now that a bunch of you will be seeing some random guy in your visitors section I might as well put up my profile for critique http://www.okcupid.com/profile/trednis.
I recently received a complimentary message from a local swinger. Was a "thanks, but no thanks" moment.
Overall that sounded good to me. I mean, straightforward with some details that give a good idea of you, I think. One thing I noticed is I don't think you said what you actually do for work, just what your degree is in, is that intentionally not mentioned because it's something you're not happy with? (Apologies if I skimmed over it.)
What stood out the most to me, though, is you don't use contractions ever. This isn't True Grit here. Try to write a little more like how you'd talk. It comes off very stiff and not conversational. Unless you actually don't use contractions when you talk. In which case that's very interesting but a littttle weird.
I've been looking at OKCupid profiles, and ran across a girl who says, and I quote: "none want me around." That just seems like pretty much the single worst thing you can put in a profile.
So I been noticing some girls putting "If you play videogames don't contact me".
It boggles the mind. It's like saying if you like reading/watching tv/random hobby don't contact me.
Or an opening to say in your first message "Does Angry Birds count?"
I think almost every woman who has actually met people on an online dating site has a "horror story," which typically is simply awkward or weird but usually involves some level of social ineptitude on the part of the guy. And I wouldn't be surprised if the majority of the guys who fall into that category also play video games and make a point of saying so, simply because it's a significant hobby for them.
That's simply correlation, and you know that and I know that. But I'm not surprised to hear that some women see the correlation as something they're not interested in.
That being said, there's no reason you can't still message the person, and if they respond back and it comes up, you can say "Oh, I figured you meant, like, guys who play video games non-stop and live in their parents basement."
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My roommate asked if the Atlasphere was serious. I think it's obvious that the Atlasphere never jokes.
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So I been noticing some girls putting "If you play videogames don't contact me".
It boggles the mind. It's like saying if you like reading/watching tv/random hobby don't contact me.
I'm just as likely to say that if women don't play video games, they shouldn't bother to contact me either. But that's because I uphold a certain amount of "be my friend" in relationships, which is easily achieved if she plays video games. Because I play them. Like a lot. And it's more common ground, and in the specific case of video games gives something to be competitive about.
I think almost every woman who has actually met people on an online dating site has a "horror story," which typically is simply awkward or weird but usually involves some level of social ineptitude on the part of the guy.
A female friend in Law School had this experience. She had a boyfriend who became obsessed with World of Warcraft. So, when I met her, she really hated all video games with a passion. She has since come around. I put in my profile that I enjoy video games, but I'm starting to think that I might take it off, or at least diminish it a bit.
The Atlasphere is more than a networking site or a place to read great articles. It is where I go to connect with people who share my passion for Ayn Rand's ideas and my way of looking at the world.
At least they're all contained.
I'll admit, I signed up for the Atlasphere years ago, when it first started out. I was a geeky 15 year old, I had just read Atlas Shrugged and it seemed like the greatest thing ever. As far as I know it's not a dating site (it's more like an Objectivist facebook), but it might've changed since 2005.
Your self-summary feels long. I think it mainly has to do with how it's written, more than the actual amount of content. I would hone it down a little and make it a bit more casual. Right now, it sounds a bit like a CV rather than a dating profile. Something about your "What I'm doing with my life" sounds self-important to me, but that could just be me reading it at the end of a long day. haha. It's something about this sentence: "Given my skillset, I feel I'd be best suited working towards political solutions to the problems of Pakistan and the developing world at large. " Perhaps more of "...I feel I could do some good working...." On the other hand, it could just be me, and you could totally disregard that. Everything else looks pretty good to me.
Oh, the flip-flop picture or the picture just above it would make a better profile photo, imho. I think you can nix the spit bubble picture. You have enough, and your others are better.
Also, I got a laugh out of the purple-scarf-fan pictures. They're fun.
I would move "play games in my free time" farther down the profile. Like, build up the art part, then throw in that you play games. Having it paired up in the same sentence as work and art just gives a bad vibe, somehow.
And remember, romance is transactional, the destination is more important than the journey, and your actions sometimes reflect a subconscious bigotry you'll never admit to.
It don't understand the "romance is transactional" part, and the last part kind of sounds like you're accusing people of racism. Recommendation: delete it.
I'm good at conversation, but I hate it when girls just look at you and have nothing to say (with this blank, 'AMUSE ME, BOY' look in their eyes).
Can you give this a more positive spin? Like "I'm good at conversation, especially with people just as enthusiastic as I am." Everyone blanks out in a conversation once in a while, you don't want girls thinking, "Uh oh, do I do that? Am I one of those blank starers he talks about? No point in even talking to him, then."
Got a message from a girl the other day. I was like OoOoOoOoOoOo... So I checked out her profile, decent pics, decent looking gal, good job, nice taste in music/movies/books, and she like my profile. So I bring up her questions that she and I do not agree on and I find that she wants kids, like wants them hella bad.
Are you looking for a partner to have children with?
I answered NO! She answered Yes with the comment about not wanting to get involved and fall in love with someone only to find out they don't want kids.
It's on my profile that I don't want them. Every kid related question I answer with the most DO NOT WANT answer possible.
So we get stiff once in a while. So we have a little fun. What’s wrong with that? This is a free country, isn’t it? I can take my panda any place I want to. And if I wanna buy it a drink, that’s my business.
When it rains it pours. After months and months of messaging girls, I finally got some responses and all of them all at once. Fortunately a few of them have been easy to weed out. Like the jesus-freak who I matched 85% plus with on everything but religion, which was at 6%.
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When it rains it pours. After months and months of messaging girls, I finally got some responses and all of them all at once. Fortunately a few of them have been easy to weed out. Like the jesus-freak who I matched 85% plus with on everything but religion, which was at 6%.
Well. Not to defend Jesus-freaks or anything, but could that person possibly be a tame Jesus-freak?
I really don't like how I look in most photographs I'm in. :?
one of my good friends, though i love her dearly, canNOT take a good photo of me. like, EVER. it's almost comical.
When I look at myself in the mirror, I usually think I look pretty good but no one seems to be able to take a decent looking picture of me ever.'
Anyways, new OKTrends - 10 Charts about Sex. Definitely some interesting information in there.
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When it rains it pours. After months and months of messaging girls, I finally got some responses and all of them all at once. Fortunately a few of them have been easy to weed out. Like the jesus-freak who I matched 85% plus with on everything but religion, which was at 6%.
Well. Not to defend Jesus-freaks or anything, but could that person possibly be a tame Jesus-freak?
Not likely. Based on the answers to her questions and how many of them were highlighted in pink as being very mismatched.
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i gotta say, when it rains it POURS. i'm still not dating anyone per se as i'm relocating in a little under 2 months (!), but since i had some unexpected fun with a rad guy last weekend they're ALLLLLL coming out of the woodwork suddenly. it's like there's a mailing list or something.
i gotta say, when it rains it POURS. i'm still not dating anyone per se as i'm relocating in a little under 2 months (!), but since i had some unexpected fun with a rad guy last weekend they're ALLLLLL coming out of the woodwork suddenly. it's like there's a mailing list or something.
I sent out a flyer.
It had all the reasons why someone should date you
I really don't like how I look in most photographs I'm in. :?
one of my good friends, though i love her dearly, canNOT take a good photo of me. like, EVER. it's almost comical.
When I look at myself in the mirror, I usually think I look pretty good but no one seems to be able to take a decent looking picture of me ever.'
Anyways, new OKTrends - 10 Charts about Sex. Definitely some interesting information in there.
this happens to most people
almost no-one is perfectly symmetrical, so when you fix you appearance in the mirror, and then look at a photo taken the same day, to you something will look "off" and your appearance is now stuck in the uncanny valley in regards to your self-image
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Overall that sounded good to me. I mean, straightforward with some details that give a good idea of you, I think. One thing I noticed is I don't think you said what you actually do for work, just what your degree is in, is that intentionally not mentioned because it's something you're not happy with? (Apologies if I skimmed over it.)
What stood out the most to me, though, is you don't use contractions ever. This isn't True Grit here. Try to write a little more like how you'd talk. It comes off very stiff and not conversational. Unless you actually don't use contractions when you talk. In which case that's very interesting but a littttle weird.
Just made a profile, figure I'd give the forever alone act a rest and get out into the world! Thoughts or comments?
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It boggles the mind. It's like saying if you like reading/watching tv/random hobby don't contact me.
Or an opening to say in your first message "Does Angry Birds count?"
I think almost every woman who has actually met people on an online dating site has a "horror story," which typically is simply awkward or weird but usually involves some level of social ineptitude on the part of the guy. And I wouldn't be surprised if the majority of the guys who fall into that category also play video games and make a point of saying so, simply because it's a significant hobby for them.
That's simply correlation, and you know that and I know that. But I'm not surprised to hear that some women see the correlation as something they're not interested in.
That being said, there's no reason you can't still message the person, and if they respond back and it comes up, you can say "Oh, I figured you meant, like, guys who play video games non-stop and live in their parents basement."
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At least they're all contained.
I'm just as likely to say that if women don't play video games, they shouldn't bother to contact me either. But that's because I uphold a certain amount of "be my friend" in relationships, which is easily achieved if she plays video games. Because I play them. Like a lot. And it's more common ground, and in the specific case of video games gives something to be competitive about.
I'll admit, I signed up for the Atlasphere years ago, when it first started out. I was a geeky 15 year old, I had just read Atlas Shrugged and it seemed like the greatest thing ever. As far as I know it's not a dating site (it's more like an Objectivist facebook), but it might've changed since 2005.
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If you're forever alone, we are all thoroughly fucked!
Lettuce be cereal - put yourself out there man. You'll be fighting girls off.
Thoughts/comments: You're cute, and your profile is a good read. That's all I have to contribute to this. You should do well. :-P
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Wow, thanks for the positive input.
I think most of my problem here is that I just need to actually...start messaging people (crazy huh?).
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Your self-summary feels long. I think it mainly has to do with how it's written, more than the actual amount of content. I would hone it down a little and make it a bit more casual. Right now, it sounds a bit like a CV rather than a dating profile. Something about your "What I'm doing with my life" sounds self-important to me, but that could just be me reading it at the end of a long day. haha. It's something about this sentence: "Given my skillset, I feel I'd be best suited working towards political solutions to the problems of Pakistan and the developing world at large. " Perhaps more of "...I feel I could do some good working...." On the other hand, it could just be me, and you could totally disregard that. Everything else looks pretty good to me.
Oh, the flip-flop picture or the picture just above it would make a better profile photo, imho. I think you can nix the spit bubble picture. You have enough, and your others are better.
Also, I got a laugh out of the purple-scarf-fan pictures. They're fun.
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It don't understand the "romance is transactional" part, and the last part kind of sounds like you're accusing people of racism. Recommendation: delete it.
Can you give this a more positive spin? Like "I'm good at conversation, especially with people just as enthusiastic as I am." Everyone blanks out in a conversation once in a while, you don't want girls thinking, "Uh oh, do I do that? Am I one of those blank starers he talks about? No point in even talking to him, then."
at least, thats how I'm hearing it
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Are you looking for a partner to have children with?
I answered NO! She answered Yes with the comment about not wanting to get involved and fall in love with someone only to find out they don't want kids.
It's on my profile that I don't want them. Every kid related question I answer with the most DO NOT WANT answer possible.
Fudge.
www.okcupid.com/profile/brownchiclets
Well. Not to defend Jesus-freaks or anything, but could that person possibly be a tame Jesus-freak?
one of my good friends, though i love her dearly, canNOT take a good photo of me. like, EVER. it's almost comical.
Well it does not help I am usually awake at night so most of my pics are of the usual bathroom mirror
When I look at myself in the mirror, I usually think I look pretty good but no one seems to be able to take a decent looking picture of me ever.'
Anyways, new OKTrends - 10 Charts about Sex. Definitely some interesting information in there.
Feel free to add me on whatever network, it's always more fun to play with people than alone
Not likely. Based on the answers to her questions and how many of them were highlighted in pink as being very mismatched.
ed: maybe the suit+cameraphone one, although cameraphones aren't ideal
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I sent out a flyer.
It had all the reasons why someone should date you
this happens to most people
almost no-one is perfectly symmetrical, so when you fix you appearance in the mirror, and then look at a photo taken the same day, to you something will look "off" and your appearance is now stuck in the uncanny valley in regards to your self-image