How does one get used to being alone after a divorce?
So, as I posted here a while back, I got divorced earlier this year and so far its gone pretty well. The one thing that I am struggling with is being without another adult around to talk to and share with. So many of you shared with me when I was going through the divorce about your own experience and I am hoping to get some more perspective. You guys are all awesome and I really appreciated your kindness and help.
So, here is my situation...
I'm 45 and I got divorced in February, it was a complete surprise... as Clark Griswold put it... "If I woke up tomorrow with my head sewn to the carpet I could not be more surprised... " Since then I have the kids most of the time, 5 days a week, which is awesome, they are 6 & 8 and we do fun stuff every other weekend. I have been seeing a therapist and that has been very helpful. I found a girlfriend that is awesome, but she has a busy life in a neighboring town and I can only see her every other weekend or so for a day (when I don't have the kids), though we talk on the phone and text every day. I am not ready to mix the kids and the girlfriend for a verity of reasons that are not important here, but that option is out for the foreseeable future. I have a full time job and a part time job that eats up most of my remaining time. I am trying to make more friends outside of the old marriage friends, but with covid and having the kids and work, its proven to be very difficult to do anything consistently enough to form come to the zoo with me friendships.
So, what I am struggling with is not having another adult around. I don't need help with the kids, I am looking for another adult to be around. I don't know if this is a hangover from being married for 13 years? We went to the zoo yesterday and it was awesome, but I missed having someone else there to laugh with and talk to on the car ride and stuff. Its just really been driving me crazy recently. It feels like I am more lonely, not less.
Is this something that will get easier and more normal as time goes by? i admit i have only been divorced for like 5 months.