels to me like you're making fun of her/attacking her without knowing her......both those questions seem pretty much like you're calling her stupid and i'm pretty shocked she even replied in the first place
My highest matches are all 3-7 years older than me as well
I dont see whats the big deal with that???
somehow I doubt 29 year old women would overlook the age difference with a 23 y/o man very easily. Women mature faster than men to begin with, and tend to prefer men a few years older.
My highest matches are all 3-7 years older than me as well
I dont see whats the big deal with that???
somehow I doubt 29 year old women would overlook the age difference with a 23 y/o man very easily. Women mature faster than men to begin with, and tend to prefer men a few years older.
And then they realize they're going to be around older men pretty much their entire life and decide to try to get a young one for at least a while before it's too late forever.
I took a deep breath and posted my profile, determined to focus on New York–based single men claiming to be worth at least $10 million...
Then I saw his net worth—$100 million—and the amount he was willing to spend on a girlfriend: $10,000 to $20,000 per month. That would be enough to cover my living expenses and leave me with thousands in disposable income. The rest of Hank’s profile, which told me that he was middle-aged, played sports, and worked in finance, was of less interest.
By the time Darrell, a divorced man in his late 40s worth between $50 million and $100 million, contacted me, I was relieved to hear from a potentially worthy candidate.
All I need to know.
The article is interesting I guess, but I don't think it's shocking or anything. She doesn't even go through with it.
At least everyone on that website is being honest with their intentions. From my times on the forums of OKCupid and *shudder* PoF, a lot of dudes think that women are completely mercenary as a rule rather than an exception.
My highest matches are all 3-7 years older than me as well
I dont see whats the big deal with that???
Most of my matches are 24-25 year old Women :winky: in other states Who I have to ask them odd things about thier profiles in order to get a reply sigh
I know some of you looked at my profile but still I really don't know how I should fill it out
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NocrenLt Futz, Back in ActionNorth CarolinaRegistered Userregular
edited May 2010
The guys that have checked out my profile here have a higher percentage than ANY of the females I'm tried to contact.
My highest matches are all 3-7 years older than me as well
I dont see whats the big deal with that???
somehow I doubt 29 year old women would overlook the age difference with a 23 y/o man very easily. Women mature faster than men to begin with, and tend to prefer men a few years older.
And then they realize they're going to be around older men pretty much their entire life and decide to try to get a young one for at least a while before it's too late forever.
oh yeah, definitely a lot of cougars on OKC. I guess I just had this one girl in mind, 90 something percent match, but the main thing was that I identified with pretty much everything she said about herself personality wise. But she looks like she's looking for something serious, and I find it hard to picture her going for someone 7 years younger and still in school.
Anyway, juggalos are more the hardcore fans of the group, and tend to take the fandom to extremes unusual to most other band fanbases - considering themselves to be a "family." In some areas, they've effectively become gangs, perform violent acts. Schools ban kids from wearing the stuff, their mark is people painting their faces like the singers, etc. It's, at the very least, some borderline skeezy stuff. Someone having a tattoo associated with the band would imply that they've at least dabbled/been exposed to those aspects of the band fandom, which is, at the very least, something to consider when considering the sort of person you want to date.
So, basically... it's like some Trekkers filing their teeth into points and going around robbing people while shouting in Klingon?
Those high schoolers were impressionable and grew up.
I really don't know why this happened with this specific band.
I had an an Iron Maiden patch on my jacket and swore I'd be a headbanger for life.
Then my balls dropped and I decided I wanted to go play with titties.
Did your balls drop before, or after you joined the Marines?
Because I'm toltaly picturing you as some metal addict getting off the bus for Basic, all thinking you're bad ass as shit.
It's an amusing picture in my head, even though I'm sure it has no basis in reality.
@Justinsane
You ever think about taking a picture with a normal smile?
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So I mentioned a few pages back that I had a date or two this week? Yeah, that kinda fizzled out. I told her I was working wednesday (I was) but that thursday and friday were free, with a couple of hours of work on the weekend (Sat/Sun). So tuesday, I go up to see her (she works at a local grocery store) and pick up some mushrooms and bread to make a nice Italian dinner on thursday. I say "hi" while I was there.
Then my temp agency calls as I'm leaving the store and says they have work for me. Great! It's wednesday, thursday and possibly friday from 4pm-2am. I text the girl and tell her this. Her response, and I paraphrase, "That's a good excuse when you don't want to meet someone."
This was in a non-joking manner because when I tried to explain it to her via text (and even offered a make-up/different date on the weekend), I never got a response back.
So if she's going to act that way, maybe it's for the best...
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I would dump the "So, basically" at the beginning of your profile. Basically is a word that can almost always be avoided, and the so sounds like it's a rejoinder to something. In general, there seem to be too many qualifying adverbs. For example:
"I really do prefer personality to looks, but I'm very vulnerable to a pretty smile." The really sounds like you're trying to convince somebody because you're saying it in an unconvincing tone of voice - it's a verbal problem that is overcome simply by removing the really.
"I prefer personality to looks, but I'm still vulnerable to a pretty smile" to me sounds a lot better.
"I'm mainly looking for someone to talk to." sounds a bit like you're lonely to me, I don't know if that's the intention. Maybe go for something more like "My main interest is in finding a fun and interesting conversation partner", or something of that ilk.
oh yeah, definitely a lot of cougars on OKC. I guess I just had this one girl in mind, 90 something percent match, but the main thing was that I identified with pretty much everything she said about herself personality wise. But she looks like she's looking for something serious, and I find it hard to picture her going for someone 7 years younger and still in school.
A lot of women I know find it flattering when they're asked out by younger men - it makes them feel like they look younger than they are or appear to be young at heart. It's no disadvantage to be going for an older lady! Plus, you get to stand out from her normal applicants by dint of having broken the age boundary.
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Well ugly friends, is this true?
Well OKC does quiver some pretty ugly people to me, so I guess it might be.
I like how my quiver somehow had a straight guy in it this week, despite his and mine lack of interest in dudes. Good job, OKC.
I like how my quiver matches are in the northern USA. I mean, granted, the border is just an hour away, but I'm not going to go to another country for a freaking first date.
Richy, it's still within that 800-mile radius that OKC uses for quiver matches despite your filter being set to 25 miles. Yeah, I want to date somebody in Texas...I just don't live anywhere near there.
I continue to loathe the "maybe you should check out..." list at the top left. Even when it's right, it's wrong.
I clicked one of the people on the list yesterday, and woah, she had a good picture up, a well written profile and our interests seemed to mesh perfectly.
She last logged on in January.
That might make it a wee bit difficult to get in touch.
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First they came for the Muslims, and we said NOT TODAY, MOTHERFUCKER!
how the hell did you get into liking both country and rap? There couldn't be a bigger oil/water mix in all of music than those two genres.
Not that unusual. At least half the girls in my high school listened to rap and country. They didn't listen to older country like Johnny Cash, but ate up that "Save a Horse, Ride a Cowboy" crap.
how the hell did you get into liking both country and rap? There couldn't be a bigger oil/water mix in all of music than those two genres.
Not that unusual. At least half the girls in my high school listened to rap and country. They didn't listen to older country like Johnny Cash, but ate up that "Save a Horse, Ride a Cowboy" crap.
yeah it's really not unusual....i actually myself am pretty into hiphop and country (albeit less mainstream, alt country really)....
but i think the real problem is that it doesn't come across as "i find this interesting, tell me more" as it comes across as "what kind of an idiot are you?"...it could be worded in a much better way....
how the hell did you get into liking both country and rap? There couldn't be a bigger oil/water mix in all of music than those two genres.
Not that unusual. At least half the girls in my high school listened to rap and country. They didn't listen to older country like Johnny Cash, but ate up that "Save a Horse, Ride a Cowboy" crap.
yeah it's really not unusual....i actually myself am pretty into hiphop and country (albeit less mainstream, alt country really)....
but i think the real problem is that it doesn't come across as "i find this interesting, tell me more" as it comes across as "what kind of an idiot are you?"...it could be worded in a much better way....
If I remember correctly, as her profile is now deleted, it was like "I like country and rap! How strange is that?! lol!" was in her music section. So it's not really out there for a question. Probably should have put that context in.
I like how my quiver somehow had a straight guy in it this week, despite his and mine lack of interest in dudes. Good job, OKC.
Do you have activity partners/friendship checked as what you're interested in? I do, and I always have female quiver matches, which is OK because I'm looking to meet more friends, male or female. I don't actualy even have relationship options checked.
Also it may base it a bit off your searches. Occasionally I'll search for girls, and when I do that, I notice my next Quiver email will be half or even mostly girls.
AND JUSTINSANE I WILL GET TO YOUR MOTHER GOOSING PROFILE WHEN I GET TO IT
GOT IT?
edit: Also I would say the problem with asking a question like "hmm it's weird that you like country AND rap" is that she's already commented that it's weird; where else can you go from there? What kind of conversation can come out of that? her: "Yeah uh it IS weird, like I said..." You: "Ahh.... yup. Mmhmm." her: "*no response*". I know it may not seem fair, because in a conversation the onus should really be on both parties to keep it going, but let's face it - she doesn't have to message you back, and if you make her work for the conversation when YOU messaged HER, she's just not going to respond.
The trick is to ask very open-ended but interesting/funny/amusing questions. If I weren't at work I would post some of the better messages I've gotten.... I will try to do that sometime.
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Note: I may or may not have made this up entirely.
I try not to hold people's tastes against them. I have enjoyed (and enjoy, and will continue to enjoy) some questionable music, books, movies and other media. My iphone, computer, bookshelves and dvd shelves all contain things I'm proud to say I enjoy, and some guilty pleasures.
But at the same time, devout fellowship with certain groups, ideologies or whatnot can be off-putting.
It's a double edged sword; while on one hand I believe that people should be judged based on who they are and what they do, there is also something to be said for what affiliations they're willing to make, especially publically. Admitting you enjoy some trashy novels is one thing. Gushing at length about your adoration of the Twilight saga is something else.
I never finish anyth
Anyways, ICP started building their cult of personality sometimes around when they opened up their own wrestling federation (after both WWF and WCW dumped them for being unprofessional jackasses). So sometime around 2001. It's pretty akin to a cult.
Ok.
http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=18809377
Haven't bothered to update it in awhile however.
kill the bit about the zombie apocalypse in the "i'm good at" section. it's kinda played out. otherwise it looks a-ok!
I dont know man, I actualy got into a serious relationship by telling a girl who was all about some zombies about how she should date me because I had advanced survival skills vital to surviving Z-Day.
I mean it probably helped that it was specificaly targeted at that one girl and she really, really liked zombies....so...yeah, it might have been a good call to tone it down.
I had an an Iron Maiden patch on my jacket and swore I'd be a headbanger for life.
Then my balls dropped and I decided I wanted to go play with titties.
www.okcupid.com/profile/darklingtears
how accurate is okc's match %? I am only >90% with a few girls in my area, and reading one's profile there was a lot of stuff that sounded like I could've written about myself. The others, not so much.
My highest matches are all 3-7 years older than me as well
I dont see whats the big deal with that???
And before you're all calling me a perv, it was this vanity fair article: http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/features/2010/05/seeking-arrangement-201005
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/justinsane07
I don't know what exactly is wrong with it. Does it not have enough pizazz? Some zing? Maybe some zang? I don't really know what's missing.
And some examples of messages I've sent. This one is an IceBreaker that popped up with "She likes Pulp Fiction!"
This is witty and clever right? I mean it's not creepy or anything? Would you respond to this?
This is a more traditional message I sent a female.
I got this response.
So I replied with
And got nothing. Her profile doesn't even exist anymore (granted, this was in March). Did I go wrong somewhere? Or was I fine? I don't even know anymore.
It's as accurate as you are honest in the questions. From what I've seen, if a potential match fails a mandatory question, it gives them +~8% enemy. Very important is ~6%, and then on down.
My 90%+ dates were all pretty smooth.
somehow I doubt 29 year old women would overlook the age difference with a 23 y/o man very easily. Women mature faster than men to begin with, and tend to prefer men a few years older.
And then they realize they're going to be around older men pretty much their entire life and decide to try to get a young one for at least a while before it's too late forever.
lol
All I need to know.
The article is interesting I guess, but I don't think it's shocking or anything. She doesn't even go through with it.
At least everyone on that website is being honest with their intentions. From my times on the forums of OKCupid and *shudder* PoF, a lot of dudes think that women are completely mercenary as a rule rather than an exception.
Most of my matches are 24-25 year old Women :winky: in other states
I know some of you looked at my profile but still I really don't know how I should fill it out
I say numbers are just numbers. Take a chance.
oh yeah, definitely a lot of cougars on OKC. I guess I just had this one girl in mind, 90 something percent match, but the main thing was that I identified with pretty much everything she said about herself personality wise. But she looks like she's looking for something serious, and I find it hard to picture her going for someone 7 years younger and still in school.
Did your balls drop before, or after you joined the Marines?
Because I'm toltaly picturing you as some metal addict getting off the bus for Basic, all thinking you're bad ass as shit.
It's an amusing picture in my head, even though I'm sure it has no basis in reality.
@Justinsane
You ever think about taking a picture with a normal smile?
Then my temp agency calls as I'm leaving the store and says they have work for me. Great! It's wednesday, thursday and possibly friday from 4pm-2am. I text the girl and tell her this. Her response, and I paraphrase, "That's a good excuse when you don't want to meet someone."
This was in a non-joking manner because when I tried to explain it to her via text (and even offered a make-up/different date on the weekend), I never got a response back.
So if she's going to act that way, maybe it's for the best...
I would dump the "So, basically" at the beginning of your profile. Basically is a word that can almost always be avoided, and the so sounds like it's a rejoinder to something. In general, there seem to be too many qualifying adverbs. For example:
"I really do prefer personality to looks, but I'm very vulnerable to a pretty smile." The really sounds like you're trying to convince somebody because you're saying it in an unconvincing tone of voice - it's a verbal problem that is overcome simply by removing the really.
"I prefer personality to looks, but I'm still vulnerable to a pretty smile" to me sounds a lot better.
"I'm mainly looking for someone to talk to." sounds a bit like you're lonely to me, I don't know if that's the intention. Maybe go for something more like "My main interest is in finding a fun and interesting conversation partner", or something of that ilk.
A lot of women I know find it flattering when they're asked out by younger men - it makes them feel like they look younger than they are or appear to be young at heart. It's no disadvantage to be going for an older lady! Plus, you get to stand out from her normal applicants by dint of having broken the age boundary.
Subject: BitOfADork, we have data on your attractiveness
Well ugly friends, is this true?
Well OKC does quiver some pretty ugly people to me, so I guess it might be.
It's telling you that he's not your soul-mate
he's your soul-bro
You must hang out with this dude.
I clicked one of the people on the list yesterday, and woah, she had a good picture up, a well written profile and our interests seemed to mesh perfectly.
She last logged on in January.
That might make it a wee bit difficult to get in touch.
Not that unusual. At least half the girls in my high school listened to rap and country. They didn't listen to older country like Johnny Cash, but ate up that "Save a Horse, Ride a Cowboy" crap.
but i think the real problem is that it doesn't come across as "i find this interesting, tell me more" as it comes across as "what kind of an idiot are you?"...it could be worded in a much better way....
If I remember correctly, as her profile is now deleted, it was like "I like country and rap! How strange is that?! lol!" was in her music section. So it's not really out there for a question. Probably should have put that context in.
Also it may base it a bit off your searches. Occasionally I'll search for girls, and when I do that, I notice my next Quiver email will be half or even mostly girls.
AND JUSTINSANE I WILL GET TO YOUR MOTHER GOOSING PROFILE WHEN I GET TO IT
GOT IT?
edit: Also I would say the problem with asking a question like "hmm it's weird that you like country AND rap" is that she's already commented that it's weird; where else can you go from there? What kind of conversation can come out of that? her: "Yeah uh it IS weird, like I said..." You: "Ahh.... yup. Mmhmm." her: "*no response*". I know it may not seem fair, because in a conversation the onus should really be on both parties to keep it going, but let's face it - she doesn't have to message you back, and if you make her work for the conversation when YOU messaged HER, she's just not going to respond.
The trick is to ask very open-ended but interesting/funny/amusing questions. If I weren't at work I would post some of the better messages I've gotten.... I will try to do that sometime.