I don't worry about Blake leaving me for another woman (unless she's like 7'+ tall)
but boy do I worry about Blake leaving me for @Kincaid
one time @Odin posted his pic in a camwhore thread and my wife was like "yo who the hell is that guy"
and i was like wife pls
i actually remember this picture
i said to my brother "hey do you want to see some dudes from the internet post pictures of their beards" and he sort of rolled his eyes and came over expecting some shitty nerds
and then it was odin and he basically passed out
When we did the first Perth meetup, we were due to meet @Butler and @Kincaid and Waka Laka. I'd met Butler before and already knew what Waka looked like, so Kincaid was the mystery as he did not post much in those days (or these days).
So we went in assuming that he'd be a stereotypical nerdy-looking dude. Instead, we got Barney Stinson.
I don't worry about Blake leaving me for another woman (unless she's like 7'+ tall)
but boy do I worry about Blake leaving me for @Kincaid
one time @Odin posted his pic in a camwhore thread and my wife was like "yo who the hell is that guy"
and i was like wife pls
i actually remember this picture
i said to my brother "hey do you want to see some dudes from the internet post pictures of their beards" and he sort of rolled his eyes and came over expecting some shitty nerds
and then it was odin and he basically passed out
When we did the first Perth meetup, we were due to meet @Butler and @Kincaid and Waka Laka. I'd met Butler before and already knew what Waka looked like, so Kincaid was the mystery as he did not post much in those days (or these days).
So we went in assuming that he'd be a stereotypical nerdy-looking dude. Instead, we got Barney Stinson.
We still call him that sometimes.
What have I been tagged in a hundred times?
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Oh.
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I can't really explain it, maybe it's the rhythm and cadence of his accent, but Allen Leech (Tom Branson of Downton Abbey) makes me watch a lot of Masterpiece Theater.
Okay, so, this has been bugging me all week and I just really really need a place to vent my continued frustration at this....incident.
Spoilered because it might be a little triggering? And also because I'm just straight cis white boy and don't want to overly shit up the thread, relevant or not.
So at my job I work on one of maybe five teams, all under the same manager. Our group also has a pseudo-second-in-command who loosely fills the role of project manager, so we'll call her PM. PM is more or less in charge whenever manager isn't on-site.
So earlier this week two of my coworkers (who are both women) were joking about getting married (they recently both spent the night on-site due to potential bad weather and have been joking about these things ever since). One of them commented that they can't get married because it's illegal, so I "helpfully" pointed out it's presently legal (supreme court case, etc). Well, PM happened to be walking by, and decided this would be a good time to interject her...opinions...on things.
See, PM is a Jehovah's Witness. And PM is apparently a very good little JW and absolutely loves speaking her mind about these things. So what started out as friendly light banter between coworkers suddenly turned into a fairly overly religious person basically preaching against "the gay" openly and unabashedly in the middle of the workplace. At one point my more moderate coworker tried to engage her by asking if she had a child (she has a son) was gay wouldn't she still want him to be happy? And she said, "No. I'd want him to be alone." which just kinda pretty much hit my berserk button. I was already just sort of staring at my computer trying not to flip, at that point I just completely zoned out and put the whole thing on ignore for the sake of my sanity. She was probably over here preaching for a little over half an hour or so.
Oh yeah, the best part? I can't say a fucking thing. See, I'm a temp. And she's the second-in-command of the group. And basically everybody I work with here in BibleBeltVille is pretty Christian and doesn't see why it's a big deal for someone to discuss their beliefs with a coworker "in a respectful and polite conversation." So it would just look like I was kicking up dust over nothing. And if I went to HR, the worst she'd get is a reprimand which would instantly trace back to me and then they'd just decide to cancel my contract "for no reason." Like, even if I complained and got fired and got a lawyer and sued...it wouldn't matter, I'm a temp, they can literally decide at any moment they no longer want my services and poof I'm gone.
I've been stewing about this all week. It makes me genuinely sick to my stomach and I have lost everything even remotely resembling respect for this person and it really took every ounce of energy I had not to get myself fired between all the snarky, smart-assed, and outright offensive things I wanted to say to her.
I just....blargh. Thanks for letting me complain, folks.
Okay, so, this has been bugging me all week and I just really really need a place to vent my continued frustration at this....incident.
Spoilered because it might be a little triggering? And also because I'm just straight cis white boy and don't want to overly shit up the thread, relevant or not.
So at my job I work on one of maybe five teams, all under the same manager. Our group also has a pseudo-second-in-command who loosely fills the role of project manager, so we'll call her PM. PM is more or less in charge whenever manager isn't on-site.
So earlier this week two of my coworkers (who are both women) were joking about getting married (they recently both spent the night on-site due to potential bad weather and have been joking about these things ever since). One of them commented that they can't get married because it's illegal, so I "helpfully" pointed out it's presently legal (supreme court case, etc). Well, PM happened to be walking by, and decided this would be a good time to interject her...opinions...on things.
See, PM is a Jehovah's Witness. And PM is apparently a very good little JW and absolutely loves speaking her mind about these things. So what started out as friendly light banter between coworkers suddenly turned into a fairly overly religious person basically preaching against "the gay" openly and unabashedly in the middle of the workplace. At one point my more moderate coworker tried to engage her by asking if she had a child (she has a son) was gay wouldn't she still want him to be happy? And she said, "No. I'd want him to be alone." which just kinda pretty much hit my berserk button. I was already just sort of staring at my computer trying not to flip, at that point I just completely zoned out and put the whole thing on ignore for the sake of my sanity. She was probably over here preaching for a little over half an hour or so.
Oh yeah, the best part? I can't say a fucking thing. See, I'm a temp. And she's the second-in-command of the group. And basically everybody I work with here in BibleBeltVille is pretty Christian and doesn't see why it's a big deal for someone to discuss their beliefs with a coworker "in a respectful and polite conversation." So it would just look like I was kicking up dust over nothing. And if I went to HR, the worst she'd get is a reprimand which would instantly trace back to me and then they'd just decide to cancel my contract "for no reason." Like, even if I complained and got fired and got a lawyer and sued...it wouldn't matter, I'm a temp, they can literally decide at any moment they no longer want my services and poof I'm gone.
I've been stewing about this all week. It makes me genuinely sick to my stomach and I have lost everything even remotely resembling respect for this person and it really took every ounce of energy I had not to get myself fired between all the snarky, smart-assed, and outright offensive things I wanted to say to her.
I just....blargh. Thanks for letting me complain, folks.
We don't have a bro button anymore but yeah. I guess almost 12 years ago (oh my god I'm old as balls) when I was a supervisor for a data entry company I had a conversation with one of my employees about how being gay isn't like, the worst thing ever. It wasn't in any way graphic or anything - I don't even remember what we talked about honestly other than gay people: not so bad - but I got called into the office because he had mentioned it offhandedly to one of his coworkers. And this coworker got SO STRESSED and pissed off because her supervisor said something positive about gay people and she heard it secondhand that she went and complained to my supervisor, and my supervisor was like ... I don't really know what I'm supposed to do here, but I guess it would probably just be a good idea for you to never, ever mention anything about sexual orientation again?
Okay, so, this has been bugging me all week and I just really really need a place to vent my continued frustration at this....incident.
Spoilered because it might be a little triggering? And also because I'm just straight cis white boy and don't want to overly shit up the thread, relevant or not.
So at my job I work on one of maybe five teams, all under the same manager. Our group also has a pseudo-second-in-command who loosely fills the role of project manager, so we'll call her PM. PM is more or less in charge whenever manager isn't on-site.
So earlier this week two of my coworkers (who are both women) were joking about getting married (they recently both spent the night on-site due to potential bad weather and have been joking about these things ever since). One of them commented that they can't get married because it's illegal, so I "helpfully" pointed out it's presently legal (supreme court case, etc). Well, PM happened to be walking by, and decided this would be a good time to interject her...opinions...on things.
See, PM is a Jehovah's Witness. And PM is apparently a very good little JW and absolutely loves speaking her mind about these things. So what started out as friendly light banter between coworkers suddenly turned into a fairly overly religious person basically preaching against "the gay" openly and unabashedly in the middle of the workplace. At one point my more moderate coworker tried to engage her by asking if she had a child (she has a son) was gay wouldn't she still want him to be happy? And she said, "No. I'd want him to be alone." which just kinda pretty much hit my berserk button. I was already just sort of staring at my computer trying not to flip, at that point I just completely zoned out and put the whole thing on ignore for the sake of my sanity. She was probably over here preaching for a little over half an hour or so.
Oh yeah, the best part? I can't say a fucking thing. See, I'm a temp. And she's the second-in-command of the group. And basically everybody I work with here in BibleBeltVille is pretty Christian and doesn't see why it's a big deal for someone to discuss their beliefs with a coworker "in a respectful and polite conversation." So it would just look like I was kicking up dust over nothing. And if I went to HR, the worst she'd get is a reprimand which would instantly trace back to me and then they'd just decide to cancel my contract "for no reason." Like, even if I complained and got fired and got a lawyer and sued...it wouldn't matter, I'm a temp, they can literally decide at any moment they no longer want my services and poof I'm gone.
I've been stewing about this all week. It makes me genuinely sick to my stomach and I have lost everything even remotely resembling respect for this person and it really took every ounce of energy I had not to get myself fired between all the snarky, smart-assed, and outright offensive things I wanted to say to her.
I just....blargh. Thanks for letting me complain, folks.
Okay, so, this has been bugging me all week and I just really really need a place to vent my continued frustration at this....incident.
Spoilered because it might be a little triggering? And also because I'm just straight cis white boy and don't want to overly shit up the thread, relevant or not.
So at my job I work on one of maybe five teams, all under the same manager. Our group also has a pseudo-second-in-command who loosely fills the role of project manager, so we'll call her PM. PM is more or less in charge whenever manager isn't on-site.
So earlier this week two of my coworkers (who are both women) were joking about getting married (they recently both spent the night on-site due to potential bad weather and have been joking about these things ever since). One of them commented that they can't get married because it's illegal, so I "helpfully" pointed out it's presently legal (supreme court case, etc). Well, PM happened to be walking by, and decided this would be a good time to interject her...opinions...on things.
See, PM is a Jehovah's Witness. And PM is apparently a very good little JW and absolutely loves speaking her mind about these things. So what started out as friendly light banter between coworkers suddenly turned into a fairly overly religious person basically preaching against "the gay" openly and unabashedly in the middle of the workplace. At one point my more moderate coworker tried to engage her by asking if she had a child (she has a son) was gay wouldn't she still want him to be happy? And she said, "No. I'd want him to be alone." which just kinda pretty much hit my berserk button. I was already just sort of staring at my computer trying not to flip, at that point I just completely zoned out and put the whole thing on ignore for the sake of my sanity. She was probably over here preaching for a little over half an hour or so.
Oh yeah, the best part? I can't say a fucking thing. See, I'm a temp. And she's the second-in-command of the group. And basically everybody I work with here in BibleBeltVille is pretty Christian and doesn't see why it's a big deal for someone to discuss their beliefs with a coworker "in a respectful and polite conversation." So it would just look like I was kicking up dust over nothing. And if I went to HR, the worst she'd get is a reprimand which would instantly trace back to me and then they'd just decide to cancel my contract "for no reason." Like, even if I complained and got fired and got a lawyer and sued...it wouldn't matter, I'm a temp, they can literally decide at any moment they no longer want my services and poof I'm gone.
I've been stewing about this all week. It makes me genuinely sick to my stomach and I have lost everything even remotely resembling respect for this person and it really took every ounce of energy I had not to get myself fired between all the snarky, smart-assed, and outright offensive things I wanted to say to her.
I just....blargh. Thanks for letting me complain, folks.
Yeah shenanigans like that are awful. Namely, being in a position where there ARE rules and laws in place to protect against discrimination based on orientation or gender identity... but they don't get used or applied because stupid office politics. Then again it sounds like this place wouldn't have such protections! I am curious to know how the other women reacted. I mean if they argued with the PM then yay for people standing up to such bullies.
And yeah, we need the Bro? button for shit like this.
Okay, so, this has been bugging me all week and I just really really need a place to vent my continued frustration at this....incident.
Spoilered because it might be a little triggering? And also because I'm just straight cis white boy and don't want to overly shit up the thread, relevant or not.
So at my job I work on one of maybe five teams, all under the same manager. Our group also has a pseudo-second-in-command who loosely fills the role of project manager, so we'll call her PM. PM is more or less in charge whenever manager isn't on-site.
So earlier this week two of my coworkers (who are both women) were joking about getting married (they recently both spent the night on-site due to potential bad weather and have been joking about these things ever since). One of them commented that they can't get married because it's illegal, so I "helpfully" pointed out it's presently legal (supreme court case, etc). Well, PM happened to be walking by, and decided this would be a good time to interject her...opinions...on things.
See, PM is a Jehovah's Witness. And PM is apparently a very good little JW and absolutely loves speaking her mind about these things. So what started out as friendly light banter between coworkers suddenly turned into a fairly overly religious person basically preaching against "the gay" openly and unabashedly in the middle of the workplace. At one point my more moderate coworker tried to engage her by asking if she had a child (she has a son) was gay wouldn't she still want him to be happy? And she said, "No. I'd want him to be alone." which just kinda pretty much hit my berserk button. I was already just sort of staring at my computer trying not to flip, at that point I just completely zoned out and put the whole thing on ignore for the sake of my sanity. She was probably over here preaching for a little over half an hour or so.
Oh yeah, the best part? I can't say a fucking thing. See, I'm a temp. And she's the second-in-command of the group. And basically everybody I work with here in BibleBeltVille is pretty Christian and doesn't see why it's a big deal for someone to discuss their beliefs with a coworker "in a respectful and polite conversation." So it would just look like I was kicking up dust over nothing. And if I went to HR, the worst she'd get is a reprimand which would instantly trace back to me and then they'd just decide to cancel my contract "for no reason." Like, even if I complained and got fired and got a lawyer and sued...it wouldn't matter, I'm a temp, they can literally decide at any moment they no longer want my services and poof I'm gone.
I've been stewing about this all week. It makes me genuinely sick to my stomach and I have lost everything even remotely resembling respect for this person and it really took every ounce of energy I had not to get myself fired between all the snarky, smart-assed, and outright offensive things I wanted to say to her.
I just....blargh. Thanks for letting me complain, folks.
Yeah shenanigans like that are awful. Namely, being in a position where there ARE rules and laws in place to protect against discrimination based on orientation or gender identity... but they don't get used or applied because stupid office politics. Then again it sounds like this place wouldn't have such protections! I am curious to know how the other women reacted. I mean if they argued with the PM then yay for people standing up to such bullies.
And yeah, we need the Bro? button for shit like this.
Well two didn't really say anything because they weren't sitting as close to where she was as me and the one coworker, so they weren't really involved. I very quickly shutdown and buried myself in my work, and the 4th person more or less engaged and tried to be a voice of....moderate religious conservatism. PM just wasn't having it, choosing instead to fly further off the deep end at every opportunity.
She eventually got off on a much less controversial tangent: how Christmas has nothing to do with Christ anymore and is a purely secular/pagan holiday that worships a fictional character (dot-dot-FUCKING-DOT)
Okay, so, this has been bugging me all week and I just really really need a place to vent my continued frustration at this....incident.
Spoilered because it might be a little triggering? And also because I'm just straight cis white boy and don't want to overly shit up the thread, relevant or not.
So at my job I work on one of maybe five teams, all under the same manager. Our group also has a pseudo-second-in-command who loosely fills the role of project manager, so we'll call her PM. PM is more or less in charge whenever manager isn't on-site.
So earlier this week two of my coworkers (who are both women) were joking about getting married (they recently both spent the night on-site due to potential bad weather and have been joking about these things ever since). One of them commented that they can't get married because it's illegal, so I "helpfully" pointed out it's presently legal (supreme court case, etc). Well, PM happened to be walking by, and decided this would be a good time to interject her...opinions...on things.
See, PM is a Jehovah's Witness. And PM is apparently a very good little JW and absolutely loves speaking her mind about these things. So what started out as friendly light banter between coworkers suddenly turned into a fairly overly religious person basically preaching against "the gay" openly and unabashedly in the middle of the workplace. At one point my more moderate coworker tried to engage her by asking if she had a child (she has a son) was gay wouldn't she still want him to be happy? And she said, "No. I'd want him to be alone." which just kinda pretty much hit my berserk button. I was already just sort of staring at my computer trying not to flip, at that point I just completely zoned out and put the whole thing on ignore for the sake of my sanity. She was probably over here preaching for a little over half an hour or so.
Oh yeah, the best part? I can't say a fucking thing. See, I'm a temp. And she's the second-in-command of the group. And basically everybody I work with here in BibleBeltVille is pretty Christian and doesn't see why it's a big deal for someone to discuss their beliefs with a coworker "in a respectful and polite conversation." So it would just look like I was kicking up dust over nothing. And if I went to HR, the worst she'd get is a reprimand which would instantly trace back to me and then they'd just decide to cancel my contract "for no reason." Like, even if I complained and got fired and got a lawyer and sued...it wouldn't matter, I'm a temp, they can literally decide at any moment they no longer want my services and poof I'm gone.
I've been stewing about this all week. It makes me genuinely sick to my stomach and I have lost everything even remotely resembling respect for this person and it really took every ounce of energy I had not to get myself fired between all the snarky, smart-assed, and outright offensive things I wanted to say to her.
I just....blargh. Thanks for letting me complain, folks.
Yeah shenanigans like that are awful. Namely, being in a position where there ARE rules and laws in place to protect against discrimination based on orientation or gender identity... but they don't get used or applied because stupid office politics. Then again it sounds like this place wouldn't have such protections! I am curious to know how the other women reacted. I mean if they argued with the PM then yay for people standing up to such bullies.
And yeah, we need the Bro? button for shit like this.
Well two didn't really say anything because they weren't sitting as close to where she was as me and the one coworker, so they weren't really involved. I very quickly shutdown and buried myself in my work, and the 4th person more or less engaged and tried to be a voice of....moderate religious conservatism. PM just wasn't having it, choosing instead to fly further off the deep end at every opportunity.
She eventually got off on a much less controversial tangent: how Christmas has nothing to do with Christ anymore and is a purely secular/pagan holiday that worships a fictional character (dot-dot-FUCKING-DOT)
Man I've been there Tox, at the horrible place I worked at a few years ago, where the boss's husband liked to harass me. He said some pretty horrible stuff about trans people (oh and he was racist too) and I corrected him and said "No, I find nothing wrong with trans people at all, why would I?" etc but I was in the situation where I had to hold back what I thought and my anger about what he said because they could have fired me in a second. I was literally the only employee, and quite frankly after the harassment and seeing this guy punch a hole in the wall and throw tables around the place in a fit of rage, I was scared of him.
But I felt pretty bad about not saying more and challenging his shitty opinions, and allowing him to think he could get away with it.
Liiya, someone who relies on property damage to express his emotions isn't someone who's going to listen to anything he doesn't want to. And while it is perfectly valid for you to feel bad about not doing more by confronting him, it's also perfectly valid to be unnerved and concerned with his physical reactions.
I don't think there's anyone in this thread who would begrudge you your safety in this matter.
I guess knew I could never change his views but it made me so angry to hear everyday, and my cousin is a lesbian and when he'd spout all his anti-gay stuff it would make me think of her and how she has to put up with stuff like that all the time and arrrgh. Day after day it was hard to put up with.
It is awful that employees are put in that situation where they are trapped with such toxic views.
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"Hmm, I wonder who that is?"
*quick Googling*
Yep, I definitely can see why a person might be attracted to him. That is a handsome man.
1970s Harrison Ford:
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Man.
Iorek Byrnison.
Also MacGyver.
Except for orange.
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The only boring one is one that is slightly dated, but only slightly, because once you go back further they become cool again.
When we did the first Perth meetup, we were due to meet @Butler and @Kincaid and Waka Laka. I'd met Butler before and already knew what Waka looked like, so Kincaid was the mystery as he did not post much in those days (or these days).
So we went in assuming that he'd be a stereotypical nerdy-looking dude. Instead, we got Barney Stinson.
We still call him that sometimes.
YUSSSSS
he was the best part of the Mummy movies
What have I been tagged in a hundred times?
Oh.
Oh.
E: Miss you guys! =/
Damnit, I went for the wrong one at Aaron's wedding?!
Inevitable dude crush? Jensen Ackles from Supernatural. Dayumn.
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For whatever reason I find that early 1990s Harrison Ford is where it's at
Han Solo does nothing for me, Indiana Jones is conventionally attractive I guess, but Jack Ryan? Yes please
Richard Kimball? With beard? Not even fair
So dreamy...
Spoilered because it might be a little triggering? And also because I'm just straight cis white boy and don't want to overly shit up the thread, relevant or not.
So earlier this week two of my coworkers (who are both women) were joking about getting married (they recently both spent the night on-site due to potential bad weather and have been joking about these things ever since). One of them commented that they can't get married because it's illegal, so I "helpfully" pointed out it's presently legal (supreme court case, etc). Well, PM happened to be walking by, and decided this would be a good time to interject her...opinions...on things.
See, PM is a Jehovah's Witness. And PM is apparently a very good little JW and absolutely loves speaking her mind about these things. So what started out as friendly light banter between coworkers suddenly turned into a fairly overly religious person basically preaching against "the gay" openly and unabashedly in the middle of the workplace. At one point my more moderate coworker tried to engage her by asking if she had a child (she has a son) was gay wouldn't she still want him to be happy? And she said, "No. I'd want him to be alone." which just kinda pretty much hit my berserk button. I was already just sort of staring at my computer trying not to flip, at that point I just completely zoned out and put the whole thing on ignore for the sake of my sanity. She was probably over here preaching for a little over half an hour or so.
Oh yeah, the best part? I can't say a fucking thing. See, I'm a temp. And she's the second-in-command of the group. And basically everybody I work with here in BibleBeltVille is pretty Christian and doesn't see why it's a big deal for someone to discuss their beliefs with a coworker "in a respectful and polite conversation." So it would just look like I was kicking up dust over nothing. And if I went to HR, the worst she'd get is a reprimand which would instantly trace back to me and then they'd just decide to cancel my contract "for no reason." Like, even if I complained and got fired and got a lawyer and sued...it wouldn't matter, I'm a temp, they can literally decide at any moment they no longer want my services and poof I'm gone.
I've been stewing about this all week. It makes me genuinely sick to my stomach and I have lost everything even remotely resembling respect for this person and it really took every ounce of energy I had not to get myself fired between all the snarky, smart-assed, and outright offensive things I wanted to say to her.
I just....blargh. Thanks for letting me complain, folks.
and so does @Sheri
Sam sucks tho
We don't have a bro button anymore but yeah. I guess almost 12 years ago (oh my god I'm old as balls) when I was a supervisor for a data entry company I had a conversation with one of my employees about how being gay isn't like, the worst thing ever. It wasn't in any way graphic or anything - I don't even remember what we talked about honestly other than gay people: not so bad - but I got called into the office because he had mentioned it offhandedly to one of his coworkers. And this coworker got SO STRESSED and pissed off because her supervisor said something positive about gay people and she heard it secondhand that she went and complained to my supervisor, and my supervisor was like ... I don't really know what I'm supposed to do here, but I guess it would probably just be a good idea for you to never, ever mention anything about sexual orientation again?
Or maybe Balthier
basch is hot as fuck as well
:bro:
Yeah shenanigans like that are awful. Namely, being in a position where there ARE rules and laws in place to protect against discrimination based on orientation or gender identity... but they don't get used or applied because stupid office politics. Then again it sounds like this place wouldn't have such protections! I am curious to know how the other women reacted. I mean if they argued with the PM then yay for people standing up to such bullies.
And yeah, we need the Bro? button for shit like this.
Well two didn't really say anything because they weren't sitting as close to where she was as me and the one coworker, so they weren't really involved. I very quickly shutdown and buried myself in my work, and the 4th person more or less engaged and tried to be a voice of....moderate religious conservatism. PM just wasn't having it, choosing instead to fly further off the deep end at every opportunity.
She eventually got off on a much less controversial tangent: how Christmas has nothing to do with Christ anymore and is a purely secular/pagan holiday that worships a fictional character (dot-dot-FUCKING-DOT)
that lady sounds like a fun time at parties.
But I felt pretty bad about not saying more and challenging his shitty opinions, and allowing him to think he could get away with it.
I don't think there's anyone in this thread who would begrudge you your safety in this matter.
It is awful that employees are put in that situation where they are trapped with such toxic views.