We are walking a very fine line I think. We've not said the standard "my house, my rules" thing or the "while you're under this roof you will x and y young lady" thing. But we have made it clear that living at home includes a set of mandatory tasks that help keep the house running, and she's not disincluded from them by virtue of having a birthday. The effect is that she is chafing at living under somebody else's mandatory rules, but it's not exactly directed at us because we called back to the ancient system we used when they were toddlers: "these are the rules, we follow rules, my hands are tied too! You just have to do x because it's a rule."
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just u wait im gonna tell her about the post-structuralists and ur in trouble matey
I mean, I didn't always like avocado. But even when I didn't, I wasn't under the impression that it was terrible.
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surrealitychecklonely, but not unloveddreaming of faulty keys and latchesRegistered Userregular
I think my favourite "hah hah tumblr feminists" thing is the "did you know that the reason men sit with their legs wide apart is because it's a "crotch display" intended to assert dominance and show sexual virility to potential mates"
(and the response "IT'S BECAUSE WE HAVE PARTS THAT STICK OUT THERE THAT REACT TO HEAT AND PRESSURE SHITBRAIN")
thank god tumblr activism is like a neutrino, if it interacted with the physical world more we'd see some damage to feminism
um wtf r u doing i sit with my legs splayed apart all the time to show my mad junk off
I don't do it to show off, rather it would just be incredibly cruel to restrict the world immediate access to my junk in any manner.
I think my favourite "hah hah tumblr feminists" thing is the "did you know that the reason men sit with their legs wide apart is because it's a "crotch display" intended to assert dominance and show sexual virility to potential mates"
(and the response "IT'S BECAUSE WE HAVE PARTS THAT STICK OUT THERE THAT REACT TO HEAT AND PRESSURE SHITBRAIN")
thank god tumblr activism is like a neutrino, if it interacted with the physical world more we'd see some damage to feminism
um wtf r u doing i sit with my legs splayed apart all the time to show my mad junk off
I don't do it to show off, rather it would just be incredibly cruel to restrict the world immediate access to my junk in any manner.
spool i cant remember how old your kids are and how many you have.
three, girl boy boy, 18, 16, 14. All born in January, on the 20th, 10th, and 5th respectively
So their years are related to the order of their birth by the function f(x)=year-1996-2(x) and birth dates are f(x)=20/(2^x), where the first child's order is zero. Also positive integers are boys, otherwise girl.
Yes this is easier for me than remembering that information on its own.
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surrealitychecklonely, but not unloveddreaming of faulty keys and latchesRegistered Userregular
spool i cant remember how old your kids are and how many you have.
three, girl boy boy, 18, 16, 14. All born in January, on the 20th, 10th, and 5th respectively
So their years are related to the order of their birth by the function f(x)=year-1996-2(x) and birth dates are f(x)=20/(2^x), where the first child's order is zero. Also positive integers are boys, otherwise girl.
Yes this is easier for me than remembering that information on its own.
spool i cant remember how old your kids are and how many you have.
three, girl boy boy, 18, 16, 14. All born in January, on the 20th, 10th, and 5th respectively
So their years are related to the order of their birth by the function f(x)=year-1996-2(x) and birth dates are f(x)=20/(2^x), where the first child's order is zero. Also positive integers are boys, otherwise girl.
Yes this is easier for me than remembering that information on its own.
I have a more efficient strategy, which is to just forget the information as soon as I learn it.
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CindersWhose sails were black when it was windyRegistered Userregular
I understand fully how she can be annoyed to what seems an unreasonable degree to be told to walk the dog
the difference between "walk the dog" and "could you walk the dog" is immense
(also I wouldn't worry about the transition being that brutal. It was fun! Like, shit, I've got a home and shit of my own! Nice! Also, who fucking knew that toilet paper and tape and paperclips and tin foil and all those things that you just always have add up to this much money when there is nothing to begin with!)
I hope she reacts that way to doing stuff on her own!
And I know there's a big difference between asking and telling... we're just not at the point yet where I feel ready to stop dictating. Very soon, but not yet. There is an element of "you are living here, these are the things you are doing" that I want to lean hard into, just to reinforce the break between living at home and living on her own.
We are walking a very fine line I think. We've not said the standard "my house, my rules" thing or the "while you're under this roof you will x and y young lady" thing. But we have made it clear that living at home includes a set of mandatory tasks that help keep the house running, and she's not disincluded from them by virtue of having a birthday. The effect is that she is chafing at living under somebody else's mandatory rules, but it's not exactly directed at us because we called back to the ancient system we used when they were toddlers: "these are the rules, we follow rules, my hands are tied too! You just have to do x because it's a rule."
She's more annoyed at the rules and tasks than at us for making her do them. It's some of each because she is not 2yrs old anymore, but it's working I think. The result should be that she feels refreshingly freed to create her own systems but doesn't just go mad with rebellion against us.
That's the hope at least. We are making this up as we go along, cobbled together from all the reading we've done and our own informed intuition and a fair bit of improv and a large library of "what not to do" lessons from our own parents.
*crosses fingers, worries in the dark*
don't say "You are living here, so therefore, you will have to do this"
that reminds me of one argument my parents used to pull out if for some reason it was unacceptable for me to go, I will do that thing yes, but no, I will not do it right fucking now. I will do it in twenty seconds, because I want to do it in twenty seconds and not now, and I can see no compelling reason to do it in five - which was "do you argue like this when your boss told you do things/when a superior officer tells you to do things?"
they never really got the difference between an officer, or boss, or them
the boss isn't demanding I do things because he can demand things - I have agreed to do the things he said. They're not demands then, they're basically questions I already said yes to.
I followed orders because of the same reason - there was an implied question in the beginning that I answered with, yes, I agree to follow orders
present it as a deal. There is a vast gulf of difference between mandatory rules that you have accepted and mandatory rules that are forced upon you.
Hell, even in the army, you can't force anyone to follow an order. You can force a person to do something, but that is not the same thing.
spool i cant remember how old your kids are and how many you have.
three, girl boy boy, 18, 16, 14. All born in January, on the 20th, 10th, and 5th respectively
So their years are related to the order of their birth by the function f(x)=year-1996-2(x) and birth dates are f(x)=20/(2^x), where the first child's order is zero. Also positive integers are boys, otherwise girl.
Yes this is easier for me than remembering that information on its own.
I have a more efficient strategy, which is to just forget the information as soon as I learn it.
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i dunno that's just how things are like with families sometimes
that's just families no
i've definitley heard the exact "you don't argue like this with your friends do you"
I have returned from the store with a pound of burger meat
more on this breaking news as it develops
just u wait im gonna tell her about the post-structuralists and ur in trouble matey
This is more factually incorrect than the 10% brain thing.
anxiety
thi sis an xcellent post and i wholehertedly agre
build your balance sheet
worry about your income statement later
Does it physically hurt to be so wrong?
I mean, I didn't always like avocado. But even when I didn't, I wasn't under the impression that it was terrible.
"We believe in the people and their 'wisdom' as if there was some special secret entrance to knowledge that barred to anyone who had ever learned anything." - Friedrich Nietzsche
go 2 profesional
I don't do it to show off, rather it would just be incredibly cruel to restrict the world immediate access to my junk in any manner.
scheck
scheck you're breaking my heart
three, girl boy boy, 18, 16, 14. All born in January, on the 20th, 10th, and 5th respectively
I do it to save room for cats.
Scheck disapproves of plant material in a general sense
we would have to reorganize everything around building it from recycled cars since we would have an unlimited supply of those
the automotive sector would collapse, and mechanics since you can just download a new one, the government would have to heavily regulate it
so an unfettered allowance of downloaded cars would be bad for society but not for the reason the commercial thinks
Like, youtube comments on Best Friend vids are usually fine.
Stream comments though. ACK. Just a constant stream (hueheu) of parroting whatever the streamer said a good 10 or so times per remark
GREEEN IS NOT FOR HTE PEEEEN
Did you schedule the sex in advance or something?
But wheat is a vital component of cheeseburger
A used car-based economy.
geez.
your pockets must have echos between the months of December and February.
lol
i need t talk to the mrs about how she manages. i really want to have kids but you know... fibro and shit. when did she start really noticing it?
So their years are related to the order of their birth by the function f(x)=year-1996-2(x) and birth dates are f(x)=20/(2^x), where the first child's order is zero. Also positive integers are boys, otherwise girl.
Yes this is easier for me than remembering that information on its own.
wheat is honorary member of superfood group by dint of being golden-yellow
what foods r good
members of the red, yelow and orange group
especialy members of the golden-brown fried group
bad fuds are members of the purple-green nexus of evil
no!
We just like springtime yo.
Actually, the girl was 2 weeks early, the middle one on time, and the boy 2 weeks late. Because we can't escape symmetry in any respect.
i dont understand your funny moon language.
i just started the other week
I have a more efficient strategy, which is to just forget the information as soon as I learn it.
Aren't you supposed to conceive in winter when there is nothing to do because it's too cold? Except you know, hunkering down for warmth.
don't say "You are living here, so therefore, you will have to do this"
that reminds me of one argument my parents used to pull out if for some reason it was unacceptable for me to go, I will do that thing yes, but no, I will not do it right fucking now. I will do it in twenty seconds, because I want to do it in twenty seconds and not now, and I can see no compelling reason to do it in five - which was "do you argue like this when your boss told you do things/when a superior officer tells you to do things?"
they never really got the difference between an officer, or boss, or them
the boss isn't demanding I do things because he can demand things - I have agreed to do the things he said. They're not demands then, they're basically questions I already said yes to.
I followed orders because of the same reason - there was an implied question in the beginning that I answered with, yes, I agree to follow orders
present it as a deal. There is a vast gulf of difference between mandatory rules that you have accepted and mandatory rules that are forced upon you.
Hell, even in the army, you can't force anyone to follow an order. You can force a person to do something, but that is not the same thing.
But scheck, sometimes avocado makes burgers taste better. We've done the math.
What about watermelon?
well said, you.
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