Politics, and a bit of philosophy/religion since I left Christianity about two years ago. Been watching science-related videos lately.
Politics and religion, as I have read, is something that can easily scare people off, and I'm not all really learned in any particular science (but I'm considering some classes this fall).
If politics and religion/philosophy are your primary interests then don't hide them.
You're right, some people find it 'intense', but as long as you present your ideas and thoughts in a coherent fashion it should come across as a reasonable set of interests. The people you may be scaring off don't have the same interest level as you and you're looking for someone to match up with you in some way, right?
In one version of my profile I mentioned how I hate getting chain letters and do "reply all' with links to appropriate Snopes articles when I get them. It was a big hit, I got a lot of replies saying "I do the same thing!" Of course, they were all from guys so I have no idea if it works to attract the ladies. But perhaps mention some little thing like that, that shows personality.
So...I was out of this thread for like, the last two months. Just wanted to drop in for an update! I'm in a pretty awesome LTR with the second girl I met up with off OKC. It's working out great, and while neither of us are in a position to really move it much further from where we are now (both in school/working) there's much promise. She's outside my normal type (her being a 4'11 brunette and 3 years older than me) but the fact that even that stuff is growing on me (tremendously I might add) is a great sign. So yeah, encouragement! It can work! She's beautiful, incredibly smart and it seems the more time we spend together the more compatible we are.
Oh, and also a thank you for the profile reviews and general advice given here. Specifically because in my case I had to ignore what was a pretty major issue of mine (my driver's license getting revoked right around the time things started) in order to pursue this relationship. Honestly the advice in this thread of "Don't tell a woman why she shouldn't sleep with you" probably got me over the hump that would've otherwise resulted in me abandoning this girl and forgetting the whole dating thing until I had a car again. So yeah, that would've been a huge mistake. Definitely great advice and I'd say I'm a testament to that.
In one version of my profile I mentioned how I hate getting chain letters and do "reply all' with links to appropriate Snopes articles when I get them. It was a big hit, I got a lot of replies saying "I do the same thing!" Of course, they were all from guys so I have no idea if it works to attract the ladies. But perhaps mention some little thing like that, that shows personality.
I guarantee you half those guys do not "do the same thing".
OnTheLastFuckingCastle: I'm not looking for snippets I want big beefy blocks of text to digest.
QuickMatch is annoying. "Someone chose you!" Oh really. I'm curious, of course. But it's all under duress. I mean, if I go to find out who did, it means I have to arbitrarily rate people I otherwise wouldn't have. WELL PLAYED, OKC.
So...I was out of this thread for like, the last two months. Just wanted to drop in for an update! I'm in a pretty awesome LTR with the second girl I met up with off OKC. It's working out great, and while neither of us are in a position to really move it much further from where we are now (both in school/working) there's much promise. She's outside my normal type (her being a 4'11 brunette and 3 years older than me) but the fact that even that stuff is growing on me (tremendously I might add) is a great sign. So yeah, encouragement! It can work! She's beautiful, incredibly smart and it seems the more time we spend together the more compatible we are.
Oh, and also a thank you for the profile reviews and general advice given here. Specifically because in my case I had to ignore what was a pretty major issue of mine (my driver's license getting revoked right around the time things started) in order to pursue this relationship. Honestly the advice in this thread of "Don't tell a woman why she shouldn't sleep with you" probably got me over the hump that would've otherwise resulted in me abandoning this girl and forgetting the whole dating thing until I had a car again. So yeah, that would've been a huge mistake. Definitely great advice and I'd say I'm a testament to that.
congratulations! I remember reading your initial posts, glad to hear everything worked out
My brother doesn't want to try online dating but I think he's just clouded by the ridiculous notion that it's lame, which is easily dispelled by browsing the profiles of interesting hotties in your area (or at least my area).
*snip*
I'm actually in Seattle proper now and just haven't updated my forum location, but a lot of people I'd normally consider outside of my league have responded to my messages. I'm still pretty new to OKC and perhaps haven't sent as many messages as I should have so I've only met one in person, but there's a promise of another in June and a few others actually talking to me. I'm not saying I'm rolling in pussy over here, but I'm getting a much better response than my "real life" had ever indicated I would, and I've barely started messaging the girls I've bookmarked as quite attractive much less started to settle.
QuickMatch is annoying. "Someone chose you!" Oh really. I'm curious, of course. But it's all under duress. I mean, if I go to find out who did, it means I have to arbitrarily rate people I otherwise wouldn't have. WELL PLAYED, OKC.
Not that I'm going to, but...
If you're really curious, change your what you're looking for age range to 99-99 and do the Quickmatch. Guys who rated you highly will be the ones who aren't 99.
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Well, it was more or less just touching base with the girl, but we had a nice walk. She was more attractive than I thought she'd be, but I played it cool like it wasn't a big deal.
She told me we had a great time, but she told me she just got out of something and she doesn't want to lead me on. She keeps emphasising that she wants to hang out, but I think what kind of what foiled it was that I had the misfortune of having the same name as her last boyfriend, so everytime she says the name it irks her :?
You guys just don't get LearnedHand, he's a satirist that never breaks character, like Stephen Colbert etc.
Also how could you guys date such a tiny chick if you are of any reasonable height? Wouldn't you get self conscious that people might think your dating a kid or something? 4'11 is really short, but i guess your dick would look bigger in her tiny hands. I don't know
I am 6 foot 9 it's a big deal when they say it's sooo cool I can wear heels and still feel short next to you!
Ah, see, your height now has purpose. It makes good fashion sense.
Not when you are on a second date she excuses herself goes back into her apt and gets some stripper platform heels just to to wear next to you while saying it's awesome I can wear these and still cannot look you in the eye
I have an OKC account too, but it's worthless to me. There are basically about 4-5 people in my entire area, everyone else being across the border (I'm in a border city, so I can't blame OKC for drawing from that area). For some reason people in my actual city seem to use PoF much more.
I've actually been trying this for...I guess about 3 years or so, with extremely poor results. Granted, a lot of that MIGHT be blamed on me hardly ever messaging anyone and relying on women messaging me, but I've resolved to change that, and I'd like to be putting my best foot forward here.
First line comes off pretty bad. "it's not much but it's me," ie I don't think much of myself.
Don't talk about how hard it is to write your profile in your profile. Everyone hates describing themselves in text.
Get a nice picture of yourself outside on one of those scenic paths you talk about and use that as your profile pic. (I can only see the main pic on my phone, maybe there are more I am not seeing)
In general it comes off a bit short on confidence and on details. I mean, I know you program....something, like video games, movies, a hockey team, and not going to bars and getting drunk til 4am (but you assume the average 30 year old does?). Not much to go on there. Maybe go into some detail about a summer blockbuster you found particularly blockbustery, or something interesting you saw on one of those scenic walks you went on, or SOMETHING, anything with done depth that a girl could see and go hmm, I'd like to know more.
First line comes off pretty bad. "it's not much but it's me," ie I don't think much of myself.
Don't talk about how hard it is to write your profile in your profile. Everyone hates describing themselves in text.
Get a nice picture of yourself outside on one of those scenic paths you talk about and use that as your profile pic. (I can only see the main pic on my phone, maybe there are more I am not seeing)
In general it comes off a bit short on confidence and on details. I mean, I know you program....something, like video games, movies, a hockey team, and not going to bars and getting drunk til 4am (but you assume the average 30 year old does?). Not much to go on there. Maybe go into some detail about a summer blockbuster you found particularly blockbustery, or something interesting you saw on one of those scenic walks you went on, or SOMETHING, anything with done depth that a girl could see and go hmm, I'd like to know more.
Excellent, thank you kindly. I'll make some changes and perhaps consult here again.
Focused on culling some of the self-deprecation, and adding some more details to some aspects (my job, preferences, personality, and family). I'll get a better picture soon, or at least one with a more interesting backdrop.
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Politics and religion, as I have read, is something that can easily scare people off, and I'm not all really learned in any particular science (but I'm considering some classes this fall).
You're right, some people find it 'intense', but as long as you present your ideas and thoughts in a coherent fashion it should come across as a reasonable set of interests. The people you may be scaring off don't have the same interest level as you and you're looking for someone to match up with you in some way, right?
Oh, and also a thank you for the profile reviews and general advice given here. Specifically because in my case I had to ignore what was a pretty major issue of mine (my driver's license getting revoked right around the time things started) in order to pursue this relationship. Honestly the advice in this thread of "Don't tell a woman why she shouldn't sleep with you" probably got me over the hump that would've otherwise resulted in me abandoning this girl and forgetting the whole dating thing until I had a car again. So yeah, that would've been a huge mistake. Definitely great advice and I'd say I'm a testament to that.
I think my sig says it all. Reread it daily.
I guarantee you half those guys do not "do the same thing".
OnTheLastFuckingCastle: I'm not looking for snippets I want big beefy blocks of text to digest.
Not that I'm going to, but...
Here's some posts in an older internet dating thread.
It's kind of funny to look back and see who was active in the thread back then compared to now, as well as reread my own posts.
congratulations! I remember reading your initial posts, glad to hear everything worked out
His reaction: "How did a guy like you get a girl like that to even respond to a message?"
Me: "I sent it."
Confidence++
I'm actually in Seattle proper now and just haven't updated my forum location, but a lot of people I'd normally consider outside of my league have responded to my messages. I'm still pretty new to OKC and perhaps haven't sent as many messages as I should have so I've only met one in person, but there's a promise of another in June and a few others actually talking to me. I'm not saying I'm rolling in pussy over here, but I'm getting a much better response than my "real life" had ever indicated I would, and I've barely started messaging the girls I've bookmarked as quite attractive much less started to settle.
If you're really curious, change your what you're looking for age range to 99-99 and do the Quickmatch. Guys who rated you highly will be the ones who aren't 99.
Tiny ladies are awesome
Yes they are
EDIT: Went on a date yesterday night.
Well, it was more or less just touching base with the girl, but we had a nice walk. She was more attractive than I thought she'd be, but I played it cool like it wasn't a big deal.
She told me we had a great time, but she told me she just got out of something and she doesn't want to lead me on. She keeps emphasising that she wants to hang out, but I think what kind of what foiled it was that I had the misfortune of having the same name as her last boyfriend, so everytime she says the name it irks her :?
Oh karma, you are a harsh mistress!
Well... she ain't... she was just scared... just about fell off my chair when I realised she actually really wanted me.
...I still have no idea what to do! I guess i'll just take it day by day...
There's a new title in there.
Also how could you guys date such a tiny chick if you are of any reasonable height? Wouldn't you get self conscious that people might think your dating a kid or something? 4'11 is really short, but i guess your dick would look bigger in her tiny hands. I don't know
i've dated girls who were just under five feet tall
it wasn't a big deal
Ah, see, your height now has purpose. It makes good fashion sense.
Not when you are on a second date she excuses herself goes back into her apt and gets some stripper platform heels just to to wear next to you while saying it's awesome I can wear these and still cannot look you in the eye
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I have an OKC account too, but it's worthless to me. There are basically about 4-5 people in my entire area, everyone else being across the border (I'm in a border city, so I can't blame OKC for drawing from that area). For some reason people in my actual city seem to use PoF much more.
I've actually been trying this for...I guess about 3 years or so, with extremely poor results. Granted, a lot of that MIGHT be blamed on me hardly ever messaging anyone and relying on women messaging me, but I've resolved to change that, and I'd like to be putting my best foot forward here.
I'm pretty sure that is average height. I don't think the bell curve of U.S. men's heights peaks at ~6'.
Older generation were shorter yo
Average height for a young white dude is like 5 11 in the US last time I looked
5'10.5 apparently
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Hmm, we are shorter in Canada. Weird.
That said, tiny girls are in fact awesome. You can pick them up and do things to/with them. :P
First line comes off pretty bad. "it's not much but it's me," ie I don't think much of myself.
Don't talk about how hard it is to write your profile in your profile. Everyone hates describing themselves in text.
Get a nice picture of yourself outside on one of those scenic paths you talk about and use that as your profile pic. (I can only see the main pic on my phone, maybe there are more I am not seeing)
In general it comes off a bit short on confidence and on details. I mean, I know you program....something, like video games, movies, a hockey team, and not going to bars and getting drunk til 4am (but you assume the average 30 year old does?). Not much to go on there. Maybe go into some detail about a summer blockbuster you found particularly blockbustery, or something interesting you saw on one of those scenic walks you went on, or SOMETHING, anything with done depth that a girl could see and go hmm, I'd like to know more.
Excellent, thank you kindly. I'll make some changes and perhaps consult here again.
Yup. Let's just say when I look around and see my competition, they're usually taller than I am. Thus, midget status!
Focused on culling some of the self-deprecation, and adding some more details to some aspects (my job, preferences, personality, and family). I'll get a better picture soon, or at least one with a more interesting backdrop.
Any other comments or suggestions?