So, I am a 25 year old male with a 24 year old fiance. We have friends in the 23-26 range. Last month we bought a town house in a nice neighborhood. For the month, my neighbors and I have had little or no communication. One set have waved to me, and I have waved back, smiled, etc. The other set just stared at us awkwardly while moving in and otherwise ignore us...
A few weekends I have friends over. Probably every other weekend. I am concious of noise. They go outside and smoke and I remind them to keep it down. Inside we dont blast music or do anything crazy. We may laugh loudly or get excited, but honestly, we do a fine job being courteous.
Last night I had one buddy over to watch the black hawks. My fiance managed to mess up my cable during the second period, so while waiting for her to reset it we went outisde and played a few rounds of bags. This was like 8ish.
After the hawks game, we went back outside to play another game or two. This is 10:30. I realize bags is sort of loud, and the noise isnt something that is consistant to get used to. However I also know its only 10:30 and its a friday. I figure midnight is too late, but before that, its a weekend.
10:40 rolls around and my neighbor who I never speak to or interact with comes out into his yard and says "dont you think its a little late for that?"
First off...he is polish or russian and like 40, I am 25 and neither of those things, so communication is a bit...awkward. He came down and talked to me like a child...I was unhappy. I however appologized and went inside.
Then I started getting upset. I dont want to have to be that cautious about my neighbors at 10:30 on a friday.
Every weekend, theres a house that has a fire out back and is up, outside, drinking until 4-ish. I dont mind, but im just setting the stage that its not like its all old fuddy dutties in the association.
So my question is, how do I handle the situation from here? Personally I feel as long as we are trying to keep it down, we can do what we want before midnight on friday or saturday. After midnight, we need to cut stuff out like bags and hanging outside and keep it inside.
That is my plan. Does that seem fair?
If no...ok, what is fair?
If so. How do I deal with this annoying grouchy pants neighbor? Do I simply prentend last night didnt happen? Do I wait for him to come out again and then explain that 10:30 doesnt seem too late for me and explain I will be done in a bit? Do I buy him earplugs, stick them in his mailbox with a note that reads "10:30 isnt too late, use these."?
Basically I want to be able to do what I want until midnight but I also want to keep things civil with this guy. What are my options?